High-level parents will grow up with their children

Yesterday I had lunch with a boss of the company and colleagues from the branch. During the conversation, the topic of fitness was discussed. The boss said that after stopping exercise for 20 years, he started working out again. He practiced plank support every day and lost a lot of fat on his stomach. I asked casually: \”Why did you suddenly start exercising?\” Unexpectedly, the boss took a sip of tea and said to me seriously: \”For my daughter.\” He said that his daughter has gained weight recently because she likes to eat snacks. After losing a lot of weight, he was a little worried about the impact on his daughter\’s health, so he persuaded her to lose weight. As a result, his daughter pointed at his belly and said, \”Dad, your belly is so big, and you still ask me to lose weight?\” The boss realized at that time that it was obviously inappropriate for him to unilaterally ask his daughter to lose weight without paying attention to exercise. So he and his daughter made an agreement, that is, they would work out at the same time. Both parties have set goals. He also promised his daughter that she will build 8-pack abs within 2 years and return to the body she had in her 20s. With her father\’s participation, her daughter happily started working out. Moreover, he and his daughter \”report\” each other\’s exercise status to each other every day. He is particularly happy to see that his daughter can fit into pants of a smaller size every once in a while. \”Exercise and study together with your children will make them more motivated and easier to persevere.\” The boss revealed to us his own secrets in raising his daughter. His daughter is studying abroad and is excellent in all aspects. He is also a high-level elite. He is responsible for strategic layout and international business in our company. He often flies to various countries around the world and is proficient in many foreign languages. Wang Tao in \”Rules and Love\”: \”Parents who cannot grow up in love with their children must not be good parents.\” According to my observation, the higher the level of parents, the more they value the role of role models, and the more they They will choose to learn and grow with their children, while parents with low levels prefer to unilaterally require their children to learn a variety of knowledge and refuse to learn and grow with their children. Recently, a Douban post went viral. It was a netizen complaining about his 10-year-old nephew. It is said that this little nephew has excellent academic performance and outstanding hobbies such as Math Olympiad, Go, and roller skating. However, he complains that his parents are not worthy of such an outstanding son. As a result, various opinions came to the Internet. Some people said that this child was so ungrateful when he said this to his parents. Others said that this child was a \”refined egoist.\” But thinking about it carefully, we really can’t refute the child’s point of view. According to his statement, it is speculated that his parents must not work as hard as him to learn new skills, nor do they have many hobbies. At least he is good at Go, Parents don’t know how to roller skate and wait. According to the principle of \”people are divided into groups\”, it seems reasonable for this child to dislike his parents. When parents spend all their hard-earned money on their children, hoping that their children will become dragons and phoenixes, they never think that they will be disliked by their children. And some children refuse to learn because their parents don\’t grow up. The reason is that you don\’t like learning, so why do you ask me to learn? The root cause of all this is that parents do not realize that growing up with their childrenThe importance of longevity. Xiaomei\’s son\’s grades have dropped drastically recently. She arranged various cram schools for her son on weekends, but they still didn\’t have any good results. In desperation, she sought out her son for a heart-to-heart talk, but her son\’s words left her speechless. The son said to her: Mom, I have never seen you and dad reading or writing. You watch TV and play on your mobile phones every day. Why should I study? When I grow up, won’t it be enough for me to live like you? Dr. John Coleman, president of a youth research association in the United States, believes that many behaviors of children are related to behavioral changes in adults. He said that adults are becoming more and more open about their habits, emotions and worries, and children often imitate adults. Therefore, if you are a parent who is constantly learning and growing, your children will definitely be affected. If you stand still all day long, your children will also be affected. I think this is the normal state of life. Therefore, some people say that high-level parents will not watch TV while their children are reading and doing homework, nor will they ask their children to learn this or that, but they do not even have a skill that they can use. They will only learn new skills with their children, or at least like to read books, so that the children can feel that their parents are also working hard to learn and grow, instead of just asking them blindly. Of course, growing up with children does not require parents to learn the same skills or courses at the same time as their children. Rather, parents should set an example for their children with their own learning attitude, and they should be aware that their words and deeds have a great impact on their children. Just like the high-level CEO of our company, when his daughter refused to lose weight, he immediately stated that he also wanted to keep fit and started to practice it. His daughter saw that her father could do it, so she was naturally willing to work hard. Moreover, during the process of exercising together, father and daughter can communicate and encourage each other, which makes it easier for both parties to be more motivated. During this process, the boss said that his wife was also infected and started running and practicing yoga. Not only did their whole family gain a healthy body because of fitness, but more importantly, the whole family enjoyed the joy of growing together. Xiaomei obviously failed to do this, so when her son questioned her, she was speechless. I like what Huang Jingru said: Parents treat their children the same way. They must have the belief to grow with their children and present their best selves to them. Only by letting go of prejudices can children feel secure both materially and spiritually, only then can children grow up healthily and happily, and only then can parents achieve better versions of themselves. In reality, too many parents, like the parents of 10-year-old children and Xiaomei, unilaterally force their children to grow, but ignore that they themselves also need to grow. What you gain in the end may be an outstanding social person like a 10-year-old boy, but you have lost a lovely child and the rare affection between each other. I think this is something that all parents do not want to see. . Only by growing up with your children can you avoid raising a \”white-eyed\” child and gain an excellent and grateful child. Liu Yong once said: Parents should care about their children’s souls.When children are spiritual partners on the road to growth, they grow up with their children, more like friends, giving to each other, and loving each other more because they love each other, rather than one-sided love. Parents who grow up with their children, both children and parents are happy. If you think about the happy families around you, it is true that parents and children learn and grow together. Not long ago, Liu Guoliang\’s 7-year-old daughter won the runner-up in the 2017 U.S. Kids Golf World Golf Championship, which made many parents lament that \”a tiger father has no dog son.\” But in fact, according to Liu Guoliang, he and his wife both like to play golf. They have taken their two daughters to participate in it since they were young, which made their daughters fall in love with golf from an early age. Moreover, Liu Guoliang himself is a leader whether he is an athlete or a coach and has won numerous awards. Many times, he and his daughter participate in competitions together in different arenas. This invisibly makes her daughter feel that her father is constantly working hard and growing like herself. This influence is better than any education method. High-level parents will grow up with their children. Not only are children strictly required to continue to learn and grow, but more importantly, they are also strict with themselves. Use practical actions to make children realize that learning and progress is something we must insist on doing throughout our lives, and a life without learning or progress is destined to be dull.