If you are reluctant to spank your children this year, they will spank you next year.

The consequences of spoiling minors must ultimately be borne by adults. Someone asked on Zhihu: What is the worst child you have ever seen? Some people say that they bully other children because they are bigger than others; some people say that they are young and full of swear words; others say that they are sneaky and deceitful; these children are undoubtedly bad children, but the worst child I have ever seen is It looked like this – a little boy raised his foot and kicked his own mother five times in succession because his mother refused to let him play with his mobile phone. His grandmother failed to dissuade him, but his mother did not fight back. In front of everyone, the 14-year-old girl slapped her father more than ten times, punched, kicked, and kicked her. The father not only did not fight back, but he also did not get angry. The son cried and asked his mother to buy toys, but the mother refused to buy them. The son pinched the mother\’s neck until she agreed, and the mother allowed her willful son to grab her hair. The reason why these children are said to be the worst – imagine a person who is so vicious to his parents, a person who has a hot temper and fights if he disagrees with him. When he grows up, who can he tolerate? The unbelievable behavior of these children touched many people, and many people condemned them for being so heartless and worse than animals: How angry a child can be, even beating his parents; they are really white-eyed wolves, and their parents really feed them in vain… Don\’t think this is just As a case study, Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University told a short story: When giving a lecture on \”Disciple Rules\” about \”keeping filial piety and brotherhood\”, he asked his assistant to search for examples of \”unfilial piety and father-killing\” within a year, and then print them out as a case for the speech. . Ironically, after a while, the assistant told him: \”There is no printing paper!\” Since ancient times, he has been adhering to the principle of \”filial piety first\” and \”ruling the country with filial piety\”. In ancient times, it was a serious crime for children to beat and scold their parents, and those who insulted their grandparents and parents could be sentenced to death at most, not to mention beating or killing. But now, the frequent incidents of children beating and injuring their parents have been called a \”new type of domestic violence\”, which makes people ponder why parents give everything to their children, but children retaliate with fists and kicks? Some people may think that to easily escalate a child\’s troubles at home to \”domestic violence\” is to label the child indiscriminately and is alarmist. But when you see news like this: a 20-year-old boy picked up a kitchen knife and hacked his biological mother to death in a pool of blood because he couldn\’t get money online; a 16-year-old girl imprisoned her mother for 8 days and deprived her of food for 4 days. He was tied to a chair and beaten, and his mother was tortured to death; a 15-year-old boy who killed his mother actually said he \”doesn\’t regret it\”; a 14-year-old girl who killed her grandmother was sentenced to 12 years… Do you still think this is an exaggeration? Children hitting their parents happen frequently, but what is even sadder than the incident is that parents are indifferent to their children beating them (such as the attitude of parents in the news mentioned at the beginning of the article). They choose not to resist, and even \”Mom can\’t be beaten\” Dare to go home” and other jaw-dropping scenes. Some parents are complacent about their children\’s beating behavior, and even enjoy \”encouraging their children to hit\”. I once saw a grandma laughing from ear to ear at the fact that her one-year-old granddaughter was able to hit people. She believed that her granddaughter\’s hitting was a sign of her ability, and she went around \”showing off and practicing\” her child\’s hitting skills. Needless to say, these parents mayMost of the old people hold this mentality: it is normal for children to be ignorant; children are playing around; children can commit any serious things; children will know how to be filial when they grow up… In the words of Mr. Lu Xun – \”Angrily… \”Don\’t fight, regret the misfortune\” is a perfect way to describe their thinking. I believe many people have heard the story of \”stealing needles when you are young, stealing gold when you grow up\”. If the mistakes made in childhood are not corrected in time and allowed to develop bad character, it may lead to making bigger mistakes when you grow up. The child is young and ignorant. No matter who he hits, he must stop this behavior the first time the child hits someone. Otherwise, the concept of right and wrong will be confused, and he will likely hit you harder when you grow up. Currently, everyone is advocating happy education and demanding respect for children. Although parents should not educate their children too harshly or beat and scold them, if the child has reached the point of beating his parents and the parents still don\’t take it seriously, what awaits him will be the child becoming more and more nervous. Parents, don’t think it’s okay to hit your children because they are young. In the end, you have to eat what you sow. If parents don\’t \”beat\” their children today, their children will beat you tomorrow. This year it is news that children hit their parents. If parents don\’t care about it, next year it will be common news. In addition to parents who don\’t take it seriously, there are also parents who suffer silently when their children beat themselves because they only focus on their grades and distorted personalities. These parents are willing to be their children\’s \”punching bags\” and only want their children to do well, but they don\’t know that adulthood is more important than success. Do you still remember the incident of \”Shenzhen civil servant Liao Tianye beating and scolding his parents\”? Liao Tianye is an out-and-out child with good grades – he graduated from Peking University and was admitted to the civil service, but how did he treat his parents in the end: When his parents in their sixties went to take care of Liao Tianye\’s children, they were beaten and scolded by their son for trivial matters. His clothes were torn by his son, and his left shoulder was bitten by his son until blood flowed. He was eventually kicked out of the house by his son. After years of nurturing and cultivation by her parents, what she got in return was biting and beatings that were worse than animals. In the face of public criticism, the old father who was beaten still tolerated Liao Tianye blindly, \”I hope reporters will not put too much pressure on my son. This is a family matter for us.