The lazier the mother is, the more capable the child is

At the beginning of the vacation, I made a three-part agreement with my son. During the summer vacation, we must do the following: complete homework carefully and read more extracurricular books; exercise and insist on taking naps; learn to do housework and master some basic life skills. The first two are easy to do, but the last one is not. But no one is born to do housework. As long as you keep trying, practicing, and learning, you will be able to do it. On the morning of the first day, I was preparing to wash clothes. Suddenly I thought of our agreement and dropped the clothes in my hands. I think that if I want my son to learn to do housework as soon as possible and become more and more capable, I should become \”lazy\” from now on, try to do as little as possible, and let him do more operations instead of doing everything for me. I called my son over and explained to him the precautions for operating the washing machine. He was excited and eager to try. \”Mom, why don\’t we just wash the clothes, and use the washing machine. It\’s so simple. I remember everything you said.\” He followed my instructions, first turned the clothes over, and then put them into the washing machine one by one. Pour in more laundry detergent. \”Oh, no!\” he yelled. It turned out that he accidentally poured too much laundry detergent. He looked at me nervously, not knowing what to do. I comforted him: \”It\’s okay, just be careful next time. Just hold it steady and control the dosage. You will get better and better.\” After listening to my words, he relaxed and pressed the operation button. It started working. Nothing happened, so he went to read a book. After the clothes were washed, I asked him to come over and dry them. A phone call happened to come in at this time. When I answered the phone, he had already hung up the clothes and was looking at me proudly asking for credit and reward. But when I saw it, I couldn’t laugh or cry. For dad’s clothes, he used small hangers, and the clothes were shaky. For his small clothes, he used big hangers, and the clothes were stretched out of shape. I planned to adjust it, but the moment I reached out, I thought of that sentence: The lazier the mother is, the more capable the child is. I smiled at my son, praised his efficiency, and then asked him to replace some of the hangers. He looked at it and said happily: \”Sure enough, now the big clothes will not fall off, and the small clothes will not be damaged, and they look much better.\” The next day, when he put the laundry detergent in, he was very happy. Be careful, use just the right amount, and be careful when drying clothes. Within a few days, my son became a skilled laundryman. He has mastered a new skill, which gives him a sense of accomplishment, and I have more time to read. It really kills two birds with one stone. Cooking is relatively difficult, so let’s start by simply boiling noodles. I told my son what to do first and then what to do, and then watched him operate. He said: \”Mom, I\’ve watched you cook noodles countless times. It\’s a piece of cake. You can go out and have a rest. It will be fine in a while.\” I was still worried, but he pushed me out of the kitchen and opened the glass The door was closed. Well, sooner or later, he will have to rely on himself, so I went to the living room to read a book and looked up from time to time to observe what was going on in the kitchen. He was swinging around inside and dancing from time to time, very excited. After a while, I suddenly smelled a mushy smell. not good! I ran over quickly. But it was still too late. I found that my son was hurriedly turning off the fire. Some of the noodles were wrapped in a ball, and some were sticking out of the pot and were burnt by the fire.There is only a little bit of water in the pot. My son was so frightened that he dared not speak out. He lowered his head timidly and secretly observed my reaction from the corner of his eye. I pulled him aside and asked him if he was injured. He said he was fine, and I felt relieved. On the road of children\’s growth, falls are inevitable, mistakes are inevitable, and the cost of trial and error is inevitable. My son was very happy to see that I did not blame him, but cared about him, and said he would do it again. \”Still…\” I suddenly thought of the \”lazy\” principle I had set before, and quickly changed my words: \”Okay, you better do it, there will be no problem this time.\” With my trust and encouragement, my son showed a smile. This time he strictly followed my instructions and put in a little more water. After the water boiled, he added the noodles. He quickly picked them up with chopsticks and turned off the heat after two minutes when the noodles became soft. Eating the noodles mixed by my son, they felt particularly delicious and I felt happy. \”Son, let\’s cook some noodles. I love your noodles the most.