In marriage, what is really difficult for women is not having children.

I had a caesarean section. After the baby was born, I was pushed into the ward. My husband arrived at the hospital a few hours later. When he walked to the bed, he didn’t lower his head and said, “Thank you, my wife.” He didn’t ask me if the operation was painful. Then he looked at me. I looked at the baby next to me and smiled softly and said that the baby was chubby and cute. I also smiled. Then the doctor came over, lifted up my clothes, exposed the laparotomy wound, and then used a sandbag to press my stomach to drain the accumulated blood. I could feel the pain in my abdomen to the point of numbness, and then the heat of the blood flowing out of my lower body. To be honest, , it really hurts. I can’t see if my husband’s eyes show distress, but if I can see no pain, my heart must hurt more than the wound on my abdomen. Four days later, I was discharged from the hospital and returned home. My body was recovering well. There was hot water boiled with mugwort at home for me to bathe. Although I could stand up and walk, it was more difficult to recover from a vertical wound than a transverse wound. , are more likely to be injured. When taking a shower, I have to take off my clothes, put on clothes, bend down to soak the towel, wring it out and wipe my body, wash the towel and wring it out… At first I thought it was difficult for me to do it alone. I asked my husband to help me take a shower. My husband said, \”Just move a stool and sit on it.\” I said, \”Okay, I\’ll give it a try.\” Indeed, it was nothing but pulling on the wound and causing pain. The paternity leave time passed quickly. I said that I couldn’t bear for my husband to leave me and the baby. I held the baby in my arms and took him to the station to get on the bus. I watched the bus drive away. My husband didn’t look back at me and the baby. , my heart really hurts. I feel like my home has become warmer after having a baby, and my longing for the family to be together is as urgent as my longing for three meals a day. After my husband left, I cried silently for a long time. I wanted to recover quickly, raise my baby well, and reunite my family as soon as possible. This may be the first time in my life that separation is particularly uncomfortable. It hurts my heart. After my husband went to work, there were a few days when my mother had to be busy. She prepared breakfast for me in the morning and asked me to heat up a meal for myself at noon. I might come back later in the evening. I agreed. But I didn’t eat lunch at all. I take care of the baby 24 hours a day. During the day, the baby cries and clings to me. When he falls asleep, I also want to catch up and take a nap. Mom eats at eight or nine. I came back after dinner and heated up the rice for me. I was really hungry and I ate very happily. During the video call at night, I looked at my husband\’s face and cried. I missed him so much. Then my husband ended the video and sent me a message saying not to cry. He didn\’t want to see me cry. I said it when I got emotional. He said a few words, and my husband replied to me and said, \”It makes me very upset when I see me crying.\” Mother\’s Day is coming soon, and I told my husband that I would call my mother that day to say hello, and then I ordered a silk scarf to give to my mother. On Mother\’s Day, the silk scarf was delivered at the right time, and my husband also called my mother to greet me, but he forgot that it was also my first time to celebrate Mother\’s Day. I waited for a day, looking forward to a greeting from my husband. After all, the baby was just one month old, and his excitement of becoming a father for the first time should not fade so quickly. He also remembered that I was also a first-time mother. In fact, even if it is just a message saying \”Honey, this year \”You also celebrate Mother\’s Day\” is enough, but unfortunately, there is really nothing. The baby is almost two months old, and the two of usMy family discussed having a wedding after the baby was born, and my husband said it was up to me to arrange it however I wanted. My family said that ten relatives would come to send me the bride. My husband said that among the hundreds of families that want to marry their daughters, it is rare to find a family that requires so many people to send the bride. , saying that my family is deliberately making things difficult. I said that I was going to talk to a wedding company. My mother said that since the baby was already born, the wedding should be done casually. I said that husband, you should come back early to prepare some things. My husband said that you can just come back two days before the wedding. The rest Just know the things. Later, I gave myself a wedding, and I should be proud to say that I am very self-reliant and independent. Three months ago, I went to the neurology department for a check-up, and various emotional reactions combined with the brain neurotransmitter disorders checked by the hospital confirmed that I had Postpartum depression. My husband came back that afternoon without going to work. He told me that he had taken a month off to accompany me. I was waiting for him in the shopping mall. He held my hand and took me to eat. After ordering, he kept staring at me, pouring me water, serving me rice, picking up vegetables for me, and asking me if I was full? What did I want to do in the afternoon? I said I didn’t know, and when I passed the KTV, he said, didn’t you love singing before? Can I sing with you? Then we really sang in the KTV all afternoon. When I got home at night, my husband hugged me tightly and said in my ear, \”I\’m sorry, husband, I\’m sorry for you. I will spend my whole life repaying you for the injustice you have suffered. I just ask you to get better soon.\” I really can\’t hide my feelings. Emotions couldn\’t hide my grievances, so I cried loudly for a long time. My husband accompanied me on a trip to Qingdao, and I took photos of him at the beach. But he ran behind me and hugged me, hesitating and saying: \”I have suffered so many grievances, why didn\’t I choose to leave him?\” I told him that I had made countless preparations to leave, but I couldn\’t. Remember our vow to support each other throughout our lives. You have your inconsideration, and I have my radical and unreasonable emotions. I don’t want to not give each other a chance to apologize and repay during the most difficult year after childbirth. My husband was very dull, but after hearing what I said, he hugged me tightly and said, \”Meeting me is the luckiest thing in his life.\” When I said this, I said to my husband: \”Actually, you can focus more on your work. If you could discover the grievances I suffered from the beginning and know how to express your gratitude with words and actions, I would be able to control myself better.\” My mood is good and I won’t argue with you. Now, the reason why you stopped your work to accompany me is because you saw that I was hurt, and this hurt was largely caused by you. I understand that you are a new human being. I feel strange about my father, but I also hope you can understand the grievances and hurts I endured as a first-time mother. I don’t believe that postpartum depression is something every mother has to endure. I believe that if my husband can understand and love me more, he will definitely It can reduce the chance of postpartum depression. You need to know how much courage a woman has to risk her life to give birth to a child for you. During the period of pregnancy, childbirth, and childbirth, the hormonal changes in the body will make the body It has a very subtle effect. As a husband, if you don’t know how to understand, take care of, and be grateful to her, then you cannot ignore the determination of modern women to pursue equal treatment in their marriage and love life. Fortunately,,The knowledge structure, income level and social status of women in society now give women more choices. But at the same time, I would like to say that on the road of love, leave more understanding to the people you love, and don\’t easily forget the reason why you chose to be together in the first place, let alone forget that we are a family now. I hope that my husband can understand that the way home after get off work must be the way home. The prerequisite for a harmonious family must be to understand his wife first. The shortcut to a happy family must be to put family first. For Father\’s Day this year, I made an emoticon using a photo of my baby, with the caption \”Dad, you are the best!\” I sent it to my husband early in the morning. My husband got up and kissed my forehead as usual, and then opened the On my mobile phone, I saw the encouragement from my baby, hugged me and said, \”Wife, meeting you is the luckiest thing that ever happened to me!\” As a woman, if you choose to be together because of love, then you should try to manage your emotions well during the critical period. , feel sorry for the man you have chosen to accompany you for life, understand that he is also a father for the first time, be tolerant when he does not do well, and encourage when he does well. A good marriage is about sharing burdens and growing together.