Should you accompany your children to do their homework? How to accompany? The result is so different!

After dinner yesterday, I took Ruirui to my cousin\’s house to play. As soon as I entered the house, before I saw my cousin, I heard my cousin yelling at the top of her lungs: \”I\’ve told you so many times, don\’t look around when doing homework. Look at what you wrote in cursive script.\” ? Look carefully, is that what it says?\” My cousin-in-law saw that I was stunned, and quickly explained: \”Your cousin has been having a seizure recently, and she has to accompany her children to do their homework. Isn\’t that right? It\’s like this every day, and I can\’t finish this homework without a few quarrels.\” After saying that, the cousin-in-law went to the back room and called his cousin out. When my cousin saw Ruirui and I coming, she quickly squeezed out a smile and said, \”Oh, Ruirui, we are here to play. What a coincidence, Hanghang hasn\’t finished his homework yet. I\’ll play with you later.\” Before I finished, I angrily shouted to the back room: \”Hurry up and write, and then come out to play with Ruirui after you finish.\” I asked my cousin curiously: \”Why do you suddenly want to accompany your child to do homework?\” \”I can\’t do it without you, you I don’t know how hard this kid can go to write an assignment. If he doesn’t write until after 10 o’clock, that’s not his style! He won’t get up the next morning, unless he went to bed too late the night before and couldn’t get up. You Is it irritating to talk about this child? I thought, then I will watch him write, finish writing early and go to bed early to see if he has so many excuses? Who knows that it will be more irritating to see him doing homework. Look at this, then look at that, or just playing with the pencil tip in my hand. In short, I just can\’t do my homework honestly. I don\’t take it seriously when I write, the handwriting is sloppy, and there are a lot of mistakes. The more I read, the more I read. I’m so angry.” After listening to my cousin’s complaints, isn’t this an annoyance that almost every mother who accompanies her children to do homework will encounter? If you don\’t accompany your children to do their homework, the children will have poor self-consciousness. If they don\’t write well or speak well, the key is to have their parents sign it. If you do it with your children, you won\’t get used to it, and there will always be quarrels. So here comes the question: Should I accompany my children to do their homework? How to accompany? Once you understand these 3 points, it will be much easier for you! Return the responsibility for homework to the children. In fact, it is best not for parents to accompany their children to do homework at any time. It is a small thing to accompany children to do homework, but it is a big thing to make children feel dependent on their parents. Many parents may feel at first that their children are still young and don’t understand anything, so they need to stay with their children and give them some guidance. Some parents also find it strange that their cute little ones have to do homework now, so they want to accompany their children. Feel the freshness together. Unexpectedly, by being with them, the children will become dependent on their parents. Without the participation of parents, children can no longer do homework and seem to have lost interest in homework. As parents, we must first let our children know that homework is their own, just like small toys and schoolbags. It belongs to the child and not to the parents. Even if the child encounters a difficult problem to answer, just provide appropriate guidance. In the end, it was left to the child to decide whether to continue thinking or to ask the teacher for advice the next day. Therefore, it really doesn’t matter whether parents stay with their children or not. When children are very young, such as kindergarten, they may also encounter difficulties in completing small tasks alone. Adults only need to explain the meaning of the task to the child, and the rest will be done.Return to the child. Don\’t be afraid that they will make mistakes. In the process of making mistakes, children have already assumed their responsibilities and are fulfilling their responsibilities. I would also like to point out that you should not think that doing homework with your child is also a way of accompanying your child. This kind of companionship that encourages bad dependence habits is not good companionship. You can absolutely accompany your child to play games, tell stories, go on outings, etc. This kind of companionship is more efficient. Don’t rush to do your homework first. Don’t rush your children to do their homework as soon as they enter the house. This can easily make your children feel: Sure enough, you only care about my academic performance and don’t care about how wronged I have been outside. The children have also been tired for a day. They must be in a relaxed state when they get home so that they can better devote themselves to learning. Therefore, parents may wish to chat with their children first, or go for a walk. Ask their children in a caring tone: \”Did you have a happy day today? Did you encounter any problems?\” Then ask them naturally: \”Do you have a lot of homework today? Which subject has more homework? Which subject do you think will be more difficult? Do you want to do the difficult ones first or the easy ones?\” Don\’t underestimate these questions. In the process of asking questions, In fact, it is also helping the child sort out his thoughts and let him have an overall understanding and arrangement of today\’s homework before doing the homework. When he actually starts to do the homework later, he will not be in a hurry and aimless, and the efficiency will naturally be reduced. increased. Don’t underestimate the atmosphere of doing homework. Rui’s mother is a good friend. She has been excellent in both morals and academics since she was a child. Later she was admitted to Tsinghua University and then went abroad to continue her studies and received a double master’s degree in economics and sociology. And her parents are ordinary farmers, so it can be said that they have not helped their children\’s studies at all. Now my friend has become a mother, and her children’s grades are also quite good. Whenever someone asks her for advice on learning methods and parenting methods, she says: “Actually, the way I educate my children is more or less the same as the way my parents used to educate me. The method is that when my children are doing homework, I will not do anything that may make a loud noise. I will just stay aside quietly and read books, newspapers, or write. Just like when I was a child, I would During homework, my mother was knitting silently on the side. The quiet atmosphere allowed me to study with peace of mind.\” Studying really requires a quiet environment. Some parents may say, then I can just watch the head office quietly from the side, right? However, can you really do it? When you are watching your children do their homework like a supervisor, can you guarantee that once you find any problem, maybe the child\’s handwriting is not pretty, or the question is wrong, you will not say anything? The reality is very likely that while parents are helping their children to revise, they are also blaming and blaming their children: \”It\’s wrong again. Why don\’t you think clearly before writing?\” \”I\’ve said it so many times, but I just can\’t remember. Are you a fool?\” ?” This seemingly responsible approach is actually a great damage to children’s concentration. In this tense and anxious atmosphere, the child will be at a loss as to what to do. His only focus is on when the parents will leave. If the door to children\’s interest and energy cannot be opened, slowly they will become tired of learning. Still the same sentence, do itThe karma is returned to the children. After understanding the children\’s homework, they should let the children do it by themselves. Parents can read quietly beside them to create a quiet and good learning atmosphere for the children.