Parents have done these two little things, and it is difficult for children to be brave and confident again

When guests come to my house, this child always hides behind me without saying hello. When the teacher asked him to speak in class, he stood there for a long time without saying a word. Even when he was beaten by other children in the amusement park, he did not dare to say a word. Hiding in the corner and crying. Obviously the education has been good, but why are the children so timid? In addition to the child\’s innate nature, it has a lot to do with the environment in which he was raised and educated, and it is more related to the latter. Congenital reasons: Your child may have congenital timidity, but the parents did not discover it or did not provide guidance. As a result, children are timid than others from childhood to adulthood. Due to over-indulgence in family education, some parents cannot bear to see their children suffer even the slightest injustice. They pout their little lips and ask for candy in the middle of the night, and go get it right away. When they see something they want to buy, their parents immediately pay for it. If you don’t like to eat vegetables, vegetables will never appear on the table… This kind of doting behavior often makes children overly dependent on adults, and they have to go to adults for every little thing. This often leads to children being too squeamish, unable to bear the slightest grievance, and sensitive to any words spoken by others as hurting them. Overprotective parents of some children are particularly afraid of their children being harmed at all. The children excitedly want to play with other children, but their parents won\’t let them. They are worried about getting bumped or falling. Play with a small toy, go to the playground to play on the seesaw or slide, and your parents will stretch out their hands to protect you, for fear of any accident. This kind of overprotective behavior makes children feel that no matter what they play with, it is unsafe. I simply don’t play anything anymore, and I don’t even dare to do anything challenging when I grow up. Because deep down in their hearts, they have long decided that no matter what they do, it is dangerous. Intimidation-style education. In some families, parents adopt intimidation-style education for their children. For example, in some families, the parents always look majestic and threaten their children if they make even the smallest mistake. “If you do something wrong again, I will not want you anymore. \”Giving it away\”…or when a child wants to do something, parents always stop the child with horror stories circulating among the people. Gradually, children become timid in doing things, for fear of doing something wrong. They even become frightened when they see their parents\’ serious faces. It has caused serious psychological obstacles to the child, so that the child is always timid than others in the social field. Negative education: Some parents always say to their children every time when their children are disobedient or do not do well in exams, \”Look at other people\’s children, how obedient and awesome they are, why did I give birth to you like this?\” . Even when a child is sensible or has good grades, they always say, \”He just got lucky once or twice, and he may not be so good next time.\” Parents always use this comparison method to deny their children, and the children will internally think that no matter what they do, they are not as good as other people\’s children, and even if they do well, they will not be praised. As a result, he slowly closed himself off to everything and the outside world. They will have the thought of \”if you don\’t do it, you won\’t make a mistake\”, because only in this way are you safe and only in this way is the most comfortable. How to help children overcome timidity? Slowly guide some children to be congenitally timid. We cannot forcefully bring them into the social field. We should guide slowly,Doing this is not harmful to us, but will make us happy. Let them build trust in you and then in others. Thus slowly connecting with the outside world. Love your children correctly. When your children encounter something they are afraid of, or when they get hurt, don’t be overly nervous to protect them. Let them face these things, and use an encouraging tone to motivate the children how to face them. For example, we should tell them that the scary things in the stories do not exist. We should tell them more encouraging stories like Sima Guang smashing the vat. Change the way of education. Don’t use intimidation to educate children. You will be the king. , you have to let your children be princes and princesses, not slaves. What you give should be love, not authoritarian oppression. Don\’t always face your children with a straight face. When your children do something wrong, you should tell them why they did it wrong and guide them correctly to think about what they should do. Don\’t scare your children into giving them away if they do something wrong. They will really think that you don\’t want them and will be wary of taking risks again. When your children want something, you need to be good at using tactful expressions to tell them why they can\’t have it. Don\’t always compare your children with other people\’s children. I think that among the many children who grew up in this way of comparison, a large number of them actually have deep hostility towards that \”other people\’s children\”. In fact, this is not only detrimental to the child\’s progress, but also makes the child resentful of others. And this will make your children feel that no matter what they do, they are not as good as other children. We must be good at affirming our children\’s achievements and progress. Learn to praise your children for \”what a great job you did\” and \”your efforts\”, and don\’t always be afraid of suppressing your children\’s enthusiasm due to their pride. Children are all angels, they bring us joy when they come to earth. Parents should protect and educate them well. An angel cannot fly far if his wings are broken. And if an angel changes gender, he may become a demon. If your child is timid than others, please analyze the reasons carefully and correct them in time. Don\’t let your child live in his own world all his life.