Children, if you don’t have an umbrella, you have to run as hard as you can

A while ago, when the college entrance examination results came out, the Internet was in an uproar. Everyone\’s attention was suddenly attracted by the Beijing champion. Many people thought that the child\’s words told the truth that adults did not dare to say. What truth? The general idea is: In a family like mine, my parents are both intellectuals. They have been well-informed since childhood, and their parents are open-minded and tolerant. It is natural to learn well. This is our advantage and cannot be compared to those children with bad backgrounds. Does that make sense? Of course it makes sense, part of his success is due to his parents. As a result, the saying \”It is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family\” once again became a topic of conversation among people after dinner. People talked happily about the narrow channels for advancement and the solidification of class. Then, most people do what they should do, while a small number of people are swayed by pessimism. When it comes to this topic, classmate G said that she has the most say. G works as a teacher and class teacher in a middle school. At the end of the final exam, she discovered that a student with good academic performance had dropped a lot this time. Coupled with her usual observations, she found that this student\’s recent mood was not very stable. So, she decided to talk to her children before the summer vacation. First, I asked the child about his plans for the holidays, and then talked about the exam. \”Teacher, do you think it is true, as everyone says, that children with poor family conditions like mine are doomed to have no future. No matter how hard I try, my end is not as good as others\’ starting point?\” What the child said , G instantly found the reason for his recent abnormal behavior. She still pretended not to understand and continued to ask: \”Why do you think so?\” \”My parents said that even if I finish college, I still can\’t find a good job in the end. I can earn thousands of dollars a month, so I might as well sell it to them.\” Coolies earn a lot. They hope that after I graduate from junior high school, I will learn a skill and plan for the future.\” \”Then what do you think?\” \”I am also very conflicted. I want to go to college, but I am afraid that I will not be able to do anything after graduation. What they said is that they can\’t find a good job. After all, they can\’t give me any help.\” \”Why do you think you can\’t find a good job? It\’s still several years before you go to college.\” \”Don\’t say that it\’s difficult to come from a poor family. Are you going to give birth to a son? The channels for advancement will become narrower and narrower in the future, and a family like mine is doomed to have little hope in the future.\” As soon as we heard it, it was over. This child was in a corner. His deeds of being the top scorer in the college entrance examination did not give him any encouragement. Instead, he was He was dragged down. \”Then how did you do his ideological work?\” Everyone suddenly thought of this question. \”I didn\’t tell him any big truths, I just told him my own story.\” G said. \”Oh.\” We collectively breathed a sigh of relief, because we all know that G\’s story is very ordinary, but it is enough to change the child\’s mind. G was born in a small village in the central part of the country. The whole village did not have any sideline businesses and relied on the income from the fields to make a living. Her parents gave birth to two daughters, and she also has a sister. Her father is not in good health and cannot do heavy work. Almost all the burden of the family of four falls on her mother. Because she couldn\’t give her a grandson, grandma never did anything to help them. When they were children, their family had a hard time. Sometimes, her mother had to borrow money from her and her sister\’s tuition fees on the day before school started. EveryWhen my mother goes to borrow money, the neighbors, relatives and friends always shake their heads and sigh: These two girls will be thrown away in the future. What\’s the use of studying so much? It\’s better to let them go out to work early, what else can they do? Help the family. At that time, many people in small villages believed that \”study is useless.\” Look at whose children, after going to college, they can\’t earn as much as their father moving bricks on a construction site. Why spend so much money on going to college? As a result, many of her childhood playmates dropped out of school and went out to work after graduating from junior high school. But they never did. It was not they who insisted on going to school, but their mother who insisted. The mother said that even if she was selling the pot, she would always provide for them as long as they wanted to get married. With her mother\’s insistence, she and her sister worked hard and came out on top every time. In the end, her sister got a doctorate and she became a middle school teacher in this city after graduating with a master\’s degree. Of course, most of the tuition and living expenses after attending college are earned by themselves. Now, she and her sister send living expenses to their parents every month. They grow vegetables and raise chickens at home, and live a very good life. People who advocated not letting them go to school in the past are envious of her parents. \”Although, compared with the natives in the city, I have to pay off the mortgage with my monthly income, but they can rely on their parents\’ houses to collect rent. No matter how hard I try, there is still a certain gap between me and them. But it doesn\’t matter, at least I worked hard to get out. The first step is that my children will be like their children in the future, going to the same school and playing the same games.\” G finally said. We empathize with what G said. We all stayed in this city after graduating from college. Compared with many children born in the city, our horizons are not broad enough and the burden on our families is a bit heavy, but we have never given up. It is precisely because we have a low starting point and no umbrella in our hands that we work harder than others. While others travel around on weekends, we work overtime; while others hang out with friends after get off work, we go home and read quietly; while others eat and drink in a leisurely manner, we save our money bit by bit. Because we all believe that with our own efforts, we may not necessarily reach the same end point as others, but at least we have raised the starting point of our children, and we are no longer the same as our past selves. This is what hard work means. Children, if you don’t have an umbrella, you have to run as fast as you can. This is your best choice.