As long as you cultivate in this way, you can also raise \”other people\’s children\”

I shared some good news with my friends: this semester, my son was re-elected as class president for the third year, joined the student union, and was elected captain of the school basketball team. Some friends cheered: Wow! This is the legendary male god! Tell me how this little male god was made? If you are not a man, you don\’t care and you don\’t dare to act like one. It\’s just that it\’s not easy to see him making progress step by step, and I feel very gratified. \”Mom, I joined the student union.\” On the first day of school, my son said to me calmly. Now he is always like that, unfazed by favors and humiliations. He was not like this before. He was worried about gains and losses, and was very fragile. After experiencing setbacks and growth, he became calm and strong. He said that each class has two places to join the student union, one is the monitor and the other is a student with particularly good grades. He is the former, and this is his third year as class president. As for how he became the squad leader, we will talk about it later. A few days later, he brought back a sign with the three characters \”Student Union\” on it. His duty is to check the discipline of a ninth-grade class in raising the national flag during morning exercises. He vividly told me about his first mission. He hung his work badge, held a pen and recording paper, stood next to the class, and observed carefully. He found that some classmates had been whispering and laughing, and their class teacher was also chatting with a classmate. He decisively deducted a point, and wrote \”Hehehaha\” in the reason column. The head teacher walked up to him, looked at his record, and asked why points were deducted. He replied in a neither humble nor condescending manner: \”Because you are talking and disrespecting the national flag.\” The head teacher was embarrassed: \”Well, you are right, I failed to take the lead. We will definitely change it next time. What grade are you in?\” Sixth grade, teacher.\” The son replied seriously. \”Oh, you\’ve grown so tall in the sixth grade! Well done, young man. I like you!\” The class teacher patted him heavily on the shoulder and nodded approvingly. The teacher may not have thought that this child He is so serious and serious about his work. Yes, he is such a real, upright and serious boy. Congratulations to him for entering the student union and having a platform to further train himself. Because I am the squad leader, I have the qualifications to enter this platform. The growth of life cannot be like winning the lottery suddenly and having a pie fall from the sky. Every bit of progress and every transformation has a cause and a trace to follow. In fact, my son was not happy from first to third grade. Because of my stubbornness and persistence, I did not allow my son to participate in the weekend tutoring organized by the school. He was not treated well by individual teachers and was treated unfairly. Particularly serious is the third grade. There are only a handful of people in the class who have not participated in tutoring, and he is one of them. From then on, his miserable life began. In the first Chinese language unit test, my son got back a paper with a score of 72. He was extremely frustrated because Chinese is his strong point. I accompanied him to analyze the wrong questions one by one, and found that there was a big problem with the correction. Let’s talk about “looking at pictures and writing words” first. His descriptions are clear and complete, his language is fluent, and his words and sentences are beautiful. In just a few lines, the picture is brought to life. He said that his deskmate only wrote two lines and the sentences were very ordinary, and the teacher only deducted 3 points. What about him? Deducted 12 points! This child, who was taught writing by me step by step when he was in the second grade, was able to write a complete and meaningful essay, and was praised by the Chinese teacher at the time as \”his composition level has caught up with the level of third and fourth graders.\” the first major setback. Let’s talk about other things. His handwriting was obviously correct, but he was judged to be wrong and said it was not good-looking. Find sentences in the passage and underline them. When I saw it, it was right. My son cried and said that he originally made the right mark, but he was deducted 3 points. Later, he went to the teacher to correct it. He did not change it at all, but the teacher made another mark in the original place. hook. If the entire test paper is scored normally, it can score at least 95 points. Faced with my son\’s crying and sadness, I was overwhelmed with emotion. I wanted to go to the teacher and question him, but in the end I held back. I thought of that sentence: If you can\’t change the world, change yourself. This is what I often used to teach my son later on. I told my son that there will always be some accidents in life. Don\’t care too much about temporary results. He only needs to continue to study hard and make himself better and better. Sooner or later, gold will shine. After my repeated comfort, his mood gradually improved. Next, slowly, slowly, his Chinese language test scores finally became more than 80 points and more than 90 points. In the Chinese language test at the final review stage of third grade, he ranked first in the class many times in a row. This is how people are, the more fragile you are, the easier it is to be knocked down; on the contrary, the more others step on you, the more tenacious you will be and grow, and in the end, others will have to obey you. Later, in the final exam, my son scored first in the class. He also believed what I said, \”Gold will shine sooner or later.