The way the child looks today reflects the hard work of the father yesterday.

The German philosopher Fromm said: \”The father is one of the children\’s mentors. He shows the child the way to the world.\” My understanding is that showing the child the way to the world is nothing more than helping the child develop a specialty, help Children find a role model to help them form high-quality thinking. Every child has the shadow of his father’s hard work. Daughter Lulu has thrived under the inspiration and influence of her father since she was a child. What follows is the story of their father and son. 01 Features On winter weekends, the whistling north wind blows against the window. Just hearing it makes me feel bitingly cold. The father smiled and asked his 6-year-old daughter: \”Lulu, do we still go to the English Corner in such a cold weather?\” There was a hint of provocation in his tone. go! Lulu answered without hesitation. At the same time, he stared at his father with sly eyes, which was clearly saying: As long as you are not afraid, I am not afraid. So, Dad got on the bicycle, Lulu sat on the back, and they went to the \”fighting ring\” in the English Corner. In the \”battle ring\”, one student goes on stage first, and the students in the background ask questions in Chinese based on what they have learned. The students on the stage answer in English. If they don\’t know or answer incorrectly, they will leave the stage, and then the student who just asked the question will take the stage. , answer your own questions and take questions. Winter turned to spring for three years, and the children seemed to be filtered by the four seasons. Many people gave up in the severe cold and heat, but Lulu never stopped. Later, once Lulu came to power, no one could defeat her. She became an English starlet. Many parents ask: How did Lulu learn English? In fact, the secret is simple: never be absent. Never absent, on the surface it is the child\’s business, but in essence it is a test for the parents. Because if parents firmly believe that they must go, their children will also be infected. Children of several years old do not understand many principles of life. He was led by his parents to see the world. If parents can never be absent, their children will naturally never be absent. However, many parents cannot do this. People often mistakenly think that this is the child\’s problem, but in fact it is the parents who are lazy. Lulu said that it was her father\’s tenacity and perseverance that made her special. For any child\’s interest to develop into a specialty, it requires persistent training, which requires long-term persistence and guidance from parents. It’s common to hear parents complain about their children’s three-minute learning curve, or euphemistically say, “It’s good for the children to be happy.” In fact, most of the children who give up their interests halfway are caused by the lack of firm will of the parents. As long as parents are determined, no matter what difficulties and obstacles they encounter, there will always be a way to solve them. If a child has a specialty, he will have advantages and competitiveness in future life. 02 After graduating from primary school, role model Lulu was promoted to a well-known local middle school. One evening before she entered school, when we walked through the school gate together, she suddenly said: Mom, I feel a bit like a great man. We intellectuals must learn from great men. Intellectual? Is this what a primary school graduate said? I sighed: Her father is so thoughtful! It turned out that since Lulu could read, her father had been buying her various biographies of great people. The \”Biography Series of World Great People\” has a total of 40 books, including Confucius, Washington, Marie Curie, Lincoln, Napoleon, Beethoven, Nightingale, and Edison, Andersen, Marco Polo, Nobel, Columbus, Genghis Khan, Newton, Einstein, Darwin, Sima Qian, Bill Gates, Shakespeare, Copernicus, etc. Dad moved them all back home and placed them on Lulu\’s bookcase. From then on, they became Lulu\’s spiritual food. No matter before going to bed or when she was free, Lulu would take out one and read it carefully. At the same time, Dad often discussed the deeds of great men with Lulu, and sometimes the description of details would cause Lulu to refute. Lulu said that she became obsessed with reading because she particularly liked the feeling of being more knowledgeable than her father. Gradually, not only did she form a good habit of reading, but most importantly, she met people she respected in the book. A few days ago, at the undergraduate graduation ceremony of Peking University, Professor Rao Yi said in his speech: Be someone you respect. On the day of retirement, you feel that you are worthy of respect in your career; in your twilight years, you feel that you are worthy of respect in life. . So, what does the person you respect look like? Who do children respect? And this person is different at different ages. The sooner parents help their children find the first \”him\”, the clearer their children\’s future goals will be. This person can be a great person around him, such as representatives of various famous families, such as Li Ka-shing, Fok Ying-tung, Rockefeller, etc. Their stories are widely circulated in the family and set examples