Worry is a curse to children

Sometimes, I have to be thankful that I am busy. I force myself to code every day, and I am \”entangled\” by my two babies every day. The remaining time is just enough for eating, drinking and sleeping. Therefore, I can sleep in seconds every time I go to bed, and I eat well, and I hardly have time to think too much. Many others. Sometimes after dinner in the evening, I would take Ning Ning for a walk downstairs, and I would often meet a mother in the next building. She always starts nagging about all kinds of worries about her children before she even has a word. She said her baby really didn\’t like drinking milk. Would it be a lack of nutrition? If she is not nourished enough, she may not be able to grow taller by then. Compared with her peers, she will easily feel inferior. If she feels inferior, it will affect her interpersonal relationships and her personality will be bad. It will also affect her ability to find a partner in the future… When she said this, I My jaw almost dropped. This is so relatable. From the time a child doesn\’t drink milk, he can associate it with the child\’s marriage. This brain circuit is so powerful. She looked worried. To be honest, I wasn\’t worried about the problems she mentioned, but I was quite worried about her. If your child is worried about everything, he will always be worried. This reminds me of a picture book \”Mrs. Meyer Takes It Easy\” that I read from time to time. It is very suitable to recommend to mothers who are worried and anxious all the time. Mrs. Meyer was always worried about this and that. Just now I was worried about the shaky button on my coat, and soon I was worried about the freshly made snacks – were there too few raisins? After a while, you may have to worry about the few hairs sticking up on Mr. Meyer\’s head. Mr. Meyer, for his part, was never worried. Every morning when he woke up, he saw Mrs. Meyer\’s worried face. He often said: \”What are you worried about? The sun is shining beautifully now, maybe it will snow soon, and we can\’t change anything.\” \”Yeah, I know.\” Mrs. Meyer said. However, just after she finished speaking, she began to worry again: If it snowed, would the bus carrying 90 tourists slip on the curve in front of her house? If the car overturns, those poor people who have traveled so long will definitely be hungry. Will the snacks she made be enough? There was a sunny hill behind Mrs. Meyer\’s house, which she said was a \”greengrocer\’s shop.\” One morning, Mrs. Meyer stood in the greengrocer\’s shop and began to worry about whether the sun would rise the next day. Without the sun, the sky would definitely become cold and dark, and vegetables would not be able to grow… Oops, as she thought about it, her face became clouded with sadness. This morning, she was bending over to see if the pumpkin had buds, and suddenly she noticed a little guy in front of her – completely naked, with its belly pressed to the ground, and its thick blue eyelids closed tightly. At this time, Mrs. Meyer was worried. She carefully picked up the bird, looked at it at a loss for a while, and hurried home. She searched around the house and finally found something that looked a bit like a bird\’s nest. \”I\’m going to raise it,\” she said to Mr. Meyer. \”As long as you like it,\” Mr. Meyer said with a smile. But it\’s not that easy. You know, if you want such a small bird to survive, you must constantly feed it flies, caterpillars and mosquitoes. The baby bird grew very quickly, and after two weeks, Mrs. Meyer discovered that her little birdIt\’s a Mouse! Of course, she also thought of a name for the little bird – let\’s call it \”Little Chirp\”. After a while, the little Jiujiu grew thick feathers. He loved jumping around in Mrs. Meyer\’s kitchen. One day while having breakfast, little Jiu Jiu fell off the table. Mrs. Meyer thought it was time to teach it how to fly. \”Gotta show it an example, that\’s what Father and Mother Bird do,\” she thought. Mrs. Meyer tried her best to look like Moxa\’s mother, but little Tweetie just squatted in the grass and stared at her in surprise. After struggling for a while, she lowered her arms sadly. Suddenly, she stood up and climbed up an old cherry tree with all her strength. Mrs. Meyer had never done anything like this before. So, when she carefully sat down on a thick branch, she was already out of breath from exhaustion. After a while, Mrs. Meyer was still breathing heavily. She took out the small Jiujiu from her pocket and placed it not far from herself. Then, she waved her arms hard, hoping that little Jiujiu would learn to flap her wings. But Xiao Jiujiu didn\’t do it. As before, she just stared at Mrs. Meyer in surprise, motionless. Mrs. Meyer dropped her arms feebly, disappointed. Should I not feed the chirping caterpillars? Or are the flies not fed enough? Oh my God, little Jiu Jiu is not a penguin, is he? If that\’s the case, how did it get here? Mrs. Meyer looked restlessly down into the little valley. Little Jiujiu also looked there. Mrs. Meyer looked toward the distant woods, then up to the sky. There were two clouds floating close together in the sky, and Mrs. Meyer felt a strange feeling in her heart. She took a deep breath, raised her arms again, and then – ah, unbelievable, she flew up from the branch! \”It\’s not difficult at all!\” she said to Xiao Jiujiu, her voice full of surprise. She didn\’t even expect it – it was so easy! She took a few breaths, then smiled and said to Little Jiu Jiu: \”Come on, let\’s try it together!\” They landed on the branch together (Mrs. Meyer\’s movements are much more skilled now). \”Isn\’t it great?\” Mrs. Meyer asked. Little Jiu Jiu felt great. They flew again. This time, they were able to fly a little longer, and even flew on the grass for a while. \”That\’s it for today,\” Mrs. Meyer said, and they landed together on the doorstep of their home. The next morning Mrs. Meyer didn\’t even bother to eat breakfast. \”We\’re going to the sky for morning exercises! We\’ll be back by lunchtime.\” She whistled at Mr. Meyer. On the last page, Mrs. Meyer is soaring under the boundless sky with her beloved little Jiujiu. You may have forgotten how bad her condition was at the beginning. There is a dark cloud hanging over my head every day. At its worst, half a page of the picture book was almost taken over by the dark cloud. Mrs. Meyer had something to worry about when it came to her. Her perspective on problems is always pessimistic and hopeless. It\’s just like us. We are always worried about our children\’s growth, their joys and sorrows, their children\’s interest classes, their children\’s grades… We are afraid that as a mother, we are not doing enough, and we are afraid of doing too much, and the whole day is dark. Densely covered, anxious and entangled. famous psychologyScholar Zeng Qifeng once said that if a certain degree of worry contains love, then excessive worry is tantamount to a curse. The more we fear something, the more it becomes a reality. If we don\’t care about it, it won\’t happen. Many times, what we over-protect and worry about is not our children, but our own souls that have been imprisoned, and the glass heart that has never been free. Mrs. Meyer began to change when she was busy taking care of little Jiu Jiu. Although she was still worried at first, when she put aside her distracting thoughts, took a deep breath, and stretched out her arms, she felt as light as a swallow. Jimmy wrote in \”The World Don\’t Worry About Me\”: I\’m worried that you are unhappy. Although I am often unhappy, I still hope that you will always be happy and have a bright smile every day. You are always worried about this and that, because there are too many uncertainties in the world and you are so insecure. But you have to grow up, learn to cope with it all, and say to yourself: Don’t worry, be happy. When we are particularly anxious and worried, please open this picture book and read it. Maybe we can be healed and our mood will become very different. In fact, it is not difficult to relax. As long as you let go of your obsessions and change your perspective, you will suddenly become enlightened and have a new life.