Three misunderstandings about parent-child reading that more than 90% of parents make

Japanese documentary writer Kunio Yanagida said: \”A person needs to read picture books three times in his life. The first time is when he is a child, the second time is when he is raising his children, and the third time is when he enters the second half of his life.\” Before I had children, I had no idea what picture books were. Children\’s books were very monotonous when I was young, and it was difficult for people to fall in love with reading. Fortunately, after having children, I came into contact with picture books and entered a colorful world through the eyes of children. What is the meaning of parent-child reading? To answer this question, you can borrow the words of teacher Shuhua. She said: In my opinion, the core of parent-child reading is companionship. I personally do not pay attention to the results of reading. I regard the process of reading with my children as high quality. parent-child activity time. When I spend time with my child and concentrate on reading to her, what I care about is conveying the message \”I love you and I am with you wholeheartedly.\” As long as the child feels this part of the Tao, it is enough. As for the results, they are purely a \”by-product\”. When I don\’t care, I will gain a lot. Indeed, I have persisted in parent-child reading for five years, and I deeply feel the intimacy and happiness that this kind of companionship brings to my children and me. In the process of reading, my children have unknowingly developed many abilities that are beyond ordinary children, but they are unexpected surprise. However, many parents I have contacted have a more or less utilitarian mentality when it comes to parent-child reading, so much so that they put the cart before the horse and fall into the misunderstanding of reading. I summarized it, and there are three main points: 1. Trying to use the stories in the book to reason with the children. When many parents read to their children, they will consider: What kind of knowledge can this book bring to the children? What principles can be taught to children? Indeed, most picture book stories contain profound meanings. However, do these profound meanings need to be clearly pointed out to children? I think that when reading to your children, just read it exactly as it is. Never ask your children: Honey, what did you learn after reading this book? Or tell him directly: Baby, this book tells us that we must know how to share as a human being. Then he talked about a lot of truths. I strongly disagree with this approach. Think about it, when you have watched a good movie and are having endless aftertaste, someone suddenly asks you: What is this movie about? How do you feel? Or when you are standing in a beautiful scenery and are intoxicated, someone suddenly asks you: What is there to do there? Let’s talk about it. Didn’t you suddenly feel like you were ruining the scenery? Rousseau said in the book \”Emile\” that children\’s education before the age of 12 should focus on sensory education. After the age of 12, rationality begins to develop. At this time, children will be given knowledge, moral education, etc. to accept it. A child cannot understand your reasoning before he is 12 years old. He can only understand what he truly feels. For example, you always tell him, this glass of water is very hot, don’t touch it. He will look at you blankly, what is perm? Why can\’t you touch it? What does it feel like to be hot? It\’s useless no matter how much you tell him. Just take his hand and put it outside the boiling water cup to feel it. He will understand immediately. So I want to let children understand through this storytelling methodIt is difficult to share, to know how to exercise moderation, and to know how to concentrate. In fact, picture books are more like children’s friends and adults’ textbooks. For example, in the book \”Eat Your Peas\”, many people thought it was to teach children not to be picky eaters. However, after reading it, they discovered that it was not teaching children not to be picky eaters. You are obviously defending your child, but after watching it, doesn’t the child feel that picky eating is natural? There is also the book \”David Can\’t\”. Many parents immediately threw it aside after reading it, for fear that their children would learn David\’s various mischief behaviors. But why do children like it so much? Because the children saw themselves in the book and had a strong resonance, knowing that there is a child like themselves in the world, knowing that their behavior is normal, and knowing that they are not alone, they feel at ease and happy. For parents, these books allow them to see their children and themselves at the same time. They readjust their vision and attitude towards their children, and look at their children\’s various bad behaviors with a more peaceful attitude. The relationship between parents and children As a result, a closer relationship can be established. 2. Isn’t it just a picture book for the child to read by himself if he throws it to him? No! Mr. Matsui Nao said: Picture books are not books for children to read by themselves. They are books for others to read, and children receive the language with their ears. Picture books are generally books that combine pictures and text. When literate adults read picture books, they will choose to read the text first. What problem will this cause? That is, when you read the text and then look at the picture, there will be a time gap. In this way, the connection between the picture and the text is not so close, and it is difficult for us to form a vivid picture in our minds. But because the child is illiterate, he will only look at pictures. At this time, if you read words in his ear at the same time, a magical effect will occur – the words and pictures will be integrated, and the child will feel a living picture in his heart. These vivid feelings are different from when we watch TV or movies. Because picture books are composed of static pictures, to form this vivid and dynamic feeling in the mind requires children\’s imagination, and imagination is related to the child\’s cognitive level, so different children can read the same book , you can have different feelings. This unique feeling is much better than watching TV or watching movies. After the children know a lot of words, do they no longer need to read to them? Mr. Matsui Nao said that he had been reading to his children until they were teenagers. He said that adults have rich life experience and reading experience. When reading, they can fully understand the author\’s mood and thoughts, imagine the world depicted in the story through words, and even resonate with certain contents and be deeply moved. In this way, readers integrate their own connotation with the picture book, and can well convey the true meaning of the book and their own feelings to their children. So, if your child wants it, no matter how old he is, read it to him. 3. Only let children listen to audio stories. Some parents, because they are busy at work or are worried that their Mandarin is not up to standard, do not read to their children and directly turn on the radio to let their children listen to stories on their own. They don\’t know how much it costs to do soprice. Let me tell you a story: A mother was very busy at work for a while and was very tired when she got home. She was too lazy to read to her children, so she played audio stories from Himalayan Radio to her children. At first, the child liked it very much and she felt much more relaxed. A few days later, the child once again had to force her mother to read to her. She said: \”Baby, wouldn\’t it be nice to listen to the aunt on the radio telling stories? Auntie\’s voice is so sweet and she can tell stories much better than mom.\” The child hugged her mother and said aggrievedly: \”But, mom, aunt doesn\’t know how to hug.\” Tell me a story.\” After listening to the child\’s words, the mother\’s eyes immediately burst into tears. Yes, no matter how good the words of uncles and aunts on the radio are, they are not as warm as mother’s embrace! I haven\’t seen my mother all day, and I finally look forward to her coming home. What the child wants most is to be in her mother\’s arms, listen to her gentle voice, and enjoy the intimate time that only belongs to him and her mother. No matter how busy you are, or whether your Mandarin is standard, please hold your child and read to him attentively!