You are always scrolling through your mobile phone, why should you ask your children to study?

Starting from the campus ballads \”My Deskmate\” and \”Brother Sleeping on My Upper Bunk\”, I like Gao Xiaosong very much. To this day, these two songs can still touch me at any time, making me miss those youthful years that are gradually disappearing and the people I met in youth. Gao Xiaosong has multiple identities: a famous musician, songwriter, producer, director, talk show host, and one of the representatives who pushed campus folk songs to the top. His talent is obvious to all. Recently, I also like to listen to his talk show \”Xiao Shuo 2017\” on Himalaya. From Jin Ping Mei to the Three Kingdoms, from Lu Xun to Napoleon, from the film age to the YY future world, he has quoted and quoted many wonderful things. History, culture, military, literature, politics… everything is at your fingertips. Gao Xiaosong\’s cultural heritage impressed me greatly. So, what was Gao Xiaosong\’s growth environment like? Gao Xiaosong\’s father, Gao Liren, is a professor at Tsinghua University, and his mother is the famous architect Zhang Kequn. His grandfather, Zhang Wei, is the founder of Shenzhen University, an academician of the two academies, and a scientist who is fluent in four languages. His grandmother and uncle are both well-known figures. Gao Xiaosong lived on the Tsinghua campus since he was a child. The neighbors around him \”kicked open the door of any house, and all the top intellectuals in China lived inside.\” Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin lived in the yard in front of his house. \”When I was a child, if I had any problems, the old man at home would write a note and say, \”Who do you want to ask this question to?\” I went to that person\’s house, opened the note and looked at it, \”Oh, whose child are you from? Tell me…\” The so-called \” When talking and laughing, there is a great Confucianism.\” That\’s it. When I was in junior high school, my classmates were reciting \”The Story of Yueyang Tower\”. Gao Xiaosong, who was exempted from ancient Chinese studies, was reading \”Book of the Later Han Dynasty\”. What kind of gap is this? \”Life is not just about the present, but also poetry and distance.\” Is this sentence familiar? This is what Gao Xiaosong\’s mother told him. Nuo Xi’s mother, I am born in the 1970s. It can be said that I am almost from the same era as Gao Xiaosong. Before I entered junior high school, the only books I read besides textbooks were a few comic books, and the furthest place I went was in a town. The family was extremely poor, and it was already very difficult for the parents to feed their three children. How could there be any money left to buy books? The things printed with words at home may be a few New Year pictures and newspapers taped to the wall. Naturally, my illiterate parents would not read picture books to me to cultivate my love of reading since I was a child, and they would not be able to say words like \”poetry and distance\”. Nowadays, I know a lot of highly educated people, but these PhDs and masters are all similar to me. They don’t have much “culture”. They don’t know music, art, or history. They pass all the exams in exam-oriented education, but they don’t know anything other than exams. Understand. So we work hard all day long, and after providing food and clothing, we strive for a well-off society, and after becoming well-off, we strive for the middle class, raising children and raising a house. We are \”slaves\” for life, with no liberation. Speaking of which, we can be regarded as the carp that jumped over the dragon\’s gate. We have changed our destiny with the college entrance examination and no longer live the life of our parents with their faces facing the loess and their backs facing the sky. In the eyes of peers, especially people from the same \”village\”, he can barely be considered a \”successful person\”. The \”success\” mentioned here does not refer to economics. For example, I have many fellow villagers working outside.I am making a lot of money from my business. While I envy their rich people, they also envy my life. Just like Gao Xiaosong, he may not be rich, but I admire him. Sometimes I can\’t help but think, if Gao Xiaosong had been raised in the wrong way since he was born, and if he had grown up in a different environment, such as growing up in a remote mountain village like me, surrounded by white people, he might not be as good as me, right? Therefore, how important the environment is to a person! An An took the college entrance examination this year and went to a junior college to register a few days ago. An\’an\’s father wanted her to repeat her studies for a year and try to get a bachelor\’s degree, but she firmly disagreed. She said she hated studying and would rather go to a junior college. An\’an\’s father was very depressed about this. An\’an\’s father graduated from elementary school and came out to work in the countryside as a teenager. He was smart, studious and willing to endure hardships. During the opening years, he seized the opportunity and set up his own factory. Now he has a net worth of tens of millions, and he can be regarded as a small tycoon. An\’an\’s mother is from the village next to him. They have two children. The eldest son is now in his early 20s. After graduating from high school, he inherited his father\’s business and learned business from An An\’s father. Both parents believe that An An is a girl and not suitable for business. They especially hope that An An can get into a good school, work as a white-collar worker in an office building in the future, and find an educated man to marry. \”She may not have a lot of money, but she has a high social status!\” \”Our An\’an is very smart. Everyone has praised her since she was a child, but I don\’t know why she doesn\’t like reading. I asked her to repeat her studies, and she would go on a hunger strike to show me!