Fight dad, you have to do it as soon as possible

In the square, two three- and four-year-old children were playing in the sand. They suddenly got into an argument for some reason. One said: My dad said… Another said: My dad said… One got excited: My dad is a teacher, he must be right. The other one was even more excited: My dad is a doctor. He knows so many things that he can’t fit them all in a room or even this square. What he said is right! I couldn\’t help but laugh, haha, two guys at such a young age know how to fight for their father! Well, right from the moment a person is born, his or her parents are the people closest to him or her, and their words and deeds have a profound impact on their children. In the eyes of children, parents are role models and the first mentors in life. Parents\’ behavior, words and deeds are mirrors for children to refer to. According to many studies, fathers have a far greater influence on children\’s personality than mothers, especially boys. It is easier for a father to help his children have perseverance, a global perspective, and lead them to stand higher and see further, that is, to have a higher life pattern. Take two children A and B as an example. The children are both \”human beings are inherently good\” and as pure and innocent as a blank sheet of paper, but their father is a completely different father. When the child is babbling and toddler, the father leads the child to play outside. A was holding a snack packaging bag in his hand. He was at a loss and looked at his father blankly. At this time, the father pointed to the ground and asked A to throw it away. A didn\’t move. The father took the packaging bag from A\’s hand and threw it on the ground. Just as a gust of wind passed by, the packaging bag flew up like a butterfly. A danced happily and chased the packaging bag. B was also holding a snack packaging bag in his hand. He was at a loss and looked at his father blankly. At this time, the father pointed to the trash can not far away and said: \”This baby is great, go and throw it in the trash can yourself, okay?\” B did not move. Father took B\’s hand, walked to the trash can, took his little hand, and guided him to throw the garbage into the trash can. After a few times, both A and B learned to deal with the garbage in their hands. A threw it away and B threw it into the trash can, and even sorted it. This is the difference, this is the initial manifestation of \”fighting dad\”. When the child is in elementary school, there are inevitably naughty and domineering classmates in the class. Both A and B are deeply disturbed by this and complain to their father. A said that so-and-so beat him today. So-and-so is the bully in the class. All the classmates are annoying him, and even the teacher can\’t control him. The father said: \”Isn\’t that easy? Fight back! If he bullies you again, beat him so hard that he will kneel down and beg for mercy. He will not dare to bully you next time, and you will become the boss in the class. .\” A complied, and sure enough, he soon became the new \”big brother.\” Everyone was respectful when they saw him, but he didn\’t know that others were actually avoiding him. B said that so-and-so hit him today, that so-and-so was the bully in the class, and that all the classmates were annoying him, and even the teacher couldn\’t control him. The father said: \”Son, I understand your troubles very well. I also encountered such a situation when I was a child. You have to know that people come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. You may encounter them at any time and anywhere. You don’t like people, or people who don’t like you. Don’t be afraid. What should you do if you are bullied? Tell the teacher or ask your parents to mediate. Of course, you can, but the best way is for youSolve it with your own wisdom. \”\”wisdom? B asked puzzledly. \”For example, if he wants to snatch your toys, you can say, let\’s play together. I have many fun ways.\” Then demonstrate it to him, and he will be attracted and start playing with you before he knows it. For example, if he wants to destroy everyone\’s game, you can invite him to participate, tell him fun ideas, and let him play a role in the game that he is interested in. He will soon be able to get involved and see your abilities. He will admire you. If you invite him enthusiastically when there is a game in the future, he will cooperate in a friendly manner and eventually become your good friend. \”B followed his father\’s method and not only subdued the little bully, but also made more and more friends. He also became the \”big brother\” in the class, but everyone supported him sincerely. When he encountered difficulties in study, the two The two fathers also dealt with it in completely different ways. A hesitated to bring the failed test paper to his father. The father grabbed the schoolbag, dumped everything on the ground, pulled out the test paper, and saw the bright red score. , so angry that he almost spit out a mouthful of blood. Undoubtedly, A was beaten violently. From then on, he changed his mind when he heard the scores, suffered from test phobia, could not concentrate in class, and his grades went from bad to worse. In the end, after completing compulsory education, he He didn\’t go to school anymore and was idle all day, going to Internet cafes, fighting and making troubles, and learned to smoke, drink, and pick up girls. B took the failed test paper to his father, with a look of guilt on his face. His father looked at the score and smiled gently: \”It\’s okay, two at a time. The results of this time cannot represent everything. Come, let\’s find out the reasons together and try not to make the same mistakes next time. Exams cannot represent everything, learning is a lifelong lesson. We will encounter many difficulties in our life. Don\’t be afraid. As long as we are strong, brave and perseverant, we can overcome them and make things smoother and smoother. Dad believes in you. In my mind, you will always be the best. I hope you study well, but I also hope you are happy. \”A few years later, B was admitted to a top university in the country, and then went abroad for further study. After returning from his studies, he became an executive of a well-known multinational company. A\’s father cheated on him, and A angrily went to question him. The father said nonchalantly, \”Don\’t Making a fuss is what the current social atmosphere is, just for fun and not serious. A thinks about it, the people he comes in contact with are even more ridiculous, and his father\’s matter is really nothing. He even went to persuade his mother who cried, made trouble, and hanged herself: Compared with some people, Dad has already made up his mind. Firstly, he has not transferred his property, secondly, he has no illegitimate children, and thirdly, he has not divorced his wife. You are already so old. If you really get divorced, it will be difficult to find someone else. The rest of your life will be difficult. What to do? Let\’s make do with it. What about A\’s own marriage and family situation? Marriage and divorce are like child\’s play, and they have lived in dire straits for a long time. B and his father talked about a relative\’s divorce due to cheating. His father Said: My child, you have grown into a man now, and it’s time to talk to you about marriage and family issues. Our ancestors taught us to be loyal to our partners, respect and love each other, and only in this way can we have a happy family. . This is how your mother and I are. I hope you will love your wife like this in the future and have a happy family. Compared with a successful career, a happy family can make you happier and more satisfied. BFollow your father\’s teachings, keep yourself clean, and be considerate of your family. As a result, the family is happy and happy, and the career is prosperous. Everyone calls him the big winner in life. Judging from this case, the lives of A and B are completely different. Among other factors, shouldn’t they reflect on the huge impact their father’s performance had on them at every critical moment in their lives? The father\’s completely different performance directly or indirectly affected the formation of their outlook on life and values, leaving an indelible mark on their entire lives. Exaggerated? No exaggeration. In terms of character and quality, behavior, learning attitude, outlook on life and values, etc., \”fighting for dad\” is really important. If done well, it is enough for children to create noble, noble and happy souls that can illuminate their entire lives. \”Fight for Dad\” should be done as early as possible. The earlier, the better the effect.