The best way to love a child is for a father to love his mother

One night while scrolling through WeChat Moments, I saw this message. I was very moved: \”My stomach hurts so bad, but the baby won\’t sleep. So, Lian Xiansen went thousands of miles away to tell the baby a story to lull him to sleep. This is how technology changes life.\” After reading it, I felt emotional: This is the legendary \”other people\’s father\”, who can tell stories to his children through voice before going to bed across thousands of mountains and rivers. Later, I asked April: \”Did you coax him to sleep like this?\” She said: \”Of course not. However, this gave me buffer time to rest, and the child\’s wish to tell stories was fulfilled. About ten minutes after the end, I just fell asleep.\” She paused and then said: \”The most important thing is that it makes me feel that raising children is not my responsibility alone.\” She agreed. Every family has its own division of labor, and mothers are often the main caregivers of their children. But when you are a mom, there will always be times when you have a headache or a fever, or you are low on energy and unable to do anything else. At this time, the father stretched out his hands and took the child. Let mom take a good rest, even if it is just half an hour, it will be a great spiritual salvation for her. Why do so many people suffer from postpartum depression? In addition to physiological hormonal changes, being too tired is the biggest reason. When we have enough energy and everything goes well, it is not difficult for us to be kind and gentle to our children, and we can be gentle and considerate to our family members like a spring breeze. But when you are exhausted physically and mentally, it is easy to lose patience and yell. \”I care about you, who will care about me?\” When we are very tired, we all think this way with anger. If a person struggles to hold on in marriage and family life for too long, his heart will gradually grow cold. Looking around, there is no one to rely on. Over time, who can still be calm and calm with the corners of their mouth turned up all day long? Home is a home for two people. The birth of a child requires not only the mother\’s meticulous care, but also the father\’s dedication. This is a complete family and a happy home. We always say that a woman’s life status can be seen on her face. Whether you are happy or not is engraved on your face. My friend J used to be a very cheerful person, but in recent years, his negative energy has become overwhelming. He keeps quarreling at home and always complains and complains when communicating with us. This girl, who was originally very pretty, now always has a bit of anger on her face. There is no other reason. Her family is a typical widowed parenting style. To what extent? One day there was a party at her company that required everyone to be present, so she asked her friends to pick up the children together in advance, and then waited for her husband to get home at 7 o\’clock before picking them back up. However, at around nine o\’clock in the evening, her friend called her: \”Your daughter is a little sleepy, and her father hasn\’t come to pick her up.\” She was shocked and asked her husband quickly, but he stayed at home but refused to go: \”Where are you?\” She was having a good time, just come back early and pick her up.\” Feeling angry and angry, but having no other choice, she hurried back from the company party to pick up her child. After returning home, they had a big fight. Her husband accused her of not going out to the party. She accused her husband of being irresponsible to the family. My friend J’s husband makes money for the family, and is not lenient in providing for his wife and children, nor does he go out to have a good time. However, when it comes to raising children, he is hands-off. He keeps saying that he loves the children, but in addition toIn order to play with the children and buy things for the children, they don’t care about anything else. There were many big quarrels and small quarrels, and divorce was over this? She couldn\’t bear to be cruel. If she doesn\’t get divorced, she will be full of complaints. In this way, her character was slowly distorted in the unbalanced family life. The couple\’s tacit understanding before the child was born disappeared, and their relationship became increasingly indifferent. In the relationship of a happy family, the relationship between husband and wife is the first priority. This does not mean that everything should be focused on the couple, but that the relationship between father and mother is sincere and harmonious, so that children can feel respect, optimism, and beauty. When a mother is always anxious and depressed, and the father is always away from home, the child is the one who is most likely to suffer backlash. Friend J\’s daughter has a very passive and timid personality, and is a typical pleaser personality. Sometimes even if she has done nothing wrong, as long as her friend J teaches her a lesson, she will lower her head and admit her mistake. She was playing outside, and if her friend J asked her to go home, no matter how reluctant she was, she would follow her mother back with tears in her eyes. I don’t know what other people think, but I always feel unbearable when I look at it. Because this child has been forced to grow up early and be sensible and tolerant. Is this what we want for our children? Ask yourself, I can’t bear it. Many times we always talk about love, but we don’t know what our children want. Children do not need so many toys or fancy clothes. What they want most is a sense of security and that their parents do not quarrel. A stable and harmonious marriage and family is the source of children\’s sense of security. When a father loves his mother, he gives his children the greatest sense of security. A reasonable division of labor and shared responsibilities between husband and wife are the best foundation for a harmonious marital relationship. But modern women, whether they are stay-at-home mothers or working mothers, whether they earn nothing or bring home millions in annual income, still have to bear more responsibility than men when it comes to taking care of their children and cleaning up the housework. This is even taken for granted by many people. But mothers are also human beings, not gods. When the workload is too intense or the external pressure is too great, they still have to face endless housework and the children who are waiting to be fed will be unable to bear it. Trivial daily life is the essence of life, but it is precisely these that really kill a marriage. Many times, if a mother fights alone, her passion will be wiped out, her trust will fade away, and she will forget what love is. The father\’s sense of responsibility for the family is not how much money he earns, but to take care of the children\’s food, clothing, housing and transportation when the mother needs it. When the mother is tired, he silently prepares a meal that may not be sumptuous. Give her understanding and support at all times. When a father loves his mother, he means taking more housework, taking care of the children\’s daily life, and being more understanding and tolerant of the mother. A child born in a loving family can see it in his eyes. She can perceive the subtle beauty in life, is friendly to others, gentle and considerate, and smiles tolerantly. The best love a father can give his child is his mother. Because she is valued and considered, the mother will have a peaceful mind and make the family atmosphere more warm. Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way, but happy families always have similarities. The best family in the world is when dad loves mom and mom loves dad.My mother loves me and I love my parents.