Poor children also need to be rich

Last week, my husband\’s cousin was sick and hospitalized, and we went to the hospital to visit. When he arrived at the hospital, his cousin was lying weakly on the hospital bed receiving infusions. His face looked very ugly and he looked exhausted. When asked about the condition, it turned out to be various deficiencies caused by long-term malnutrition. I wonder, I only heard that people are over-nourished, and some people are taller than others. How come they are still unhealthy? After coming out of the ward, I asked my husband what happened? He said that his cousin thought the food in the company restaurant was expensive and was reluctant to eat it, so he just dealt with it blindly. As time went by, his body couldn\’t bear it. But this delay lasted for at least ten days, causing him to miss work and miss work. He lost more than half a month\’s salary and still had to pay for it. It costs a lot of medical expenses and nutritional expenses, and I really don’t know which one is more cost-effective. In fact, my cousin is the technical backbone of the company and his salary is not low. His wife and children live in his hometown town and he has opened an online store. The family\’s financial conditions are not bad. The reason why he is so frugal is the idea instilled in him by his parents when he was a child. Because the family conditions were not good, he was told one word from an early age: save, save, save. No matter how good the life is, if you don\’t save money, you will lose your family. My cousin has followed this philosophy over the years, living a regular life and saving whatever he can. Even if he has money, he doesn\’t dare to spend it, for fear that something will happen one day and he will go back to the days of poverty. In terms of career, I didn\’t even dare to take any risks, and I gave up several opportunities to change jobs. A few years ago, a classmate opened a company. Because of his good skills, he invited his cousin to join him as a shareholder. He was afraid of the risks and did not agree. But now, his classmate\’s company has hundreds of employees and is doing well. It is too late for his cousin to regret it. In this era, working hard to get rich is not obsolete, but it is no longer the only necessary element. More, it depends on grasping the rhythm of the times and effective execution. Vision, courage, resources, and the art of coordination are all important. Children raised in poverty have a very calculating heart, and it is difficult for them to grasp the pulse of the times boldly. Even if the opportunity is right in front of them, they are prone to miss it again and again because of their hesitation. The body is poor for one life, and the heart is poor for three generations. Therefore, no matter how poor you are, you must be rich to raise your children. Or you may say, if the family has no money, how can the children be rich? No, this wealth is not material, but spiritual. Don’t always teach your children heavy topics about how poor, miserable and difficult your family is. You can\’t let your children be materially rich, but you can\’t let your children be spiritually poor. If he has a dream, tell him that your dream is beautiful and you deserve the best. When he grows up, he will definitely try his best to chase his dreams without being particularly calculating. My best friend Ms. Xie’s parents are ordinary working-class people, but they gave Ms. Xie a rich spiritual world. After graduating from college, she took the civil service exam because she loved writing and wanted to be a professional coder. When others were struggling to get into the system, she quit her job without tossing and turning, and her parents fully supported her. Today, she has published two best-selling books, opened a company, and made a public account, and her life is flowing smoothly. She has never calculated anything, but she has harvested flowers along the way. Children who are spiritually rich know what they want and have no worries about being afraid of wolves in the front and tigers in the back. A child raised in poverty carries a ruler in his heart to measure the gains and losses, and only focuses onAt present, it is naturally difficult to achieve long-term development. In \”A Dream of Red Mansions\”, I always think that the best marriage is between Xing Xiuyan and Xue Biao. They met on the way to Jia\’s house and developed a liking for each other. Later, Xing Xiuyan was favored by Aunt Xue, which led to this good relationship. Xing Xiuyan was born into a very poor family. After she came to Jia\’s house, she was so poor that she had to sell clothes. In the ice and snow, everyone was wearing colorful clothes to enjoy the snow. She was the only one wearing thin clothes. She was hunched over from the cold, but the kind-hearted Ping\’er took it. Give her clothes. In fact, Xing Xiuyan\’s original family was not good, otherwise she would not have defected to the Jia family, but she had a heart of wealth that was neither humble nor overbearing. No matter how embarrassed she was, she was generous. Even a noble person like Miaoyu was like her. are friends. In the end, she impressed many people with her good qualities, and they were willing to extend their warm hands to her and lead her out of the quagmire. In \”A Dream of Red Mansions\”, although Xing Xiuyan\’s mother is never mentioned in a word, it can be guessed from her behavior that her mother has been spiritually nourishing for her. And Sister You, who, like Xing Xiuyan, lives in the Jia family, has been secretly communicating with her brother-in-law Jia Zhen for a long time, and has no relationship with her nominal nephew Jia Rong. She also covets Jia Lian\’s small favors and commits herself to him, and finally A dream goes to hell. Many times, when it was described that Second Sister You and Third Sister You were fooling around with the Jia family\’s father and son, Mrs. You quietly withdrew and provided them with \”convenience.\” It\’s strange that a mother like this can raise a daughter with a lot of heart. . You see, the same two girls who came from poor backgrounds got a good marriage for a lifetime because one had a rich heart; the other ended up in an abyss of eternal destruction because of a poor heart. Some people, due to a long-term sense of deprivation in childhood, tend to be extravagant and lustful once they have power. Just like the opening of the popular drama \”In the Name of the People\” some time ago, Zhao Dehan, director of the project department of a certain ministry, was reported for corruption and bribery. Prosecutor Hou Liangping led people to find cash filled the entire room in the villa. The scene Very shocking. Zhao Dehan said that he was afraid of poverty. In fact, it was his poor thinking that made his soul barren and barren all his life. His values ​​​​are still that of a poor boy in the countryside. What he saw since childhood was narrow and lacking, and what he saw later could not fill his heart. He used this desperate method of amassing money to find a sense of security, leading him step by step to the point of no return. The fear of being poor is a concept engraved in one’s bones and will affect many behavioral patterns. Children raised in poverty are too pursuing cost-effectiveness and cost-effectiveness. The road becomes narrower and narrower, and they become poorer and poorer. And children who are spiritually rich, even if they have a bad hand, will play their best step by step and leap to a bigger world. Therefore, no matter how poor you are, you must raise your children richly. Being rich is not about extreme material satisfaction, but about spiritual and spiritual nourishment. It is a kind of moral education based on parents’ understanding of their children, igniting their spiritual development. lights. Children who are raised rich have natural self-confidence, a sense of poise that is neither humble nor arrogant, and are mentally full and appropriate. Such children have their own direction in their hearts. They will be calm and calm all the way, and walk out of their own vast sky.