Real enrichment is to let children understand the difficulties of their parents

In the past few days, many children who have been admitted to college are about to report to school. This is originally a joyful event, but from time to time, some are happy and some are sad. C’s daughter has been admitted to a good university and will celebrate her 19th birthday in a few days, which is a double blessing. When preparing the equipment for school, C traveled all over the town and bought the best supplies according to his daughter\’s preferences. Even on the day I received the admission notice, I took my daughter to the provincial capital by car and bought an iPhone 7p. It cost me more than 6,000 yuan, which was more than two months of C’s salary. Both C and her husband work in ordinary private companies in small towns. Their combined monthly salary does not exceed 5,000 yuan. Excluding the household expenses of a family of three, the expenses of daughter’s schooling and extracurricular tutoring classes, the money they can save every month is very limited. . But because he only has one daughter, C always provides the best for his child in terms of food, clothing, housing and transportation within his ability. I can\’t bear to buy new clothes all year round, and I will definitely buy two or three sets for my daughter when the seasons change; I have never been willing to go to the cinema, and my daughter goes to the cinema with her classmates every week to watch the latest blockbusters; the newly opened cafeteria costs 66 yuan per person, and C is reluctant to part with it. Eat, and let my daughter experience it alone; I use a mobile phone worth less than a thousand yuan. I bought my daughter a mobile phone worth 3,000 yuan when she was admitted to high school, and she bought an Apple worth more than 6,000 yuan when she was admitted to college… For more than ten years, C She devotes everything to her daughter and rarely lets her do any housework because she is afraid of \”delaying her studies\” and cannot let her think that girls just hang around the cooking pot. A few days ago, when his daughter asked to buy a computer worth RMB 13,000, C was a little overwhelmed. My daughter’s college tuition is 5,000 to 6,000 per year, and her monthly living expenses are about 1,000. If I buy some clothes, cosmetics, electronic products, etc., the child alone will spend more than 2,000 per month. The remaining salary of more than 2,000 yuan has to be responsible for the food and clothing of C and his wife, as well as the monthly mortgage payment of less than 1,000 yuan, and life is tight. Really unsatisfied, C could only refuse, saying that the budget for the computer was only about 6,000. Maybe she has never seen her mother so stingy. My daughter suddenly became angry and said: \”Why do other people\’s mothers have money to buy Apple computers, but my family has no money? My classmate is in the same school as me. She uses Apple\’s high-end computer, and I buy a 6,000 yuan piece of crap.\” , How can you raise your head among classmates! What are you doing with the money? Who asked you to buy this shabby house…\” His daughter\’s words were like needles, piercing the apex of C\’s heart. When she was talking to me about this, she felt far more guilty than angry: \”It\’s really my fault that her father and I are incompetent. She wants a computer, but we can\’t afford it.\” This wrong-directed mentality of affluent is exactly what C Is it an important reason why my daughter is too self-centered? A few days ago, a 48-year-old mother who worked as a sanitation worker was violently beaten by her daughter in the street. Her daughter had given birth to a child herself, and she would ask her mother for money from time to time. If she didn\’t give her money, she would insult her and get into fights… We have no way of knowing what caused her daughter to be so surly. But she dared to hit her mother when she was rejected. It can be seen that this mother usually did not let her daughter understand her own hardships, and was far more obedient to her daughter than communicating on an equal footing. A few days ago, the Hangzhou Intermediate People\’s Court heard a caseA shocking criminal case – on March 21, 2017, a rich second generation who returned from abroad threw the girl he had been secretly in love with for eight years off the 19th floor because his confession was rejected. In an interview, the second-generation rich man said that he had bought gifts of 30,000 to 40,000 yuan for the murdered girl, including Coach bags, Casio cameras, iPhone 7, Tiffany necklaces, electric toothbrushes, etc. I don’t know when he squandered his parents’ money, did he ever think about how hard his parents worked to have the prosperous life he has today? I don’t know if he thought about what he and his parents would face when he cruelly threw the girl downstairs. life? There is a restaurant downstairs. It opened the year my father and I got married, and it has been in business for more than 10 years now. Because of the good taste and generous portions, business has always been very good, and you have to wait for a table most of the time during off-peak periods. Starting about three or four years ago, every day during the summer vacation, a teenage girl would always come to help carry plates, serve food, and clean. At first I thought she was a new employee, but after chatting with the landlady, I realized she was her daughter. \”The neighbors in my hometown talked about us as \’big business people in Beijing.\’ No one knew that we got up at four o\’clock every day and didn\’t go back to the rental house until eleven or twelve o\’clock in the evening. My daughter gradually began to feel that we were He is the second generation of rich people and has become extravagant. When going out to take a taxi, the environment must be good in restaurants. The clothes he wears must be brand-name. The mobile phone must be Apple. Samsung is too low-grade. He is only 14 years old! Later, I talked to him Dad discussed it and decided to let her understand that the pot is made of iron. We agreed to let her come to Beijing to work for us for a month and a half every summer vacation. She would do the same work as the employees, get the same salary, live in the same dormitory, and love the money she earned. You buy whatever you want, and we will never interfere.\” At the beginning, my daughter was so tired from standing all day that she cried. The boss\’s wife was very distressed, so she hid in the toilet and cried secretly, but when she appeared in front of her, she looked like a boss. After that period of time passed, the relationship between the mother and the daughter became better and better. Firstly, the daughter knew that making money was not easy. Secondly, the daughter saw with her own eyes that her mother endured the humiliation so as not to offend the customers. Every day after the employees got off work, she had to check accounts. As of today, her daughter has been working for her parents for 4 years, earning 4,500 yuan every summer vacation, and now she has saved 15,000 yuan. I asked: \”What did she buy when she got her salary?\” \”How could she not be willing to give it up? She bought it plate by plate!\” Later, when I was working overtime, I went to their house to eat noodles. Because it was too late, there was no food left. several customers. The little girl temporarily cashed in for her mother, her movements were very neat, and she looked like a super skilled worker. Looking at her calm and generous look, I think she understands her parents, right? Although her parents can earn hundreds of thousands a year, they are not made by strong winds, but by eating bowls of noodles from dawn to dusk. The meaning of enrichment is not to let parents tighten their belts to satisfy all unreasonable material needs and inflated vanity of their children, but to enrich their hearts and strengthen their will. The moment every mother gives birth to her baby, she wants to give him the best in the world. She doesn’t want him to get hurt, and she doesn’t want him to have worse food and clothing than others. Sometimes she is so tired that she becomes sick, and she has to satisfyChildren have tricky tastes. However, as parents, we cannot just create a paradise for our children and shield hell from their world. Only when they see their parents\’ hard work with their own eyes can they know where their wealth comes from; only when they understand their parents\’ hardships can they cherish everything they have now and will not make endless demands that embarrass their parents. Excessive care and unreserved giving, like poison, will eventually harm your children and chill your own heart.