Just look at Ping\’er and Jiaqing to see how much influence a mother\’s mirror has on her children.

Recently I am watching \”The First Half of My Life\”, in which there are two children of the same age: Ping\’er and Leng Jiaqing. Although the two children are the same age and come from divorced families, their personalities are very different. I like Ping\’er, he is innocent, kind and cute, and has the happiness that children of this age have. She cries if she doesn\’t like living in a small house, regardless of whether she has to go to school tomorrow, doesn\’t consider her mother\’s hard work at work, and doesn\’t abide by the agreement she made with Aunt Tang Jing to be considerate of her mother. It wasn\’t until He Han sent him his favorite bumblebee that he burst into laughter and became excited. When I was watching the show, many people commented that they didn\’t like Ping\’er and that he was not sensible at all. But he is just a child in the first grade of elementary school. Isn’t it a child’s nature to laugh when they are happy and cry when they are unhappy? Divorce itself causes harm to children, so why should we restrain our children by being sensible and ask them to grow up overnight? Ping\’er is also very open-minded towards his mother\’s suitors. I don’t resist my mother’s interactions with other men. In sharp contrast is Jiaqing. There is a scene in the play where Ling Ling sends Chen Junsheng out. Jiaqing is very resistant to Chen, but does not dare to express it. She shouts in the room: \”Mom, please come back quickly.\” As soon as Jiaqing appears. Very independent and sensible. I go to the day care center by myself, and then come back alone. I write my homework by myself. After I finish my homework, I give it to my mother to check. After checking, my mother will assign homework again. He simply expressed that there was a lot of homework and his mother gave him painstaking instructions. Ling Ling Xiaozhi educates Jiaqing with reason and emotion: Everyone has homework to complete, and if you want to live a good life, you have to work hard. In the latest plot, Jiaqing laughed at Ping\’er: What\’s the use of your mother being good-looking? Isn\’t she divorced? In order to prevent Ping\’er from staying, Jiaqing broke Chen Junsheng\’s computer and blamed Ping\’er. Why are there such big contrasts between two children of the same age? It\’s because they have different mothers behind them. Zijun is simple and kind. Before the divorce, although she was inattentive to educating her children and was even \”ignorant\”: she took away the apples that her husband used to solve math problems for her children and said that it didn\’t need to be so complicated in the first grade. When the child asked what \”cornea\” was, she replied: The cornea is a mask placed on the feet. As the lawyer said: \”You can\’t give Ping\’er good support either mentally or materially.\” But even so, Zijun still won the divorce case. Because she gave her child enough company. Children need companionship, and they need \”significant others\” when they are young. \”Significant others\” is a term that both psychology and sociology are concerned about. The American sociologist C.W. Mills first proposed this concept. Usually refers to a specific person who has an important influence in the process of individual socialization and psychological personality formation. It is precisely because Zijun, Ping\’er\’s \”important other\”, is simple, kind and sincere, therefore, Ping\’er is very sunny and kind. As Jiaqing\’s important other person, Ling Ling is very utilitarian and has a strong sense of purpose. Although she understands that people have to work hard, she is eager for quick success. In order to let herself and Jiaqing live a good life, she ruins other people\’s families by being a mistress. She does not feel ashamed but feels that Glory. Therefore, Jiaqing learned from her to observe words, assess situations, and play tricks. Although goodQing didn\’t want to write so much homework, but his mother would be unhappy, so he did it. Although he didn\’t want to go out to watch a movie and wanted to stay at home, he knew what was best. Later it was said that in order to prevent Ping\’er from staying at home, Jiaqing deliberately damaged Chen Junsheng\’s computer and put the blame on Ping\’er. There is a very good saying: parents are the originals, children are the copies, and if the copy is not good, it is the original that needs to be changed. Zijun and Lingling, who are the originals, have a great influence on the formation of Ping\’er and Jiaqing\’s characters. Childhood is an important period for the formation of a person\’s character, and Ping\’er and Jiaqing, who are six or seven years old, need role models most. The role of this model is to provide children with an example of how to behave: What should I do when I encounter a problem? What should I do if I\’m in a bad mood? I have a different opinion than others, what should I do? Children need to learn, and this learning comes from a role model. Children generally choose important others with whom they interact more often as their role models. A good mother is worth a hundred teachers. The power of role models is infinite and affects children, even throughout their lives. I have a classmate who was in her prime. She didn’t go to work, dress up, or go shopping. She spent every day at the mahjong table in her pajamas. She had nowhere to stay at home, and her husband couldn’t bear it and divorced her. After the divorce, she burst into tears. When I asked her why she didn\’t manage herself well, she said: This is what my mother did. I grew up under my mother\’s card table since I was a child. Besides playing mahjong, I don’t know what else to do and I don’t want to do it. Although there are innate factors in the formation of a child\’s personality, the influence of the surrounding environment and people on a person cannot be underestimated. As a child grows up, every word and deed of his parents will become a role model for the child. The power of role models is endless. Similarly, bad examples from parents can also destroy children. There is a public service advertisement called \”Mom, Wash Your Feet\” that goes like this: A young mother is telling her son the story of a little duck. After telling the story, the mother goes to bring the child\’s grandmother some foot-washing water to wash her feet. The child saw this scene… When the mother returned to her room after washing her grandma\’s feet, she found that the child was missing. When she turned around, the young son was holding a basin of water tremblingly and making milky sounds. Say: Mom, wash your feet. Mom smiled happily. A line of text appeared on the big screen: In fact, parents are their children\’s best teachers. Every time I see this public service announcement, I am very moved. Parents are children\’s mirrors, and children are their parents\’ shadows. For the sake of the future of their children, parents must be cautious in their behavior and set an example for their children. Children\’s good and bad behaviors are the result of the influence of parents\’ education. For the sake of our children, we must make this mirror good.