\” As soon as the incident came out, Xu Guangxing, a professor at the Department of Psychology at East China Normal University, analyzed : Liao is the only son in the family, and his parents dote on him. When he makes mistakes, they fail to correct them in time but tolerate them again and again. As the saying goes, \”one handsome man covers all ugliness\”, his parents only paid attention to his academic performance and obviously lacked in his character development. The consequences of spoiling minors must ultimately be borne by adults. The habit of only focusing on achievements and not on personality will not only harm him, but also harm himself. The sensational \”foreign student airport matricide\” case is the best example. Wang Jiajing, who has been studying in Japan for five years, is 25 years old. He still asks his mother for 7,000 yuan in tuition and living expenses every month. When her mother cannot pay, he stabbed her at the airport nine times when she came to pick her up. It is sad that the mother defended her child by saying \”the child is mentally ill\” even though her life was not in danger, but in the end she lost to the law. Perhaps, the moment her son was imprisoned, the mother realized that her blind toleration, pampering, and arrogance, and her only pursuit of results were the real culprits who killed her children. Parents, don’t think that if your children have good grades, it’s okay to act bad. In the end, you will reap the consequences of what you sow.Eat it yourself. If parents don\’t \”beat\” their children today, their children will definitely beat you tomorrow. Today it is news that children hit their parents. If parents don\’t care, someone will take care of their children for you in the future. The best family tradition of respect and gratitude. Looking at children who are violent towards their parents, they have one thing in common, that is, they do not know how to be grateful to their parents. Take the above \”foreign student airport matricide\” as an example. At the age of 25, he should have been able to earn living expenses on his own, but he asked his mother for it with peace of mind. When his mother couldn\’t provide the money, he actually didn\’t show any kindness and was filled with resentment in return. The sharp blade. This is the tragedy of Chinese-style parents. They give everything to their children and respond to their children\’s requests, which inflates their children\’s selfish and greedy desires. Once their parents fail to meet any of their demands, they become ugly and ugly. Even sometimes, parents have spent everything they have. I have seen news like this, a young man beat his parents in the street just because he disliked the small wedding house his parents bought. Netizens\’ comments were very touching: \”I don\’t give you much, but it\’s all I have.\” Outsiders can see the truth. Why do children who are aware of their parents\’ income and hardships just attack them mercilessly? A research organization once conducted a questionnaire survey on children from the United States, Japan, and China called \”Who do you respect the most?\” The person whom American children respect most is their father, followed by Michael Jordan and mother. The person whom Japanese children respect most is also their father, followed by mother and Ryoma Sakamoto. And there Among the Chinese children surveyed, the most respected person was not their parents at all. Their father was ranked last, ranked 10th, and their mother was even worse, squeezed out of the top 10, ranked 11th. Under the influence of the rich second generation, everyone is centered around children, allowing children to form a thinking mode of \”everyone revolves around me and serves me\”. Only in this way can the children who grow up respect others. It\’s strange! I watched an episode of the variety show \”Chinese Restaurant\” and I strongly agree with Zhao Wei\’s parenting philosophy: \”When educating children, you must not take them too seriously. Otherwise, your children will feel superior. In the future, your children will also feel that you are superior. You’re not that important”. Being ungrateful and disrespectful towards children is because parents take their children too seriously, and children who are ungrateful and disrespectful to their parents will be more terrifying than wolves as adults. The best love is for children to learn to be grateful, and the best family tradition is for children to learn to respect. Teach children to respect and be grateful, and incidents of parents beating their children will become a fantasy. Wise parents know how to cultivate awe in their children. Someone has done a survey. What is the bottom line for parents to accept that their children in kindergarten are punished? The most common results received are – \”punished to stand for a few minutes\” or \”gently beaten\”, which is probably the maximum that parents can endure. The current society is filled with the phenomenon that parents are reluctant to take care of it, and schools dare not take care of it. The cost of children making mistakes is low, and children An educational atmosphere without awe. Some time ago, Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University gave a speech on a forum about \”You will not be able to cultivate outstanding children without beating, scolding, or punishment.\” It went viral in the circle of friends. Some of the sentences were like this ’s: Today’s children, the cost of making mistakes is too low. We need to tell them that they have to pay a price for making mistakes. I think educationWe can no longer just give in. We must be truly responsible for our children. After all, children are not adults. They must be disciplined and punished. They must be made to know that education is more than just happiness, and learning is more than just happiness!我觉得我现在非常羡慕我父母，他们敢骂孩子、揍孩子，但是我们依然爱他们。 Children today cannot be hit or scolded, even a look may kill their elders tomorrow. We do not have some control, restraint, or restraint on our children, and we blindly give in to them in the name of love. This kind of education is wrong. This professor proposed that \”no good children can be cultivated without beating, scolding and punishment.\” Although he does not agree with stick education and corporal punishment education, he supports reasonable and measured punishment education so that children can have a sense of awe. The ancients said: \”If you are afraid, you will not dare to do anything and you will be virtuous; if you are fearless, you will do what you want and bring disaster.\” Compared with what children do today when they beat their parents, it shows a lack of awe. Kalinin said that adolescence is a beautiful period that can never be regained, and is the beginning of all light and happiness in the future. In order to let your children have the best start at the best age, please establish the dignity that parents should have and let their children have a sense of awe. Children who are in awe of their parents will respect the rules and be more self-disciplined. Children beating their parents may not have happened to you yet; maybe it has already happened. If parents still tolerate their children because their children are young and their grades are good, if they don\’t \”beat\” their children this year, their children will beat you next year.