The cultivation of parents is the education of children

A few days ago, another incident involving passengers going crazy at the airport occurred. Dr. Zhang Dan (pseudonym) and his family of three came to Wuhan Tianhe Airport to check in. She said she was going abroad to attend an important meeting and must take this flight. After many unsuccessful attempts to communicate, something shocking happened. Dr. Zhang Dan suddenly rushed into the counter and slapped the check-in attendant hard on the face. The check-in clerk subconsciously covered one side of his face to avoid it, but Dr. Zhang Dan did not stop and slapped the check-in clerk again in the face. At the end of the video screenshot, she admitted her mistake and was sentenced to administrative detention for 10 days in accordance with the law. I couldn\’t attend important meetings at all, and I was added to Air France\’s blacklist, which damaged my reputation. After watching the video of the scene, we will find that a boy who is estimated to be about eight or nine years old has been watching behind her. I think the psychological impact of this incident on the children must be greater than the loss of this meeting. Screenshot of the video, the little boy stood behind and watched a mother who should have made him proud. But he punched a girl checking in at the airport. To be honest, I would be embarrassed if my mother hit someone like this. Once you have this feeling about the mother who gave birth to you. It is actually very painful for children. Because children have a natural psychological attachment relationship with their parents. If you make a mistake, I will suffer too. When you lose your temper and hit someone in front of your child, remember that your child is watching. When you forget about respect and trample on the rights of others, are you thinking about the impact on your children? All along, especially after becoming a father, I have been paying more attention to my words and deeds when I take my son out. Respect for others is an important character we need to teach our children. Those arrogant and rude children often lack good tutoring. They are often influenced by their parents. A friend in kindergarten told us a story before. There was a boy in their class who often beat his classmates in the garden, hitting anyone who didn\’t obey him. Once, he even grabbed a girl by her hair and dragged her to the ground. The teachers were all frightened. How could such a young child be so cruel? The head teacher called the child’s mother’s phone number. On the phone, the child\’s mother said that there was a meeting now and she didn\’t have time. Dead with a bang. When she called her the second time, she said impatiently, \”I pay 4,000 to 5,000 yuan a month to teach, just for you little kindergarten teachers to have fun with. It\’s not easy at all.\” The communication was fruitless, and finally the principal I did a home visit in person. As a result, the principal was criticized again, saying that he did not understand the characteristics of the children, and that the kindergarten was irresponsible and failed to teach the children well. This was the case with their children, and he was also threatened with refunding the tuition fees. In the end, the principal made the decision and the child was expelled from school. This friend said that it would be okay if he worked hard and tired, but he was just afraid that he would not be respected and his work would not be understood. Faced with this situation in the boy\’s family, there was nothing to say. Because there are really many such people in this society. They have natural advantages, with good economic foundation and social status. You know, the mother who hit someone at the airport this time was still a doctoral student. Those who feel they have natural advantages tend to inflate themselves. That’s why Liu, the female anchor who caused a big fuss at Beijing Capital Airport beforeHaving such an arrogant attitude, shouting \”Don\’t you know me?\” People with such a mentality often feel that they are great and look down on ordinary staff. Therefore, we will see many guests slapping the table, scolding the waiter, or even hitting the waiter. You can also see some parents pulling their children and whispering, don\’t play with these children, they are not good enough. If children are not taught to respect others, they will become accustomed to giving orders to others and feel that they are superior to others. I feel that my family’s money and power can absolve me of my sins and mistakes. So he invades others at will and behaves wantonly. Such children will be severely educated sooner or later. This airport incident also showed us the lack of \”awareness of rules.\” Airport check-in time regulations are set to ensure the safety of passengers. But this mother ignored this rule and allowed herself to get angry. According to the mother herself, her son had a fever and her husband gave him a bath to cool him down. Then he ran into a traffic jam and missed the boarding time. It can be seen that this is my own fault and has nothing to do with the airport or the staff who follow the procedures. Our Chinese society is a humane society. Everyone likes to say, \”Be accommodating and help!