The most far-sighted mother did this

\”Study hard, and you can play whatever you want after the final exam.\” \”You work hard for a few years now, and you will completely relax when you get to college.\” We often hear mothers say this to their children. Perhaps this is the biggest feature of Chinese education – exam-oriented education. In order to prevent their children from losing at the starting line, various elite classes and Olympiad classes have emerged one after another. What they point to is children\’s results. Are temporary results really that important? After taking exams and going to school, is there no need to study anymore? Excellent grades can certainly explain temporary problems, but what children really need is the ability to learn for life. Only by letting children know the importance of this will they not stop at important nodes in life. The child\’s opponent is not someone else, but his friend\’s son. He obviously has excellent grades in the class. He got the first place in the class in the last mid-term exam. However, this time he was overtaken by another girl in the final exam. When he went to his house as a guest, he was listening to A friend said to his son: \”Obviously, don\’t care too much about other people\’s results. You can\’t stop working hard just because you got first, and you can\’t be discouraged just because others surpass you.\” Once children start to blindly compete with others, they will You will not be able to clearly see your own gains and losses. Even if you achieve excellent results, you will be dazzled by the victory. Only by teaching children to regard themselves as benchmarks and analyze their own strengths and weaknesses can they maintain their motivation for learning. I still remember the last boy sitting in the last row in the high school class. His mother told him that compared with others, you are indeed very poor, but compared with yourself, you will definitely make some progress. In my opinion, as long as If you make progress, you will be as good as the first few. With the encouragement of his mother, he tried to change. Soon, he was no longer the last one and found the joy of learning. This stage is always just the beginning. My cousin is a typical \”other people\’s child\”. After he was admitted to Peking University, he buried himself in a pile of books every day. His words were checked in the circle of friends every day, \”How can you always be like this?\” Diligent?\” I asked him. \”After I got to college, I realized how shallow my knowledge was and how narrow my vision was. I had too many things to learn,\” said my cousin. I still remember when my cousin moved last year, he held a thick pile of certificates and asked his aunt: \”Do you have to take these to the new home?\”, my aunt said: \”Son, these achievements have passed. What you want to think about is How many awards can I get in the future?\” Yes, life is like a bamboo, with one node after another. The achievements made at the previous node cannot be carried to the next node. There will always be people better than your children. Once If he is self-satisfied and stagnates, he will lose the capital to compete in this fiercely competitive society. A wise mother will cultivate her children\’s \”zero-point thinking\” and let them know that learning is not temporary, does not end after an exam, does not end after being admitted to a prestigious school, nor does it end after entering a famous company, but requires lifelong learning. The results of an exam cannot explain anything. There are many people who still cannot find a satisfactory job after being admitted to a prestigious school. Entering a famous company does not guarantee that you will never be unemployed. Only sufficient knowledge reserves and excellent skills are the most solid foundation for childrenprotection. The 21st century is an era of information explosion. Knowledge and information are updated faster and faster. Only by cultivating children\’s lifelong learning ability can we keep up with the times and be the trendsetters of the times. Learning ability and habits are more important than grades. Ever since I was a child, I have never been a person with outstanding grades, and my mother did not have too many demands on me. My mother loves to read. The bookcases at home are full of books that my mother regards as treasures. She has maintained the habit of excerpting them for decades. Under the influence of my mother, I also began to insist on reading and often asked her to make book lists for me. \”These are some books that I think are good recently. You can read them when you have time.\” My mother sent me a WeChat message a few days ago. I am grateful to my mother. We have always communicated in a unique way. We have different views on a book. We can quarrel fiercely. Occasionally, we will have strong mother-daughter resonance, and we will be very happy and excited. My mother was not so eager for quick success and wanted to cultivate a student who would take the exam. Instead, she taught me some learning abilities and habits. I have kept this reading habit to this day and will continue to do so. I think it is because of this that I can continue to enrich my reading skills. In the heart, there is thick accumulation and then thin hair. For children, being able to learn and getting used to learning is more important than achieving results. A wise mother will cultivate her child\’s interests, supervise him to develop the habit of lifelong learning, and stimulate his curiosity and desire for knowledge, instead of being too obsessed with fluctuations in scores. Lifelong learning is more than just books. Some people say that the most successful students in a class are often not the students with the best grades, but rather the students who are above average. The reality is that even if a person has a lot of knowledge, he will still find that some people are not so talented, but they can succeed in the workplace. They do not have so much book knowledge, but they can continue to learn amidst the hardships of society and the setbacks of life. Learn the rules of life and learn communication skills. I think your child will definitely encounter setbacks. Don\’t help him unconditionally out of mother\’s love. You have to tell him that only by learning to solve problems by yourself will you not panic when you encounter the next one. , you have to be grateful for it and overcome it. I think your child must have something he likes to do. Don’t break his wings. You have to tell him that if you like it, you must keep going instead of just trying it; you must constantly try new areas and challenge yourself. Instead of stopping at the most comfortable corner. I think your child must have a place he wants to go. If you can do it, take him and set off without hesitation. He will learn knowledge that is not in the books. When he grows up, he will have Have the courage to go to more places, learn about different countries and cultures, and gain a deeper understanding of the world.