\” said An\’an\’s father. I asked An An\’s father whether he cared about An An\’s studies. He said, \”I care very much. I let her go to the best middle school here, hired a tutor for her, and bought a lot of tutoring books.\” When I asked him: \” Did you read with your child since she was a child? Did you check her homework every day in elementary school?\” An An\’s father hesitated: \”What\’s the use of reading extracurricular books when I was a child! I don\’t have time to check her homework, and I don\’t really understand it. My mother has no education either…\” An\’an\’s father\’s situation can represent some people: he bought a house in a school district for his children, hired a tutor for his children, and enrolled his children in expensive cram schools… but he never accompanied his children to study. Whatever it takes to spend money, you can do it hard, and whatever it takes to spend time and energy, you can\’t do it. To be honest, they spend a lot of money on their children\’s education more for psychological comfort and to shirk responsibility: I have spent so much money and done so many things for you, but you really can\’t study well. Can\’t blame me. In addition to their children\’s textbooks and guidance books, they may not even find a piece of paper at home. When dad comes home, Ge You lies down, and mom plays mahjong most of the time. With the advent of smartphones, they have become inseparable from their phones. The so-called parent-child reading is nothing more than throwing a mobile phone to the child to listen to a story. The so-called accompanying the child in learning is nothing more than looking up and shouting at the child while scrolling through the phone: Go do your homework! The great writer Su Dongpo of the Northern Song Dynasty, his father Su Xun, and his younger brother Su Che were all epoch-making poets. They are masters of prose who have been passed down through the ages. They are known as \”a father and son, three poets\”, also known as the \”Three Sus\”. Sima Qian\’s father, Sima Tan, was the fifth official in the early Han Dynasty. He had extensive knowledge and accomplishments. Sima Qian was deeply influenced by his father. Famous for \”Romance of the Three Kingdoms\”The well-known Cao Cao is a pretty face on the stage, but in fact, Cao Cao was an outstanding statesman, military strategist, writer, and calligrapher in the late Eastern Han Dynasty. He initiated and prospered Jian\’an literature, and Lu Xun evaluated him as \”the founder of reformed articles.\” Cao Cao\’s sons Cao Pi and Cao Zhi both made very high achievements in literature. Later generations will collectively call Cao Cao, Cao Pi, and Cao Zhi the \”Three Caos\”. The famous calligrapher Wang Xizhi loved calligraphy since he was a child. He was taught calligraphy by his father Wang Kuang and his uncle Wang Xizhi. Wang Xizhi had seven sons in total, and all seven sons were accomplished in calligraphy. Among them, the seventh son Wang Xianzhi was the most accomplished, and was called the \”Two Kings\” together with his father Wang Xizhi. In history, there were many cases where several famous people were born in one family. Why did Wenquxing come down to their homes? Could it be that their ancestors have accumulated virtue? The four words \”family origins\” may explain this phenomenon. Parents are children\’s best role models, and everyone\’s learning begins with imitation. The father is addicted to calligraphy, and his son naturally loves to learn calligraphy since he was a child. The father loves poetry and often speaks well in life, and his children take this as an example. Zuckerberg, the founder of the American social networking site Facebook and a billionaire computer scientist from Harvard University, read \”Quantum Mechanics for Babies\” to his one-month-old daughter. Dong Qing said: You should be whatever kind of person you want your children to be. So, why should parents who use their mobile phones all day require their children to study? I have loved reading to my two daughters since they were very young. My sister, Xiao Xi, has been listening attentively since she was seven or eight months old as long as I read a book to her. I will do this every time I trim her nails. When she was in the first class of kindergarten, she already knew a lot of words and independently read complete books such as \”Pinocchio\”, \”The Little Prince\”, \”Robinson Crusoe\” and \”Little Bean by the Window\”. Speaking of which, I have never taught her to read. She gradually learned it through constant parent-child reading. She loves to read very much. If she performed well in any aspect in the first or second grade, the reward she requires is books. She may have read more books than me (of course, this is also because I read too few books). Although Xiaoxi\’s academic performance is not very good at present, her interest in reading continues. When she is bored, she can read recipes, Chinese textbooks, parenting books, and even philosophy books, Buddhist books, etc. seriously. The children’s grandparents sometimes disapprove of my behavior: What books should I read at the age of one or two? A lot of them were torn off! Yes, Xiao Xi and Xiao Nuo tore up a lot of books before they were two years old, but this is a necessary process for children to grow up. What are the benefits of loving reading? Due to space limitations, I cannot elaborate on it. Let me use an old saying: There are thousands of bells of millet in the book, there is a house of gold in the book, there are faces like jade in the book, and there are as many chariots and horses as there are in the book. I can\’t buy high-priced school district housing for my children. I don\’t have the experience and energy to keep a close eye on my children\’s academic performance. I can\’t teach them how to do business, let alone teach them the secrets of politics. But I can study with them, which is the best and cheapest investment, and I can not check my phone in front of them., don’t set a bad example.