Children need to dawdle

Whenever parents get together, there are often more complaints about their children than praise. Children\’s procrastination in doing homework has become one of the focuses of parents\’ complaints. \”Only that little homework, I have to work until after 10 o\’clock at night every day.\” \”Every time I let him do homework, the number of drinking water and going to the toilet will increase significantly. It seems that he only needs to drink water and go to the toilet when doing homework. \”Toilet.\” Although in general, my child is relatively self-conscious and we don\’t need to worry too much about her homework, but I also feel the same way about the headache that many parents have, because she often dawdles in doing homework. Something. After picking her up today, she started doing her homework and I prepared to cook. Her homework was to copy the Chinese and math papers she had done at school during the day, and then do them again. Not long after I started writing my homework, the sound of pencil sharpening began to come out, and there were often some noises. After a while, she even asked me to sit next to her and watch her do her homework. Judging from my posture, I’m going to be dilly-dallying again today. At this time I said: \”Let\’s change it today. You will cook and I will help you copy the questions, okay?\” \”Okay, but you have to copy carefully. You have to write stroke by stroke as well as me.\” She readily agreed. So, I told her: \”There are three things: first, dig out the seeds in the bitter melon; second, wash and cut three cucumbers and prepare them for cold salad; third, wash the water spinach that has been selected and cut them into pieces. When you\’ve finished these three things, tell me. You prepare the dishes, and I\’ll copy the questions to see who of us can finish them first.\” Then we started working separately. We often hear people say that most of the time children take time to do homework because they don’t like it or have no interest. There are two large test papers on the child\’s desk. The teacher\’s request is to copy the test questions first and then do the test questions again (these test questions have actually been done in school, and the child got full marks). I thought to myself, just copying the papers would be enough for her. After copying, she would still have time to do the questions. Why not prepare the papers and let her complete the questions that she is already familiar with, which would reduce her worries. However, it is also a challenge for me to copy papers like a child. For more than ten years, my two hands have been accustomed to typing on the keyboard. Now I have to hold a pencil and copy my daughter\’s handwriting stroke by stroke, which is easier said than done. However, if you don’t bite the bullet, what can you do? There are two papers, Chinese and Mathematics, covering 4 pages of A4 paper. While I was copying the questions, I remembered the experience of helping the teacher carve wax paper when I was a child. I thought to myself, even if the teacher wants to engrave these four pieces of wax paper, it will not be a short time, let alone a child who has just entered the first grade of elementary school… Of course, I only copy the questions, and she has to solve them. Do. \”Dad, guess what\’s in this bitter melon?\” I was immersed in copying questions when she came over to me holding the bitter melon in both hands and asked me. \”I don\’t know.\” I replied smoothly. \”Guess what!\” Seeing my carelessness, she was a little anxious. \”Hmm… I can\’t guess. What\’s in it?\” I thought about it and pretended that I couldn\’t guess. \”Look, when I broke it and squeezed it, it was empty and there was nothing. I dug out the seeds and closed the bitter melon again.\” She was obviously happy that she came up with this idea. I said: \”Oh, that\’s it. But, this is cooking, why are you playing again? I\’m hungry, why don\’t I go cook quickly?\” \”Okay. \”She returned to the kitchen again. This time, almost an hour passed without any further trouble. \”Are we still going to have dinner? ! It\’s up to you to cook. \”At this time, the child\’s mother spoke. Yes, I came to the kitchen. \”Dad, look, I have washed the dishes. \”My daughter told me proudly when she saw me entering the kitchen. When I saw the dishes she had washed, I thought to myself, this is more than just \”washed\”, it is almost \”cooked\”, and the leaves are almost crushed. Before I could say anything, she showed off the cucumber she made again: \”This is the cucumber I cut. You see, this is the pattern I carved. I dug a hole here…\” Of course, while doing it, , while also eating what he thought was less than ideal. This is not preparing to cook, it is simply making craft food! If you are procrastinating on doing homework because you don’t like it, then spending so much time only washing one How to explain the Poon Choi and two cucumbers? This is what she is happy to do. \”Dillying\” is often considered by parents as a bad behavior and a waste of time! If you think about it carefully, children sometimes \”dillying\” It is because they don’t like, are not happy or have no interest, such as writing homework that has been written many times, but more often it is because the child needs to “dally”. This may sound a bit strange, but in fact, dawdling is sometimes useful. First of all , for children, many things are relatively \”fresh\” and unskilled. Secondly, children generate more \”new\” ideas in the process of doing things. Take us adults as an example, for some things that have been planned or already We usually do things we are skilled in quickly, but what about things we are not skilled in, or things we want to do but have not yet fully thought about? We may do it slowly, thinking about it and doing it with enthusiasm , but progress is often very slow. However, fortunately, our adult behavior is usually not judged by children. Otherwise, children would have every reason to say that we are \”dawling\”. In this apparent \”dawdling\”, the child\’s brain is actually Running quickly and spreading his thoughts freely, he is thinking about many things, trying many things, and is also excited about discovering his own abilities. In this process of \”drifting\”, they slowly grow up . I know a young man. He said that when he was a child, he would often get up in the morning and put on a pair of trousers and then start to be in a daze. His mind was \”unbridled\” and many interesting pictures would appear… After staying for 20 minutes, a story was \”acted\”. , and then kicked off the other trouser leg. I don’t know how his parents endured it at that time. When he was in college, he majored in art. Later, he worked and was a very imaginative and creative person. Of course, I didn’t have it at all. The purpose of encouraging children to \”dally\” is just to hope that when we adults ask children to establish a good sense of time, we can be more understanding when faced with children\’s \”dreading\”.