\” When saying this, they are extremely kind. And once I succeeded, I felt secretly happy. But when someone is rejected, they often get angry. They used harsh words and swear words a lot, and even got into fights. In many cases, maybe you really get \”back door\” accommodation through various relationships or your own abilities. It was also successful to some extent. The rules were trampled underfoot. But how many unruly tragedies have occurred over the years? Those who got off the train at Huyuan, were bitten to death by tigers after climbing over the wall into Huyuan, and were run over by cars after climbing over the tracks are all real-life examples that have happened recently. Isn’t it enough to awaken your reason and sense of rules? A person\’s sense of rules is established at home from the very beginning. In addition to helping their children develop good living habits and character education, parents also need to help their children establish a sense of rules. When faced with choices or conflicts, parents\’ words and deeds are the best teaching materials. Some time ago, I planned to take my son to Shanghai Disney. My friend joked, \”You don\’t know about that popular event, why are you still going?\” It turned out that actor Huang Xiaolei posted a long post on her personally certified Weibo account to condemn the relevant staff, saying that her daughter would not be allowed to play the \”Seven Dwarfs Mine Car\” amusement ride. Shanghai Disney claimed that their daughter was less than 97 centimeters tall and did not meet the safe height standard for participating in the attraction. They also forced their way into the attraction and scratched the cast members, causing the attraction to be suspended for a period of time. When you take your children to Disneyland, they must be there to have fun, not to measure their height. We can accept this celebrity mother’s disappointment and incomprehension. But conflicting with the staff is a bit excessive. I said it\’s okay, let\’s go and have a look. The little guy has been looking forward to it for a long time. We spent a long time queuing that day. The first stop was the Leiming Mountain rafting project. It said that the height of the children was required to be above 107 cm. I thought that my son\’s height was exactly 107 centimeters, so I was eager to try. But when measuring,Only hair could touch the thread, and the staff simply said no. The little guy looked at me expectantly. I told the staff, \”It\’s almost done, we\’ve reached the line, is that okay?\” \”Really not, we can\’t guarantee safety. I\’m really sorry.\” I could only tell my son that he couldn\’t play because your height didn\’t meet the standard. As soon as he heard this, his sad little eyes burst into tears. But I still led him out. I knelt down and told him, \”Because there is a height requirement for this, and you are still a little short, dad will bring you to play next time.\” He was still not happy. \”These are rules. We all must abide by them. We cannot violate them, because violating them will be very dangerous. For example, you will be thrown into the water, which is terrible. Let\’s go play a pirate ship.\” \”Okay!\” Then he dragged his tiredness. body to move on to the next project. After returning home, he told his grandma that he couldn\’t do rafting because he was a little shorter. Children can actually accept rules, but parents sometimes insist on breaking them. These small conflicts remind us as parents. Cultivation of respect for others and sense of rules. Parents are their children\’s most important teachers. It can be said that the cultivation of parents is the education of children. Two days ago, many media reported on the wedding of Princess Kate\’s sister Pippa. The wedding was grand and luxurious, but the media captured an interesting little detail: the flower girls stood in front of the arch to welcome the newlyweds, and little Prince George served as the flower girl. One of the boys suddenly walked up behind the bride\’s aunt and stepped on her wedding dress. After Princess Kate saw it from the sidelines, she immediately pulled George and her daughter Charlotte away, and in a small corner, she began to teach her son a serious lesson. A few simple shots allow us to see the enlightenment given to us by a cultured mother: Whether it is a royal family or a commoner, whether it is a boy or a girl, the discipline of children is necessary. So, no matter what your status is. When it comes to educating children, you still need to spend more time studying and reflect on yourself all the time. We often have wonderful expectations for our children\’s future. Then you must first look at your own cultivation and knowledge to see if you are moving in this direction.