My uncle molested a girl in public, here’s what parents need to know about sexual assault

The most gratifying thing about being a parent is watching your baby grow up healthily day by day. We always want to give our children the most nutritious food, the most comfortable and warm clothing, and the most interesting and educational toys. But babies need not only material care, but also spiritual education. For example, sex education, which many parents don’t know where to start and are ashamed to talk about, is a missing part of many families. The recent incident of molesting girls has once again sounded the alarm on sex education, and parents must pay attention to it. @ I want* myself: I just need random photos from netizens! Let the bad guys have nowhere to escape. @李东青lucy: Since it’s my uncle who bowed his head but didn’t look up to meet him, don’t give him such a harsh sentence. Just castrate him. We will still be relatives in the future @ Fairy Funny Diary: This efficiency is okay! Thank you, fellow police officers! @张小新-: You think sex education is too early, but perverts don’t think your children are too young @fanjinsuier: I can’t imagine it in public like this at home. Maybe other children can’t imagine it. Check it out and you must severely punish this pervert @我It’s really cute. If you don’t believe me, come in and take a look_Lin Yingying: Confiscated crime tools! Such incidents of sexual assault and molestation are repeated repeatedly. In order to prevent them from happening around us, in what aspects should parents start educating their babies about sex? How to answer children’s sexual questions? The attitude that parents should have when conducting sex education: Sex education is not indoctrination education, but heuristic education. There is no single answer to many questions. Just like when it comes to issues like sexual diversity, there is no unified answer around the world. This is a common issue faced by mankind. As people\’s ideas about sex and the scientific research on sex continue to develop and change, parents should know that the sex education given to their children today is not the final answer. As children grow up, they receive messages from many different people and sources, including messages about sex. What parents need to do is to cultivate their children\’s ability to judge and make their own choices. What should parents do to avoid sexual abuse? When many children encounter sexual abuse issues, it is difficult to understand their situation. They feel uncomfortable, but don\’t know how to tell others. This is actually a lack of emotional expression. Especially under the psychological inducement and threats of the perpetrator, it is even more likely that the problem will be buried in the heart. Many children who have been sexually abused as minors suffer psychological trauma that cannot be healed when they grow up and will remain with them for life. Parents need to help their children express their feelings and also help them learn to say \”no.\” But if a similar problem does occur, what you usually teach may not be effective. Real sex education is not just about reading picture books and stories to children and teaching them to say no according to the plot. Because it takes courage to refuse this. Even in many cases of adult sexual assault, it is not because the victims cannot refuse, but because they do not have strong enough psychological energy to speak out, especially when there is a disparity in power. Therefore, communication, expression, and having the psychology and ability to solve problems when encountering them are particularly important! These skills need to be cultivated in children\’s lives, not simply throughReading picture books can completely solve it. When did sex begin? Some parents felt very anxious because of their children\’s behavior and didn\’t know what to do. They left messages in the background: ❕ \”My son likes to touch his penis very much. Do I want to correct him?\” ❕ \”My daughter keeps touching her vagina recently. , the more I stopped her, the worse she got.\” Before solving this problem, parents must know one thing: male fetuses touch their genitals in the womb. Scientists have seen this phenomenon in ultrasound examinations during pregnancy. When we truly understand and accept the view that \”touching sexual organs is a common behavior during human growth\”, can parents\’ anxiety be reduced? In fact, what parents are most worried about is whether their children will become \”addicted to sex\” because of this kind of behavior. Especially for younger babies who are not very good at talking, such behavior is difficult to stop through language. Any method of dealing with this behavior of a child, regardless of whether it is specifically imposed on the child, has actually begun to have an impact on the child. We give three different ways of handling it, and you can choose according to your own and your family\’s ideas. (1) Let nature take its course. Let nature take its course. It allows parents to relax mentally, rather than being at a loss and causing them to be inactive for a while. Except for itching caused by hygiene problems or illness, touching the genitals is a normal behavior and does not require parents to do anything. (2) Diversion of attention. Some parents still feel anxious. At this time, you can consider diverting their children\’s attention. When a child is relatively young, especially before the age of 2, and is very interested in genitals, you can consider using toys to divert attention. However, it should be emphasized that children\’s self-exploration of genitals is normal and a necessary part of growth. Even if parents divert their children\’s attention to relieve their own anxiety, the children may still make up the \”homework\” at other times when you can\’t see it. What parents should pay attention to is whether this behavior is frequent to a certain extent. (3) Forcibly Stop Parents who want to stop their children from \”touching genitals\” must first consider why they have such psychological needs. What is your own and your family’s attitude toward sex, or specifically masturbation? Does stopping your child\’s behavior now mean that you are opposed to your child\’s masturbation behavior in the future? Contact comfort plays an important role in children\’s growth, and the establishment of a sense of security is also the emotional and psychological basis of