\” He no longer cared about temporary gains and losses, and his mentality gradually became calmer, and his character became stronger and stronger. Now, I am a little grateful to that teacher. It was her suppression that allowed my son to withstand the test and grow up. Now let’s talk about how he became the squad leader. After entering fourth grade, my son met a very good class teacher, Miss Lu. Unlike her son\’s previous class teacher, who directly appointed the monitor, she gave her classmates the right to democratic elections. My son was elected as class monitor by more than half of his classmates because of his excellent results in the final exam of the third grade and the virtues he developed under my long-term guidance, such as being kind to others, not fighting or swearing, and being willing to help others. From then on, my son began to develop in a better and better direction. Because I was the class monitor, my overall performance was good. Under the recommendation of the class teacher, I was finally selected as the host of the school\’s Children\’s Day program, and my ability was further improved. In the past, he was very introverted and timid. In the fourth grade, he got a lot of exercise opportunities and made great progress. To this day, I am still very grateful to Miss Lu. Without her providing such a campaign opportunity, it would be difficult for my son to have the results and transformation he has today. Fortunately, when he entered the fifth grade, his son met a good class teacher, Miss Meng. She was gentle and patient, and knew how to grasp the students\’ characteristics. She was also humorous even when criticizing, so that the students were happy to accept it. After some understanding, she allowed her son to continue to be the class monitor, and later continued to serve as the host of the Children\’s Day program. This time I am hosting, my son is goneless nervous and apprehensive, but more calm and confident. The repeated experiences have allowed him to grow tremendously. When registering for sixth grade, we were pleasantly surprised to find that our son\’s class teacher was still Miss Meng. We were so happy! Because from the first grade to the fifth grade, they have to readjust their classes and change their head teachers every year. I am really very lucky and very grateful. Although he has moved to a new campus, he has a familiar class teacher and familiar classmates. My son is happy going to and from school every day. Speaking of basketball, there have been some unpleasant moments. When fifth grade started, my son came back and said that the basketball team was going to select new members. I happily asked him if he had signed up. In fact, I thought he must have signed up, because he likes playing basketball the most. He said calmly: No. I was really pissed off, I knew he was back to his old cowardly ways. Ever since he was a child, he would often retreat and would always have to give me a hard kick in the back before he would move forward. With my persuasion, he finally joined the basketball team. From what I know about him, whenever he starts something, he will go all out and achieve good results. After joining the basketball team, he worked really hard, practicing early in the morning and late at night, and soon gained the attention of the coach. In the second semester of fifth grade, he and his sixth-grade teammates participated in the county primary school basketball game and achieved runner-up results. He was the only fifth grader from his school drafted and played every game. In fact, his technique is not the best, he just works hard enough and is not afraid of hardship or fatigue. Later, at his school\’s basketball art festival, he led several boys in his class who could not play basketball to win the fifth grade championship. His friend Xiaopang told me: It all depends on him. We are the ones who win the points. He basically gets the points by himself. He is like crazy, running all over the field. It is like fighting alone. You have to defend, grab and shoot, and I won over him! After the finals, when he came back from school, I found that all his white clothes had turned into gray clothes. He said, can it not get dirty? I am the only professional in our class. How can I win if I don’t work hard? Don\’t give up on every ball. Even if it\’s about to roll out of the sideline, you have to fight for it. Sometimes it seems that you can\’t catch it and you can only roll and slide on the ground to save it. Ask him if it hurts? He said it hurt. He was hit by someone and fell to the ground. It hurt so much that he had no strength to walk. But he was very happy because he had won honors for the class. My son’s idol is Curry. He has a very obvious characteristic. He studies deeply in whatever he likes and forgets to eat and sleep. He watched a lot of videos of Curry\’s games, studied his movements, and he understood everything related to Curry. He not only studies Curry, but also other NBA superstars. Of course, any effort will not be wasted. All his performances on the court are seen by the coach. No, as soon as he entered the sixth grade, he was elected as the new basketball captain. Having said all that, there is nothing special. Compared with many people, my son is very ordinary. He is not like many children who are proficient in music, chess, calligraphy and painting, and have various talents. He is not a male god at all, but compared to him in the past, he has improved a lot and is getting better and better, and that is enough. As for how to cultivate, I think we should pay attention to the following points, so that children canUnderstand these principles: 1. To learn literature, you must first be a human being. First of all, cultivate children\’s good moral character, such as kindness, tolerance, helpfulness, respecting teachers and teaching, loving the collective, etc. A person with high moral character will win the respect and love of others. 2. Cultivate your child\’s self-confidence from an early age and let him believe that \”I am born with talents that will be useful\”. Gold will shine sooner or later. 3. When a child is timid and shrinks, encourage him and help him, so that he can overcome his inner demons and take a crucial step. 4. Let children understand: If you can’t change the world, just change yourself and make yourself stronger. Only when you are strong enough can others see you and opportunities will find you. 5. If you want to become stronger, there is no other way, just fight, fight, and fight again. 6. Be grateful to those who have helped you. Any success is inseparable from the right time, place and people. Without those noble people, it would not be so smooth. We are always used to envying other people’s children, thinking that they are simply little gods and goddesses. In fact, there are no gods or goddesses. They just take one step at a time and finally reach the other side of their dreams. As a parent, as long as you pay more attention to nurturing your children from an early age, be willing to accompany your children to grow up slowly, and lead by example, you can also raise an enviable \”other people\’s children.\”