No care is the best care for children

In the recently popular TV series \”Ode to Joy 2\”, five beauties have become a hot topic. Parents who interfere too much with their children have also caused a lot of trouble to handsome boys and beauties. Fan Shengmei’s parents are the worst. The mother who favors sons over daughters relies on squeezing her daughter to support her ignorant son and daughter-in-law. She does not hesitate to resort to the cruel trick of depriving herself of rice and food to force her daughter to give money to her son. The son and daughter-in-law have normal intelligence and good health. They have an old man on top and a child on the bottom. Not only are they unable to support the whole family, but they can\’t even support themselves. They have to rely on their sister to survive. The fact that Fan Shengmei\’s brother and sister-in-law became like this is directly related to her mother\’s overindulgence. In other words, it was my mother who made my brother what he is today. If the mother doesn\’t condone it, will the brother be too demanding and push the envelope? If the mother doesn\’t care, Fan Shengmei\’s brother has nowhere to seek refuge. He can only survive by being self-reliant. How can a grown man not be able to support himself? Guan Guan\’s mother always paid close attention to her daughter, as if her daughter would never grow up. During the Spring Festival, he forced his daughter to go on a blind date, and later ordered her to go on a date over the phone. My daughter has just had a boyfriend, and as parents, we need to meet and review it before we feel comfortable. The arrival of his parents brought trouble to Guan Guan, who had just fallen in love. Guan Guan just wanted to fall in love, and she never thought about whether they would get married or whether they could be together in the end. But her mother thinks that her daughter should think about getting married once she falls in love. Otherwise, if the negotiation doesn\’t work out, won\’t she be hurt? As Guan Guan said, when a girl reaches a certain age, she has to get married and have children step by step, and her life is too boring. Guan Guan\’s mother does not believe in her daughter\’s vision and ability to deal with the world, and is worried that she has been deceived. With a mother like this, I don’t even have the chance to grow up. Qu Xiaoxiao\’s mother never interfered with her daughter. Although they were in the same city and her daughter said she wanted to move out and live alone, she was relieved and gave her child absolute freedom. When my daughter grows up, she is allowed to make her own decisions on everything, including falling in love and finding a boyfriend. I would never arrange a blind date for my daughter. In other words, girls like Qu Xiaoxiao don\’t need to go on a blind date at all. The boyfriend her daughter is looking for must be a good one. She believes in her daughter\’s vision and ability. I won\’t worry about my daughter being cheated. Only a mother who lets go as soon as possible can raise a rich second generation like Qu Xiaoxiao who is quirky and has high EQ and IQ. All parents in the world love their children, but sometimes parents\’ love can become a fetter or even a drag on their children. Parents who let go at the right time can give their children the best love. Parents are used to arranging, controlling, and restricting, but they don\’t understand that no matter whether the child is an adult or not, no matter what, is the best way to control. The same applies to younger children. Once a few good friends had a dinner together with their children. The children are similar in age, the younger one is six or seven years old, the older one is eight or nine years old. Whatever they want, their mother will buy it. It is obviously an exception. The eight-year-old boy wanted to eat something. He took his mobile phone and scanned the QR code to pay via WeChat. His mother was very worried. Aren’t you worried about your children eating too much junk food? Aren’t you worried about your children playing games on their mobile phones? Aren\’t you worried about being cheated? We voiced our concerns. What\’s there to worry about?? Children who have entered primary school already have a certain degree of consciousness. In fact, for example, junk food and playing games, it is precisely because you control them at all times that children will be full of yearning for these things, and even be fascinated by them. If you guide your children appropriately when they are very young, they will lose their curiosity and not get deeply involved. Just like he uses his mobile phone to buy things by himself, and buys what he wants to eat. At first, I got tired of eating chicken chops, chicken legs, hamburgers and fries for several days in a row. Later, I rarely ate these things anymore. In fact, this friend used to be a mother who took care of everything. She is in charge of everything, but the child does not do what she wants. On the contrary, she controls everything, but the child does not do that. In the past, children always liked to go to bed late, watch cartoons, dawdle, and never did their homework well. I got up late the next day and took out my homework to write. Sometimes I was late because of it. Why not finish your homework and then play? Wouldn’t it be more fun and relaxing to play like that? She made a rule that all homework must be done before playing. Watch cartoons for only twenty minutes a day. Go to bed on time at nine o\’clock. But children\’s thinking is different from adults. The child has his own way of dealing with her. When I was doing my homework, the writing was extremely sloppy, especially when I was doing math problems, I was writing all over it. For multiple-choice questions, I didn’t even look at the questions, I chose them directly, and I finished all the homework in just a few minutes. If he is not allowed to watch cartoons, do you think he will learn obediently? I went to turn on the computer again to play games. After being banned, she would play basketball at home again. My mother was afraid of disturbing the neighbors, so she had to surrender. The child\’s mind is not on studying at all. If the child is forced to study, even if he sits obediently at the study table and faces the textbook, he will not learn at all. Arguing and debating hysterically with my children every day has no effect, no results, and it affects my mood in vain. She simply ignored it and left the education of her children directly to her husband. The way her husband educates her children is completely opposite to hers. Don\’t care about the children. Children can do whatever they want. I just ask him that when the teacher criticizes him, he should not make excuses such as saying that he forgot to bring his homework, just tell the truth. When you are tired from watching TV, don’t forget to do eye exercises and look far away often. If you want to eat or buy something, ask your parents for money and buy it yourself. If this continues, won\’t the children become lawless? She thought the same way at first, how could she ignore the child? If not, what will it look like? In the first few days, the child bought a lot of toys. However, they are all very cheap and none are too expensive. My parents also have a hard time making money, and I don’t want our family to go bankrupt. He said. In the first few days, I didn’t write a word of homework. Playing games, watching TV, and having fun for a few days. Of course, he was criticized by the teacher in school and made to stand. I started to do my homework consciously. I started writing this after watching the cartoon and playing the game for a long time. Sometimes I don’t go to bed until after 12 o’clock. Just played freely for a few days. I\’ve finished watching the cartoons I wanted to watch, and I don\’t love games as much as before. No one cares about them, but I don\’t like them as much as before. A week later, it was back to normal schedule. It\’s just that writingKarma becomes self-conscious. There is no need for parents to force it to turn off when watching TV or playing computer games. I no longer think about toys obsessively, I have bought everything I wanted. He was not willing to buy the things he wanted that he didn\’t buy. Whatever you want to eat, even if it is delicious food, it will be tasteless if you eat it every day. The reason why children like and miss it is because they can never get what they want. I told him about the impact of junk food on the body, and I would never buy it secretly with my pocket money like before. Later, my husband directly deposited several hundred yuan into the child\’s WeChat account. If he wanted to buy anything, he could just pay via WeChat. With full trust in the child, he would have self-control and become more conscious. In the eyes of many parents, regardless of whether their children are adults or not, parents have countless worries and fears. However, if you don\’t let go, your child will never grow up. Your control suppresses the child\’s consciousness. If your child doesn\’t feel free, he will resist. He is not against you, but just fighting for his own rights. Early exercise will cultivate his ability to interact with others, and will also cultivate his self-control. There is a saying often said by education experts: free children are the most conscious. Moderate care is the best care for your children.