sex education. Therefore, when children are growing up, parents’ sex education for their children actually starts as early as when you whisper to the fetus in your belly, look at them for the first time, and touch your fingertips. What are the precautions for sex education? There are always various misunderstandings about sex education in people\’s minds. Even parents who have a positive attitude towards sex education may \”educate\” them too much because their ideas are too radical. (1) Understand the key points of children’s questions. Some parents talk too much because they are too eager to provide sex education to their children, without considering the age and acceptance level of their children, or even clarifying the original intention of their children’s questions. When a 3-year-old girl saw her mother’s menstrual beltWhen I put on a sanitary napkin with blood stains, I immediately asked my mother why it was bleeding? For a 3-year-old child, the most worrying thing when seeing his mother bleeding is whether the mother is sick and whether the bleeding will hurt, rather than what kind of blood it is and where the blood comes from. Therefore, when we answer, we should focus on answering: Mom does not feel pain, Mom is not sick. Then decide whether to answer what blood is and where it comes from by observing the child\’s reaction. (2) Metaphors are not necessarily a good way to answer. Some parents like to use various metaphors to describe and explain, but the purpose of any metaphor is to express clearly, not to appear childish. Some inappropriate metaphors can cause trouble to children. In order to explain their origin to their children, some mothers will say that the child takes root and sprouts in the mother\’s belly like a seed. Although such metaphors give children a more vivid explanation, they can also cause uneasiness and fear in them. Young children\’s understanding of the logic of things is based on their own real-life experiences. The description of seeds is like watermelon seeds in the eyes of children. After hearing such answers, more sensitive children may even worry about whether something will grow in their stomachs after eating watermelon seeds. (3) Children may think too much on their own. Some parents believe that as long as the children stop asking questions after giving the answer, the task has been completed. However, especially for preschool children, it takes time to understand a new concept. When a parent throws out an answer that he cannot immediately understand, the child is likely to stop asking and slowly absorb and understand. At this time, if the answer conflicts with his original real-life experience, the child is likely to resist the answer in his heart, but he will not necessarily communicate with adults through language, but will express it in daily life. After answering questions about sex, parents need to be patient and observe their children\’s reactions. On the one hand, parents can face the issue of sex education calmly and no longer deliberately avoid it; on the other hand, parents are also expected to understand the difference between sex education and general education, and they must first know something before telling their children about sex. Understand, don’t answer whatever you want. Sex Education Operation Guide (1) Think clearly about what you want to tell your children about child sexual assault. Parents should first talk about how to view such social problems, not just how to educate their children on prevention. (2) How to talk about those words calmly. For most adults, it is difficult to talk openly about sex with children. But we should still tell our children more scientifically and accurately about the names of body parts and relevant knowledge about sex. In order not to panic when telling your children, parents can practice it in advance. Speak the proper nouns out loud until you can say them naturally. (3) Don’t wait for the child to ask before talking. Although parents are not encouraged to talk too much, they do not agree to not talk at all. In daily conversations with children, it is necessary to not only understand the child\’s level of cognition, but also speak correctly and to the point. This requires conversational skills. You should know that just because the child doesn’t ask doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to know, the child may have already learned about it from other channels. The scary thing is that he doesn\’t know what he knows or how much he knows. (4) It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to answer. When conducting family sex education, parents not only need their children to understand some sexual knowledge, but also need to make them feel that they will always be willing to share or share with them any problems they encounter in the future. If it\’s a question you don\’t know much about, just tell your child that you don\’t know it either. Then find books to read together. It is a good way to study and discuss with your children. (5) Simple, clear and easy to understand is the criterion for answering. Most metaphors are not so appropriate and unnecessary. When answering questions, the most important thing is to consider the acceptance and cognitive abilities of children of different ages, and to use simple words that they can understand. Children of different ages ask the same questions and answer them in different ways. More importantly, first figure out what your child is asking. (6) Find suitable educational opportunities. Before children can speak, or even when they are younger, parents like to talk to their children and teach them to identify different parts of the body. Bath time is also a good opportunity. Reading sex education picture books requires choosing the right opportunity. (7) It is not appropriate to copy foreign teaching materials. Sex education includes sexual values ​​education and needs to be in line with the cultural traditions of the country and nation where the children grow up. At the same time, this cultural atmosphere also affects the development of children\’s sexual concepts. (8) Parents need to participate in sex itself. It is related to both sexes, and it is difficult for fathers to stay out of it. Dad\’s every move at home serves as an example for the boy to learn from. The home is also a small society, and children learn the definitions of men and women in this society through their parents.