Without awesome parents, the only way out for ordinary people is to study more

My niece took the college entrance examination, and her scores came out in the past two days. When I was chatting with her before, she asked, \”Sister-in-law, is it really that important to go to college?\” I was afraid that if her grades were not satisfactory, I never answered the question directly. The results came out the day before yesterday, and she scored well. The stone in my heart finally fell, and I can answer this question directly: it may not be that important to get into college, but it is important to study in a child from an ordinary family; if your grades are not satisfactory this year, I will It is recommended that you repeat your studies for one or two years and try your best to create opportunities for yourself to go to college. No matter how strata are solidified and educational resources are unevenly distributed, these are unchangeable facts. Blaming others is of no use. For children from ordinary families, the college entrance examination is still the fairest and most direct way to escape from the original class; being able to enter a university means that they have a much greater chance of living a peaceful life with a small amount of wealth. Going to college means opening a new door for a long time. Articles about the uselessness of college have been forwarded everywhere. Be it Bill Gates or Han Han, they all failed to finish college or gave up college directly, but their personal auras are extremely bright. case, but ignores that more successful people have good educational experiences themselves, and it is biased to replace them all with others. For children from big cities or from well-off families, going to college may not have a great impact on their horizons, but for people from remote areas or from ordinary families who do not have the opportunity to realize their wish of \”the world is so big, I want to see it\”, It will subvert the previous life. When I was an editor, I met an author who had never been out of the county before going to college. He had never taken a plane, a train, or a bus, and he had rarely had the opportunity to ride on the Internet or a computer. His college entrance examination scores allowed him to attend a good school in his own province, but in order to get in touch with more \”people different from him\”, he chose an ordinary university in Beijing. After entering college, in addition to actively participating in various societies, he also bought a second-hand bicycle. During the four years of college, he used two wheels to measure the various scenic spots in Beijing: the Forbidden City, Beihai, Old Summer Palace, Prince Gong\’s Mansion, Ji Xiaolan\’s former residence, and the Great Wall. , Ming City Wall Ruins Park… He had only seen the names in books, TV series or movies before, so he went to experience them one by one. I also used the money I earned from tutoring and summer jobs to travel to Jiangsu, Shanghai, Zhejiang, Hunan, Hubei and other places, constantly staying away from my comfort zone to touch more and feel more. These experiences have nothing to do with his major, and they have gradually expanded the breadth of his life. In his words: \”I am not afraid even if I am unemployed now. I can do self-media and write travel notes. Before coming to Beijing, my world was only what my parents planned for me: get into a good university, learn a good major, and find a job.\” Good job.\’\” Going to college means there are many more possibilities in life. In 2010, when I was renovating my first new house, I chatted with a Shandong master who laid tiles. He was very good at his craftsmanship, and people were often willing to wait a month to hire him to lay tiles. At that time, he could earn seven to eight thousand yuan a month, which was much higher than my salary at that time. Although his income is high, he still firmly stated that all his efforts are for his children, so that his children will not have to make a living in the ceramic tiles all day long like himself, and will not have to be like him who can only farm or do brickwork all his life. He hopes that his childrenYou may have the opportunity to travel abroad and hope that your grandson’s English can be taught by your son or daughter-in-law. Li Ka-shing said: \”Although reading cannot bring us more wealth, it can bring us more opportunities.\” This \”opportunity\” is the infinite possibilities of life. In small places, the outlook on life and values ​​are often single and linear. For example, you should get married when you are over 20. For example, you must find a stable and decent job. For example, the first thing that comes to mind when doing something is \”what others will think.\” . When you enter university, you will come into contact with classmates and teachers from all over the world. The collision of diverse outlooks on life may change a person\’s life trajectory. When I first came to Beijing in 2005, I met an editor who came from a small village in northern Jiangsu. His college entrance examination applications were all from universities in first-tier cities. When she was 6 years old, her father died in a car accident. Forced to make a living, her mother took her to remarry. She has been the object of ridicule since elementary school. Her idea of ​​staying away from home was very simple: to get rid of the influence of her original family. But I gained more unexpectedly: I learned not to care about other people’s evaluations from my classmates who lived in divorced families but were optimistic and open-minded; from my roommate who became the vice president