Never do these 5 things before telling your children a story

Recently, many new fans have come and asked about the problem of babies not liking to read. In fact, Xiaoli has written many articles about reading and storytelling. I will post this old article again, hoping to help confused mothers. Yo. Many parents say that the stories I tell are not pleasant and that their children like to listen to Xiaoli’s stories. “Xiaoli graduated from the broadcasting and hosting department and speaks professionally.” But telling stories to children actually has nothing to do with professionalism and Expressive ability should be more about the parent-child relationship between parents and children. If the children don\’t like to hear the stories you tell, it may not be because you told them poorly, but because you have stepped on the following minefields. 1. Don’t force your children to listen to stories. I remember once I took Xiaopai to a neighbor’s house. Several children were watching cartoons for half an hour. The neighbor wanted to turn off the TV when it was almost time. The children were very unhappy. So my neighbor asked me if I could tell the children a story to draw them away from the TV. Although I yelled with the greatest enthusiasm, \”Little darlings, Aunt Xiaoli will tell you a story,\” none of my usual little fans responded. Even Xiaopai didn\’t hear anything and sat in front of the TV. Willing to move. This result is actually expected. Listening to stories is originally a very attractive thing, but once it becomes a bargaining chip that interrupts children from doing other favorite things, the value will plummet, and it can even be a bit disappointing and annoying. Children and the elderly are similar in that their lives require regularity and a sense of ritual. Therefore, it is best to tell stories to children at a fixed time, so that when the time comes, the children will have conditioned reflexes and be full of expectations for listening to stories. Then you will be halfway to being a good storyteller. I think that the best time for parent-child reading is before going to bed. The intimate and warm time will make the children calm down and fall asleep with a good feeling. Since I was about half a year old, I have been reading stories to her every day before going to bed. This habit has been going on for almost 7 years. If something really happened or I was on a business trip, my dad would pick me up from work. After I went to elementary school, people often watched it by themselves. In fact, not to mention what Xiaopai learned from these stories, just the happy memories our mother and daughter get together every night are enough to make me feel precious. 2. Don’t summarize “truths” for your children. Those who often listen to Xiaoli’s stories may have noticed that I don’t talk about too many domestic picture books. I mainly talk about classic award-winning picture books from abroad. This is not to say that all domestic picture books are not good. There are also many excellent works with Chinese Zen and beauty. But I found that many picture books in our country like to summarize the truth for children. It is obvious that the children are listening to the story with great enthusiasm. At the end, they say, \”Children, do you understand the truth of…?\” Maybe they are used to this kind of cultural influence. , so even if there is no summary of truth in the picture books they read, many mothers like to say at the end, \”This story tells the baby… the truth.\” However, many classic picture book stories are created from the perspective of children. As adults, we are influenced by society. In fact, the impact of experience may not be fully understood. Children\’s hearts are simple and transparent. Although theyI can’t say it out loud, but I instinctively draw nourishment from stories. I have always felt that we should not use picture books as a \”medicine\” to treat certain problems in children, but should use these beautiful stories to deeply implant the truth, goodness and beauty of the world into their hearts. Give children a vaccine against ugliness and let sincerity, kindness, bravery, and diligence sprout in their young hearts. If we deliberately reason, on the one hand, it may limit the children\’s own understanding and imagination, and on the other hand, it may cause resentment in the children. After all, who likes to hear a story and be lectured to? 3. Don’t be stingy about interacting with your children. In our minds, we often think that the scene of parent-child reading is that the mother tells a story gently, and the children sit aside and listen attentively. But in reality, most children are not that well-behaved. For example, when Xiaopai was three or four years old, he had just developed a relatively complete language system and loved to talk all day long. I told her stories, and she kept asking questions. I answered her while telling stories. Sometimes I couldn\’t finish a book in an hour. Faced with children’s constant questions or interruptions, mothers should not think that this is a failure in parent-child reading. I just think this is a very good state. The children are fully engaged and have learned to actively think about the content of the story. As long as mothers pay more patience, their children will definitely gain a lot from such parent-child reading. But when interacting with children, remember not to go to the other extreme, where adults keep asking children questions. When you reach a certain point in the story, ask, \”Baby, do you know why this is happening? How many piglets do you see now?\” When asking questions becomes a normal part of storytelling, children are likely to focus more on the questions. On the Internet, always thinking about how to answer questions makes listening to stories no longer a fun thing, but a burden. I often feel that adults should also have a childlike innocence when telling stories, and enjoy the fun of exploring the content of the story during the interaction with the children. If the children are happy to listen, we will also be happy to tell the story. 4. Don’t worry about telling repetitive stories. Children love to repeat themselves. I believe every mother knows this. It is common to watch a cartoon dozens or hundreds of times. The same is true for listening to stories. You don\’t have to recite any story before you can put it down. I mentioned in the article about children\’s concentration that a mother left a message with me saying that her 3-year-old son had been listening to my \”Searching for the Golden Carrot\” for more than a month, and he was obsessed with it. She asked me why Only then can the children listen to other stories. I think this situation should be rare. I still remember that there was a time when my child chose a book for me, and nine times out of ten my first words were \”This is it again!\” It is children\’s nature to love to repeat, because their understanding is not enough, a story You really need to listen to it many times to fully understand the fun of it, and after finally finding one, I certainly can’t bear to put it down. The younger the children, the higher the repetition rate, but as they grow older and their understanding increases, they will slowly begin to accept new stories. When telling stories to children, the most important thing is not quantity, but quality. Therefore, mothers should not object to telling repeated stories to their children. It is much better for children to fully understand a story than to swallow every story. 5 Don’t ignore the cover and title pageInformation: I think most mothers start from the inside pages when telling stories to their children. But sometimes, many stories start on the cover. For example, this book \”the little monkeys\” has a group of monkeys jumping on the bed on the cover. Most of the monkeys have a number on them, but two monkeys do not. This is closely related to the content of the story behind it. If you ignore the small details on the cover, you will miss a lot of fun. In addition, if there is an introduction by the author on the title page of the book, I will also read it out to Xiaopai. For example, when I read \”Xiao Lu\’s Pond\”, I would read the introduction of the author Yves Bunting on the title page. Xiao Pai had heard other stories written by him and knew that most of his stories were related to separation, with a touch of beauty in their beauty. of sadness. The little girl will soon enter the state, calm down, and prepare to listen to the story. Children are often smarter and more sensitive than we think. When we read the author\’s name inadvertently, they may have learned the style classification in their heads. After listening to it too much, every child is a picture book expert. There is a passage from Song Juzhi in \”The Seeds of Happiness\”: \”Reading to children is like traveling to the land of stories hand in hand with them, sharing the same happy time full of warm language.\” Life itself is full of choices, No one can replace the influence of parents on their children. No matter how busy they are, read a story to their children before going to bed every day. Regardless of whether the speech is professional or not, whether Mandarin is standard or not, find the most comfortable and comfortable state for you and enjoy the process of parent-child reading with your children. These beautiful nutrients will be deeply implanted in the child\’s heart, giving the child spiritual support and guidance throughout his life.