A child in captivity, his world is just a circle

Some time ago, there was a report in the American \”Overseas Chinese News\” that many international students were saddened by their inner melancholy and bitterness. Although many people are from well-off families and have no worries about food and clothing, they not only achieve nothing in learning, but also waste a lot of time and youth. They have not learned foreign languages ​​well, but have almost forgotten Chinese. They live in chaos abroad, and they are accompanied by Japanese. Online gaming day after day. Why do these children not grow up in foreign universities, but their minds deteriorate? This has to start with their domestic education. Many children are obsessed with the Internet because of the failure of real-life education and the lack of family emotions. Our education sometimes does not help children grow, but may more often constrain them. Focusing on scores and neglecting children\’s moral, physical, and aesthetic education has unknowingly become the educational outlook of many schools and families. There was once a lecture on the psychological characteristics of urban only children, which mentioned a point: Today\’s urban children have a very weak sense of reality. Children have a weak sense of reality in modern life. On the contrary, they only experience the sense of reality in the virtual world, and they have a sense of virtuality in the real world. This is their characteristic. What\’s going on? There is an example of two children playing with \”figures\”. They communicate online and create a sense of reality in the virtual world. The two children felt that the sincere communication in the online world was not enough, so they decided to meet offline. Who knew that after meeting in the real world, the two of them had nothing to say while sitting together. This feeling was too virtual, so it was better for the two to meet again online. Why can’t these children differentiate between reality and virtuality? Because their world has always been about book learning. After reading a hundred books, they may not have really walked one kilometer. All the real things that children do from childhood to adulthood have been replaced. They only know how to study hard, and our schools do not provide children with the possibility to deal with things. There are no other activities except studying and making up lessons. There is no connection with the world, no more outdoor activities, not enough friends, and no real emotional experience. In the heart of every child, there is a heart to explore the world, which needs to be expanded, initially by exploring around their parents, and then by walking in the vast world. But many families have already begun to keep their children in captivity before the seeds begin to germinate. When children are learning to walk and run, parents are afraid of falling, so they circle the child, tie the child\’s hands and feet, and restrain the child\’s mind. This not only saves time and worry, but also relieves the anxiety of adults, while the children become flowers in the greenhouse. Children who grow up in a greenhouse are accustomed to the environment around them. Even small changes will cause inner fear and anxiety. Fear often comes from the unknown, and the unknown is often accompanied by anxiety. These will make people feel out of control. The sense of control determines the space in which a person\’s self can extend. The scope of control is the boundary of the self. How far one\’s self extends depends on the extent of one\’s sense of control. For a child in captivity, his own boundaries are too homely and too simple, because the sense of control can only occur in a small space. Entering a large space will make him lose control. Therefore, there are quite a fewThe body of a child who has grown up has grown up, but his mind has stagnated. Mind is the expression of people\’s psychology and intelligence. It refers to the sum of people\’s ability to precipitate and store known things and realize motivation through biological reactions. Children with degenerated minds fail to form their own independent personality. When encountering unfamiliar environments, they regress to an infant state and become super nerds, just like the eternal babies shrunk in the womb. Even if he is placed in the vast world, he can only be limited to his own small world and dare not step out even half a step. Children who are kept in captivity have their minds accustomed to being kept in captivity. For a child in captivity, his world is just a circle. In China, many parents try their best to ensure that their children can go to a good school. But there is a mother in Australia who believes that real education does not lie in the location of the school, because the world is the child\’s school. Since 2012, Ruth has traveled to 65 countries with her son Louis. At first, Ruth would ask her son to do some exercises every day during the trip. Later, Ruth realized that children can actually learn from everything. For example, they learn mathematical operations in currency exchange, and even guide children to make budgets and learn the rational allocation and use of money; they learn geography when participating in the formulation of journey routes; and in interacting with local people, they learn about the customs and languages ​​of various places. ; And humanities and history are directly immersive, experienced in every historical monument and landscape. We can read a hundred books, but we can also experience the real world immersively. The mother said she did not deny the role of schools. But what she wants to tell parents more is: children\’s learning and growth should never only happen in the classroom. During the journey, his son has grown a lot. He took the initiative to launch an online fundraiser for children in poor areas, sent warmth to disabled buskers, and learned about equality and respect in loving and being loved. We often say that reading thousands of books is not as good as traveling thousands of miles. It means not only reading, but also experiencing and feeling the knowledge learned in real life, and living in reality. What you learn while sitting in the classroom is the accumulation of knowledge; what you experience in life is the growth of your mind. Children with mature minds are stronger because their inner world is stable and flexible, and their self-boundaries are rich and fluid. Bringing a child into a wider world is a blessing to his life.