of the student union, I learned how important it is to express yourself and have reasonable desires; I taught economics After studying with a lecturer, she learned that even if she only had 100 yuan, she still had to be willing to invest… her views would be diversified, making her life richer; because of this richness, she became more confident and optimistic. In 4 years, she changed from a girl with low self-esteem and sensitivity to a confident and optimistic woman. After graduation, she found a job that suited her interests, and even invested in her own home in 2006 when housing prices did not rise. From 36 square meters to 106 square meters today, she has a happy family and even moved her mother from her hometown. Come here and complete the counterattack in life. In her own words, “If I hadn’t gone to college, I might have given up on myself, found a random man to marry, and then continued to let my children accept other people’s instructions: Look, it was her grandma, and the man remarried only half a year after his death. , don’t play with her, lest you get into bad luck”… Going to college means that you can discover what you want earlier. For most people, the first eighteen years of life are to prepare for the college entrance examination. Hobbies are luxuries. More often than not, we follow the wishes of our parents and family members to \”study hard and make progress every day\”, graduate from high school, get into a good university, choose a good major, find a good job after graduation, find a good spouse after work, and live a good life in the world. . We rarely ask ourselves what we like. What do we do when our bodies are tired but our hearts are full of joy? Entering college, being far away from your family, your family of origin, your inherent social environment, and coming into contact with a new society and all kinds of people makes it easier for us to have the opportunity to torture our hearts: What do I really want? What can I do to make me feel better? What kind of life do you want to live in the future? For myself, because my father is a teacher, he is considered a parent of his generation who respects my interests and will try his best to create various opportunities for me to read more extracurricular readings. But under the influence of the general environment at that time, he still felt that girls must have a serious job, Only by marrying into a good family can he fulfill his mission as a father. When I was in college, it was the golden age of Chinese periodicals. I was not interested in my major and focused more on writing. Although my grades in various subjects were not bad at that time, my satisfaction basically came from publishing articles, receiving sample journals, and collecting manuscript fees. Later, writing became my livelihood occupation, and I am very grateful for the few years of \”not doing my job\” in college. If I am reluctant to give up a major that I am not interested in, and at the same time struggle with whether to stick to my interest, I may not be able to follow my inner calling and regard writing as a career, and I may suffer in the process of doing professional work. Going to college means reading more books and living a more interesting life. Many people have this feeling: after working, there are very few opportunities to calm down and read. In the few years of college, as long as we are willing, the school library and the city library can become our spiritual backyard. \”There are only so many places we can go in a lifetime, but in books we can travel all over the world.\” I deeply agree with this sentence. I follow a very niche public account through my relatives. The owner of the account is very knowledgeable about geography, and the posts he shares are all very interesting geographical knowledge. There is no utilitarian purpose, just pure love. This kind of pure sharing reads with full sincerity. In order to write these sharings, the account owner naturally needs to read a lot of books and study a lot of local customs. She has been working as a public account for more than a year. She may not have been to too many places, but because she likes it, it has been ingrained in her heart from all over the world. Those spiritual words have also come to life, attracting people who also care about the world. A person\’s quality of life is related to wealth, but what determines happiness in life is inner abundance. This is why some people live an ordinary life but are full of happiness, and some people live in luxury houses and drive expensive cars, but are lonely and helpless inside. If you read more, your horizons will be broadened, you will be more sophisticated in dressing and matching, your speech and behavior will be more appropriate, you will be more sophisticated in dealing with others, you will have higher self-requirements, and you will look inward more. These all make a person elegant and noble. The depth of a person\’s eyes and the aloofness of his temperament cannot be faked. In life, we will forget what kind of clothes we wear, but the aesthetics will become a habit; we will also forget the books we read, but the details will penetrate into our lives. In this regard, aesthetic ability and reading ability are similar. Reading may not necessarily change our destiny, but not reading will definitely not change our destiny. Especially for children from ordinary families who don’t have awesome parents, going to college and reading as many books as possible may be the best chance for them to turn their lives around. Regarding \”Why should we go to school well?\”, this picture may directly tell us the answer——