\” Now, whenever I need to cook noodles, I call my son and he happily cooks them. I have to admit that children’s learning ability is really strong. Within a few days, my son’s noodles mixing skills got better and better. The seasoning was just right and it was delicious. Next, I plan to teach him how to cook. As long as he learns how to wash and cook, he will be able to take care of himself no matter where he goes in the future. Not only that, I often send him out to help with express delivery, shopping, etc., so that he can learn how to behave and how to communicate with others. Many parents always take good care of their children and let them eat and drink, thinking that this is love for their children. Many \”little emperors\” who grew up under the pampering of their parents cannot do anything when they grow up, and live like giant babies. Let alone laundry and cooking, which are difficult skills for them, they can\’t even find their way out, find a ride, take a ride, or run errands. In addition to learning, everything is in hand, and children are not allowed to try anything. They are not allowed to endure hardship and hardship, and they think that they are great and selfless. In fact, this is not love, on the contrary, it is hurt. If it is serious, it will ruin the child\’s life. There are too many cases like this, where a large number of children with high scores and low abilities are caught. Some people even had excellent academic performance and were admitted to well-known foreign universities, but in the end they were dismissed because of their incompetence in life and lack of communication. When children are still in early childhood, it is natural to take care of their daily life. But when they have a certain degree of labor ability and can do some housework within their capabilities, it is time to let them go and teach them some essential skills for life. This is a wiser and deeper love. Parents cannot accompany their children for a lifetime, so they must cultivate their children\’s awareness of independence and social awareness from an early age, so that they can become capable, independent, and physically and mentally sound. Only in this way can they live calmly and calmly in this highly competitive society, without being overwhelmed by the slightest storm. It’s really not that difficult to make your children capable. As a mother who has taken care of her children\’s daily necessities since childhood, you don\’t want to take care of everything. You can make yourself a little \”lazier\” and a little more \”lazy\”. For many things, you can talk more and use less hands. Try to leave the opportunity for hands-on and running errands to your children. In fact, their abilities far exceed oursImagine that they will continue to surprise us. \”Zuo Zhuan\” says: If you love your son, teach him righteousness. It means giving children positive energy in the right way and teaching them the right way to behave. On the contrary, it will be like what Sima Guang said in \”Zi Zhi Tong Jian\”: Love is not in accordance with the Tao, and it is also harmful to others. This is a negative warning to people that if you love your children in the wrong way, it will harm them. It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. Parents want their children to become adults, so let’s start by cultivating their children’s independent abilities. In the United States, parents focus on cultivating their children\’s sense of independence from an early age. The child sleeps in a small bed from an early age, and then sleeps in a separate room when he is older. In daily affairs, everything within the child\’s ability should be done by the child as much as possible. For example, when a two-year-old child takes a bath, the mother only helps the child put the water in the water, take off his clothes, and then the child climbs into the bathtub by himself, plays in the water for a while, then applies soap by himself, and then climbs out of the bathtub by himself after washing. The vast majority of teenagers over the age of 18 earn their own money to study. Therefore, a janitor or waiter in American society may also be receiving higher education. Children before the age of 3 are the most malleable and easiest to receive education. This is the best period to cultivate children\’s independence. If you miss this opportunity, it will be very difficult to remedy the situation after the child\’s dependence is formed. Therefore, cultivating children’s independence must be done as early as possible. Research shows that cultivating independence from an early age can help children succeed. American psychologists have followed 1,500 children with extraordinary intelligence for 50 years and found that 20% of them have achieved little. Compared with the 20% of people who have achieved the most, the most significant difference is found. Not in terms of intelligence, but in personality qualities. People who achieve outstanding results have good personality qualities such as independence, courage, and strong perseverance. Psychologists point out that when a child\’s requirements for independent activities are met or supported in some way, the child will show satisfaction, joy, self-esteem, pride and other initial self-affirming emotions and attitudes. Otherwise, negative emotions and attitudes will appear. Therefore, we must cherish children\’s independent intentions and provide encouragement and support to enable them to continue to develop. How to cultivate children\’s independence? We should have a clear understanding of the situation in our thoughts and attach great importance to it; we should provide opportunities in our actions and let them go boldly; we should make the best use of the situation and encourage them positively in our methods. If you want your children to become adults, let them go as soon as possible! The \”lazier\” the mother is, the more capable the child is. And, the earlier you start, the better the results.