When you kick your child, you are actually slapping yourself in the face.

In the past few days, many friends have pushed the same video to me and wanted to ask my opinion. It was said that Ms. Song from Dalian and another parent took two girls to a certain restaurant for dinner. In the hotel, two children of the same age were playing together. The female college student at the next table thought the children were noisy, so she ran towards Ms. Song’s daughter and kicked her. Later, Ms. Song got into a fight with a female college student and slapped the clerk during the conflict. Afterwards, the girl\’s mother said that the female college student kicked her daughter\’s body and the stool, and she was eager to protect her daughter and hit her. The female college student said that she only kicked the chair, but admitted that she should not have been impulsive and was willing to apologize and compensate. In the end, the female college student and the girl\’s mother apologized to each other and reached an understanding. But the impact and inspiration the incident brought to us are worth exploring. Some people say that if you hit well, the \”bear\” child deserves to be hit. Please stop it first. This kid was judged to be a naughty kid who deserved a spanking just because he yelled a few times while playing hide and seek with his friends in a hotel. Is it tenable? Which child has never been so naughty, because after all, children are different from adults. It is difficult to control their emotions and will scream when they are excited. Therefore, the child is an innocent victim in the whole incident. Not only did he have to endure the fear of being kicked by adults, but he also had to endure injuries that were incomprehensible at this age in that chaotic conflict scene. Of course, the girl who hits is not a mother and will not understand her child\’s behavior. She got emotional and took action directly. Among this incident, the behavior of hitting the girl is the most worthy of reflection. Is she emotionally disturbed? Is she a heroic heroine who teaches \”bear\” children a lesson? No matter what, I think when you kick the child, you are actually slapping yourself in the face. Of course, the mother\’s failure to effectively manage her child\’s behavior was also one of the triggers of the incident. Educating children to adapt to public life and strengthening rule education are the responsibilities that parents must shoulder. When parents fail to do their job, problems can arise. In this whole thing, the child is an innocent victim, and we cannot label the child a \”bad kid\”. Instead, we should think more about the role of family education and the attitude an adult should have towards children. A mature adult will be kind to children and will talk to adults rationally when encountering such problems. If the hitting girl could unleash her anger on that mother. And if that mother still fights, I think everyone will be on her side. Because teaching a bear parent requires more courage and earns more respect. This is adults versus adults, and whatever you do will be understood. When your child disturbs others, someone kindly points it out. I think most parents will follow the advice and restrain their children\’s behavior. I remember that I took my son to eat Western food. When he saw the new tableware, he jumped up and down on the chair with joy. Then he shouted excitedly that he wanted to eat this and that. My cousin happened to be there that day. So he got under the table and crawled around. They will treat these places as caves and games. When I get excited, I don’t know if it’s a public place, and I even forget adults’ instructions. I kept patiently pulling him back to his seat, but it had little effect. When the waiter came to me and said, sir, please keep your voice down. I want it to affect everyone. No matter what, you can\’t let him have his way like thisson. So I pressed him on the chair and felt his little heart beating like a little lunatic. At this time, I told him: \”This is a place for everyone to eat. You need to eat quietly. If you can\’t do it, we will go home now and stop eating.\” At this time, he looked at me and said, It will be exciting again. I took him out and stood at the door for a few minutes. \”How do you feel now? Do you want to go to eat?\” \”Yes\” \”Then please eat quietly. After eating, you can go to the amusement park to play as much as you like, but not here.\” \”Okay\” and then replied When you get to your seat, you will no longer be as out of control as before. The whole world went quiet. I\’m not afraid that someone will kick him, but I feel that I can\’t be a \”bear\” parent who lets his children be beaten. Children are becoming familiar with the rules of this world little by little. Parents need to help their children understand the rules and follow them. In this way, many conflicts can be avoided. In the animal world, animal mothers will fight tooth and nail to protect their children. What about humans? Every mother will fight to the death to protect her children. The hitting girl faced two 4-year-old girls playing and making noise, but as an adult, she responded with \”kick\”. Even if what he kicked was a chair, he was already full of energy to teach the child a lesson. Every mother will fight for you. I remember the incident in April when a mother went berserk at the playground because a girl stepped on her one-year-old son. At that time, the mother lost control of her emotions and started fighting with people around her. After becoming a parent, the safety of your children has become the most important and untouchable bottom line in your heart. Therefore, the thing that can make parents burst out with amazing energy is when their children are in danger. It was an instinctive reaction, an understandable maternal instinct. When emotions come up, everyone is likely to become an \”out of control mother\”. Of course, no one can control the behavior when out of control. Because this is not acting, but a real burst of emotion. But no matter what, you still have to control your behavior. Because children who are at the center of a conflict will be afraid and confused. Is it my fault that my mother is so angry? The mother\’s hysterical roar frightened the child. Be sure to consider the psychological impact on the child. The best love is prevention, helping children understand social rules. Indulgence will only lead to violent confrontation. Especially when you encounter emotionally disturbed or unreasonable people, the risk doubles. The topic of \”bear\” children has been very popular in recent years. But we must see the truth clearly. In fact, it is the parents behind the children who should be educated the most. Changing parents is the root cause. Don\’t hurt a child under the guise of teaching a \”bad\” child. There are so many naughty children in this world. We cannot characterize or label a child just because of his temporary behavior. You can\’t call your child a naughty child or yell at him just because he cries because he doesn\’t adapt to the situation on the high-speed train. Even if there is a conflict between your own children and other children, adults must never take action. Many people will say that there are too many naughty children today, and they must be taught a lesson. But please put away your raised hand and leave the child to his own parents for education. Numerous facts show that adults’ violenceIntervention often makes things worse. As parents, we all know that children love games by nature. Children often vent their emotions and express their feelings in screams. Therefore, if there is a child in the house, it will feel very lively, but if the child is not present, it will seem deserted. Never expect that children\’s noises or cries will not be heard in public places, because this is the nature of children. However, we hope that when their children disturb others, their parents will stand by their side and tell their children the social rules they should abide by. Because in public places, social rules are more important than natural release. Parents should work hard to be effective parents and prevent their children from becoming a real \”bear\” child. And to those who do things to children, I want to say: Please respect the child and treat the child well. If something happens, please act like an adult. If you can\’t help it, please come to an adult.