What is the most painful year for a mother?

How does a woman feel in the first year after giving birth? I think every mom has her own answer. But dads often don’t understand, or they never understand enough. Is this year bitter or sweet? There is definitely the satisfaction of watching a little life grow slowly, but there is also the anxiety and depression caused by drastic changes in life. Various contradictions aroused, and the warmth and warmth of people\’s hearts were clearly illuminated by reality. So some people say where is the crystallization of love in children? It is obviously the magic mirror of love. It has been a difficult year, and many mothers have made it through it, leaving scars on their hearts. Some people still didn\’t make it through in the end. I saw an article a few days ago: We didn’t survive the first year after giving birth. The author\’s mother mentioned in the article: When she was seven or eight months pregnant, even if she was kneeling on the floor and cleaning the floor, she could not think of instructing her husband to do housework. In the end, it was my hard work that made a big mistake. Because the husband has never learned to take on the responsibilities of a husband. We can\’t even expect him to take on the responsibilities of a father. And because she gave birth to a daughter, her husband, who obeyed her mother-in-law, asked for another child. Without consent, the cold violence intensified. In the end, she chose to divorce and take care of her daughter by herself. She finally said that she would remarry or choose to marry for love. This is a strong woman. But behind her strength, there are so many scars that have accumulated, making her heart stronger. You know, no matter how strong a woman is, she still has her weaknesses and needs someone to hurt her. The most painful year for a mother is probably the first year after giving birth. After giving birth to a child, a father complained that his wife became very grumpy after giving birth and was unable to adapt. Sometimes I feel depressed at times, and when my child cries, I cry too. Complaining about my wife is unreasonable. Have you ever thought about the term \”postpartum depression\”? When the term postpartum depression is mentioned. Some people think this is too much, especially some elderly people who will say, \”We didn\’t see anyone depressed after seven or eight babies. What the hell is this? Isn\’t this a problem caused by spoiled children?\” However, many mothers have actually reached the stage of depression. On the edge, wandering there. After giving birth, everyone is more careful about the child, but rarely pays attention to the mother\’s inner needs. I remember that at that time, my wife took her several-month-old son back to the countryside to live for a while. I am also busy with work, and as a new father, I don’t know much about these things. On weekdays, we just talk on the phone and ask about my son\’s situation more than my wife\’s situation. When my wife said she was coming over, I was not happy. He said that it is good to have elderly people taking care of him at home, so why do he have to suffer here? There is no one to cook for you during the day, and it is even harder to take care of the baby alone. I just felt like she was asking for trouble. But when I went back to pick her up. I\’m glad I listened to her anyway. Because she doesn\’t adapt to life there. There were no friends to talk to, only a babbling child for company. My mother obviously didn\’t get into the role at that time either. When the child cries, he is taken to breastfeed. At noon she slept as usual. Sometimes when the child didn\’t cry, she would go out for a walk. I cooked three meals a day, but I didn’t have much time to take care of the kids. And at night, my wife puts me to sleep and feeds her at night. She didn\’t sleep well and had to comfort her crying child at noon. I haven\’t had a good rest at all.One day, I became nervous. And we were not fully prepared at that time. I only remember to prepare clothes and milk powder for the child, but my wife doesn’t even have enough clothes for a change of clothes. She put on a rough and old dress at home. I said why are you wearing this dress? It’s so ugly. After she came back, she said, in fact, who cares about how ugly the clothes are, but that she can\’t bear it anymore. Who knows how she got here during that time. Now that I think about it, I can already feel the shadow of depression lingering around her. After returning, she also had a hard time. A man climbed stairs to buy groceries while holding his baby in his arms. I also have to cook, feed, and take care of the child 24 hours a day. These are responsibilities that a mother is willing to take on. But she also needs someone to lend a hand and pay attention to her inner emotional needs. Moreover, no matter how good a mother-in-law is, she can\’t compare to her husband\’s comfort. So I would tell every friend who is about to become a father: A man must help his wife get through this most difficult period. This is your greatest love and responsibility. No matter how hard it is, the family stays together and raises the children together. Every mother is afraid of not having enough milk to feed her baby after giving birth. I remember that not long after my wife gave birth to her son, her milk supply was insufficient. When someone suggested it, I wanted to try it right away. Nowadays, if you serve her a bowl of loach and boiled eggs, she will definitely vomit if she smells it. Because she said that her mother-in-law made this soup every day at that time. She drinks big bowls, even if she doesn\’t want to drink, she still has to drink. At that time, my son was chubby and well-fed. People around me said that this mother was a model mother. At that time, we also drank large bowls of chicken soup, cuttlefish soup, and bone soup. What grows with the child is the mother\’s weight. What woman doesn’t love beauty? But for the sake of their children, mothers endured it silently. When the child reaches seven or eight months old, he is faced with the choice of going to work or taking care of the child. Unfortunately, no maternity leave lasts for a year. My wife originally planned to feed the child for a year. But our salary and income were not high at that time. If I had to work alone, my life would be very tight. She doesn\’t want to give up her job either. what to do? I went online and bought a cooler and a milk storage bag. Started to be a breastfeeding mother. Every day I squeeze one or two bags at home and one or two bags at work to take home. On that hot summer day. Carrying two bags to and from get off work. The saddest thing is the moment when I am separated from my child every morning. Who would give it up? As the child slowly grows up in your arms. We will see a woman becoming stronger and stronger. So those burdens we carried back then can now be mentioned with confidence. Just during those days. The things and people I have experienced will still be unforgettable forever. The first year after having a baby. A woman becomes a mother. A man becomes a father. What an amazing transformation this is. If you can face it bravely and share it together, it will be a valuable experience of sharing joys and sorrows. Many years later, I will always remember it in my heart. Live life not by being passionate, but by being ordinary. It was you cooking in the kitchen, while I held the baby and played. I am reading a story to my baby, and you are listening and laughing. Or I\’m making milk and you\’re changing the baby\’s diaper. Such sharing can heal scars, drive away depression, and warm each other. Just in this normal time. Repeatedly, it accumulates into a dailyson. May you never forget your original intention of holding your son’s hand and growing old together with him.