for future generations. For ordinary families, the easiest way is to let their children read biographies of great people. The child himself will choose among them, either a certain person or several people with different qualities to combine to form a better person and become a role model in the child\’s mind. Once they have the first role model, in the days to come, the children will continue to meet better role models, thereby constantly improving themselves and slowly getting closer and closer to the role model. In her self-recommendation letter for self-enrollment, Lulu once described herself this way: “I have loved learning since I was a child and loved reading and reading newspapers, so I got to know many amazing people. From them, I continue to learn the value of human nature and continue to learn from them. Exploring the key to realizing the value of life. Art and learning are interlinked. When I look at Michael Jackson, I don’t scream “Michael” loudly, but I ask myself more than once: Why is he so successful? Hillary, I heard this countless times She never tires of telling her stories, and her \”toughness\” often awakens me. I admire General Patton\’s \”brave, courageous, always courageous\” quality, and I am amazed that he \”seems to be the only one who really enjoys the fun of this damn war.\” . He can be crazy about war, but I should spare no effort to pursue my own aspirations and yearnings!\” The French writer Rousseau once said: \”Example! Example! Without an example, you can never successfully teach children anything.\” With that. A child who is a role model is like having a guiding light on the road to growth. It allows children to understand who they want to be, what path they want to take, and how to take it, so they can take the initiative to move forward. And life is completely different between proactively moving forward and passively moving forward. 03 During the Thinking College Entrance Examination, Lulu’s score in the liberal arts comprehensive examination was close to the highest in the province. Her politics teacher commented: Lulu is better at politics than me. At the same time, she participated in various interviews, speeches, debates and presentations.He can be both knowledgeable and quick-thinking in his words. As the saying goes, a drop of water cannot penetrate a stone in a day. Our family has always had such a \”non-academic\” atmosphere. Every evening at seven o\’clock, Lulu and her father would watch the news broadcast together. They watched and discussed. At first, when my father saw interesting content, he would expand it and tell it to Lulu, from domestic events to international disputes. There is a map of China and a map of the world posted on the wall of our house. It is common for them to look at the map and point out the country: what happened somewhere, the cause and effect… The children are very interested in hearing this. Slowly, Lulu became more and more interested in news and international current affairs, and formed her own unique opinions on various cases through discussion and thinking. Whenever she talked about major domestic and international events, she would talk about them in an organized and eloquent way. . In recent years, the proposition thinking of college entrance examination questions has changed from \”knowledge conception\” to \”ability conception\” and \”realistic problem conception\”. In other words, the exam is increasingly focusing on testing students’ ability to comprehensively apply basic knowledge to solve practical problems. Keeping an eye on hot news from an early age, understanding and discussing international and domestic events, as well as social issues and people\’s livelihood issues, is to enhance children\’s sense of social responsibility and national pride, and to train children\’s ability to think independently and solve practical problems. It is a kind of wisdom to lead children to learn and understand the world. Only children with a broad vision can move forward rationally and get along with the world better. Only children who have been looking at the world and thinking deeply for a long time can slowly develop high-quality thinking. As the saying goes, real education is to fight for your father. Behind an outstanding child, there must be countless time and efforts put in by the father. People often say that education is about cultivating children\’s good habits. However, children\’s good habits first come from their parents\’ good habits. No child can become a genius by himself. The story of my friend’s son is quite memorable. A friend\’s son, 6 years old, didn\’t study well one day and was criticized by his friends. As a result, I heard my son say to himself: \”There are three kinds of birds in the world, one flies first, one flies last, and the most annoying one is that it doesn\’t fly itself, but lays an egg and lets the egg fly.\” \”So, when you want your children to form a certain habit, you must first work hard to establish the corresponding habit at the same time. Feng Lun said that history will not separate any generation. In the same way, history will not be separated from any of Dad\’s efforts. The way the child looks today reflects the hard work of the father yesterday. Similarly, how much effort the father put in today will also be seen in the future appearance of the child.