\”Three major preparations\” for your baby to enter kindergarten, one less preparation will lead to more crying for a week

Please click here to enter a picture description. The summer vacation is coming to an end and the new school year is about to begin. The most anxious people at this time are the parents whose babies have turned three years old and are preparing to enter kindergarten. A baby who has been around every day from birth to now and has never been separated from his parents suddenly has to go to school and be away from his parents for a whole day. He must be uncomfortable in various ways, right? No matter how worried and reluctant we are, our children will always grow up and learn to leave us. What we can do is to be fully prepared for his departure! What preparations should we make when our children enter kindergarten? Psychological preparation For children, going to kindergarten is a milestone: starting from September 1st, he will be away from his family for about 8 hours a day, and he will live and study in a place where we cannot see him. These 8 hours account for more than half of the child\’s waking time. Such leap-forward progress will naturally bring about \”painful\” discomfort. Being mentally prepared in advance is very helpful in reducing children\’s discomfort. 1 The baby’s psychological preparation: Tell the child in advance that he is going to kindergarten, so that the child understands that this means that he has grown up, which is something to be proud of, and it is also something that must be done and has no choice. In addition, talk more about kindergarten life with your children, and often tell stories about teachers and classmates. Knowing how a day in kindergarten is arranged, what can be done and what to play in it can greatly increase the child\’s familiarity with the kindergarten and reduce his fear. In addition to telling children directly, we can also make full use of tools or toys such as picture books and cartoons to let children understand the new environment in advance. If the school allows, you can take your child to familiarize yourself with the kindergarten and see the crib, small toilet, drinking water area, activity room, special corners, and outdoor sports venues where he will sleep in the future. This will not only reduce the child\’s sense of strangeness towards kindergarten, but also allow the child to start looking forward to their future life. Parents’ Psychological Preparation In fact, in addition to children experiencing discomfort when entering kindergarten, many parents (especially mothers) will also experience discomfort when entering kindergarten, and the main manifestation is anxiety. For stay-at-home mothers, who have been inseparable from their children 24 hours a day for more than three years, the sudden change in lifestyle must be a process of adaptation. The more important reason is the concern for the children: What should I do if my children always cry and make fuss in school? Will he feed himself in kindergarten? When he is hungry or thirsty, does he dare to tell the teacher? Will the teacher like my child? Will the child be bullied by classmates? …Parents’ anxiety can easily be expressed in behaviors, such as repeatedly telling their children: When you are thirsty, you must tell the teacher and don’t talk when you go to bed at noon… If you say it once, the child will already understand it; if you say it twice, the child will feel that he understands it. Something is important; if you say it three times, your child will think it is not easy to do. If we continue to warn, the child will panic: Mom is so worried, this must be very difficult, and I will definitely not be able to do it well… Therefore, our anxiety is passed on to the child. Therefore, parents should be fully mentally prepared and be calm and calm, which will help their children adapt quickly to kindergarten.Many parents are irritated because their children always cry when they enter kindergarten. We should look at the problem of children crying correctly: crying is a normal phenomenon and a way for children to vent their emotions. Some children cry for three days, some cry for a week, and some cry for two weeks to a month or even longer. We should neither compare other children who do not cry, nor should we give in temporarily and allow the child not to go to school just because the child cries. go to school. Ability preparation: Although the teachers will take good care of the babies who have just entered the kindergarten, and provide full-service meals, drinks, and toiletries, after all, two teachers and one aunt have to deal with twenty or thirty children. It is understandable that the workload is heavy. Occasionally, It is inevitable that some people will not be taken into consideration. If the child has strong self-care ability and can eat and dress himself, it can reduce the burden on the teacher and is likely to be praised by the teacher. This will greatly help enhance the child\’s self-confidence and greatly reduce the child\’s discomfort when entering kindergarten. . Therefore, it is best for children to learn the following skills before entering kindergarten: being able to drink from a cup by themselves; being able to eat with a spoon; being able to put on and take off simple clothes, pants and shoes; being able to go to the toilet to urinate by themselves; being able to express basic language, etc. wait. …Generally speaking, children with stronger self-care abilities will adapt to kindergarten more quickly and have less emotional reactions. The poorer the child\’s ability to take care of himself, the longer the adaptation process will be. A mother once consulted me and said that her child had been in kindergarten for several months and still cried every day. At night, she started asking if she wanted to go to school the next day. When she learned that she wanted to go to school, she immediately started crying. In the morning, she hid under the quilt and refused to get up. I also cried on the way to school. Occasionally, I refused to go in at the entrance of the kindergarten. Why is this so? It turns out that this mother is very busy with her business and has never taught her child to use the toilet. The child still wears diapers during the day after entering the kindergarten. As time went by, some children started laughing at him, asking him why he was still wearing diapers at such an old age! The child feels self-conscious. Later, the teacher also said that he could be trained not to wear diapers during the day, so he started to try. But during that time, the child would inevitably wet his pants, which made him even more nervous. In addition, his self-care ability is not very good in other aspects, so he has been reluctant to go to kindergarten. His adaptation process is naturally much longer than other children. Even though children are young, they are sometimes much more sensitive than we think. Even if they cannot express themselves, they can accurately feel the eyes and comments of people around them. Preparing items that are convenient for children will help them adapt to their new life more quickly. It is recommended to prepare for your child: a small schoolbag that your child likes. Even if there is nothing fancy to wear, let the child carry it. Because there is nothing more ceremonial to going to school than a schoolbag. It can make children feel: I have grown up and I can go to school! You can look down on your little brothers and sisters, and you will feel proud. Clothing that is easy to put on and take off. In the summer, it can be a pullover T-shirt. For autumn and winter coats, it is recommended to choose a cardigan, which is easier to put on and take off than a pullover. The pants are naturally elastic, and the shoes are sports shoes with Velcro straps. In the kindergarten where our little Nuo goes to school, the teachers advise not to wear open-toed sandals, and it is best not to wear leather shoes. It is better to wear sports shoes as they are less likely to fall or cause other accidents.It is best not for girls to wear skirts. It is inconvenient to go to the toilet and exercise. If the clothes have a hat, be sure to cut off the drawstring on the hat to avoid accidents. For children who have just entered kindergarten, a set of clothes should be prepared at school in case the baby wets his pants or accidentally soils the clothes. A set of name stickers. It is sold on a certain website, and the price ranges from a few cents. It can be used on children\’s quilts, pillows and other items. Of course, mothers can also embroider it themselves. It is recommended that children participate in this process, which also has a sense of ritual. A comfort object. If the school allows it, preparing a beloved toy or other small object for the child and accompanying him to school can give the child greater psychological comfort. Others: When the teacher comes to visit the child, he should tell the teacher as much detail as possible about the child\’s \”special\” circumstances, such as the child\’s personality characteristics, the things he dislikes the most, etc., to enhance the teacher\’s understanding of the child. Generally speaking, children who are taken care of by themselves by stay-at-home mothers without the help of elders will have more severe separation anxiety, so stay-at-home mothers must be mentally prepared. After sending the child off in the morning, turn around and leave decisively. Don\’t hesitate if the child cries again. The more you hesitate, the harder the child will cry. During the first period of school, it is best to pick up your children on time after school every day and not be late.