\”Just study and don\’t worry about anything else.\” How many children have been harmed by this sentence!

When we train our children, we are preparing them to enter society in the future. Children who can only study will find it difficult to thrive in society. Letting children take more responsibilities, be more independent, and know how to love and give is the best we can give our children. like. \”Just study and don\’t worry about anything else.\” When I was a child, I envied my neighbor\’s children. Even though they both had similar grades, she could go to the yard to swing on the swing after finishing her homework, while I had to help my grandma divide the yarn. After dinner, I can watch TV, and I have to help my mother wash the dishes. Just because her parents said to her: \”Just study and don\’t worry about anything else!\” When we were older and went to high school together, problems slowly emerged. Everyone was busy organizing activities in the class, but she never cared. She never knew how to reciprocate the kindness shown to her by her classmates. Over time, everyone felt that she was a selfish person. She is very painful about this, because many times, she also wants to give more, but she can\’t, can\’t do heart-warming things, can\’t say warm words. In fact, she can\’t be blamed for this. It\’s her parents who have always told her to only think about herself and not have to repay others. This kind of suggestion over the years has made a part of her heart covered with dust and dust. This skill is like a toy that has not been wound up for a long time and has completely lost its power. A spoiled child is like killing a child, \”Just study and don\’t worry about anything else.\” Parents who say this actually love their children and want to create the best learning environment for their children. But this kind of love is a narrow love. In addition to academic performance, the development of character, character, and habits are very important in a child\’s life. Children who \”don\’t care about anything except studying\” can easily be raised to be lame. Rabbit is limping and stumbling on the road of life. When you always say this to your children, in addition to making your children unreasonable, you also make several mistakes: Special treatment. If you often say this to your children, it means that you put your children in the family. In the center of the family, the family revolves around the child, putting everything first and taking care of everything. Such children will feel special and accustomed to being superior, and will inevitably become selfish, unsympathetic, and unconcerned with others. When children grow up, whether in social life, at home, or at work, they will shrink back when faced with difficulties and cannot bear the pressure, and the character they develop will become obstacles in their lives. Easily satisfy the children and give them whatever they want. In order to allow the children to study with peace of mind, they can also meet all other requirements of the children. Such children will develop a bad character of not cherishing things, paying attention to material enjoyment, and wasting money at will, not to mention having a hard-working spirit. Every parent understands that making money is not easy, and nothing comes easily. It takes hard work to gain anything. Children raised in this way will feel that everything is deserved, and they will lose their sense of gratitude for the kindness of others. I once asked some mothers whether they should ask their children to work. Some even said, \”I can\’t even bear the pain. How can I bear to let my children work?\” Others said, \”It\’s more troublesome to ask the \’little guy\’ to do things. It\’s better for me to help.\” He did it.” So three- and four-year-old children still have to be fed, and they don’t know how to dress.A six-year-old child has not done any housework yet. The child will grow up one day, and we will grow old one day. It is impossible to remove obstacles and pave the way for our children all our lives. Depriving children of their independence and not letting them do anything, depriving them of their ability to do things and face problems will result in children developing a dependent mentality, unable to communicate with others, withdrawn, domineering at home, and timid outside. Like a rat, it causes serious character flaws. When your child loses his independence, will you be able to trust your child to travel far away from you in the future? Independence, Responsibility and Love Some people always believe that children don’t need to do anything for their parents when they are young, they will understand when they grow up. This is a wrong idea. The process of learning cultural knowledge needs to be cultivated and exercised, and the development of character, habits and quality also needs to be cultivated and exercised. Encourage children to care about their families. Children who have just learned to write and draw draw a card to their mother. That is the best expression of love they can make. It should not be ignored but should be praised. When a child takes the initiative to bring slippers or pour tea for his parents, encourage him more. Knowing how to care and be filial to his parents is the first step to know how to love and give. Encourage children to participate in family affairs. Encouraging children to participate in family affairs not only allows children to learn to do housework, but also allows children to express their own opinions on what happens in the family. Don\’t treat it as child\’s play just because children are young. Most of today\’s children are precocious and very sensitive. Have opinions and insights. Children\’s opinions can be adopted appropriately, so that children can have a sense of honor and achievement, and have a sense of responsibility, responsibility, and sharing in the family. Encourage children to make more decisions. Don’t lock them in a small learning space. Let them look at the vast world outside. Children\’s own affairs are harmless and can be allowed to make their own decisions. This is to cultivate children\’s ability to face problems independently. The best love for children is in life. I am actually a person who loves children. But since kindergarten, Chenchen has helped me get books from the bookshelf and carry food. He has always carried his own schoolbag and tidied his room. , one day I am alone at home, he will still tell me in an old-fashioned way, \”Lock the door, don\’t open the door for anyone casually.\” He is very proud of being a little man, and being able to be an adult in front of his parents gives him a strong influence. A sense of honor and presence. Children need to know that their parents love them, and they also need to know that their parents need them too. This is doubly important for children. When we train our children, we are preparing them to enter society in the future. Children who can only study will find it difficult to thrive in society. Letting children take more responsibilities, be more independent, and know how to love and give is the best we can give our children. like.