When our generation gets older, will we still be willing to help our children take care of them?

I took my baby for a walk in the community and chatted with a mother who was also raising her second baby. Talking about the problem of many people being forced to have a second child, she had a different experience. She and her husband are both only children, and their daughter is eight years old. They could have had a second child a few years earlier, but because both parents were not enthusiastic about the matter, they have been shelved. Her biological mother said: \”If I want to have a second child, I will give birth to you. Isn\’t it great? Besides, don\’t so many people only have one child?\” Her mother-in-law said euphemistically: \”It all depends on whether you have a child or not.\” You, granddaughter, we couldn\’t help you much at that time, thank you for your hard work, parents.\” She and her husband love children very much. Once the second-child policy is allowed, they will discuss having another child to accompany the eldest child, so that her mother can There is no reason to object. Her mother did not object again, but made it clear that she could give birth, but she would not help take care of the baby. She got angry and said to her mother: \”At worst, I will take care of it myself.\” During the confinement period, her mother-in-law came from more than a thousand kilometers away to take care of her and the child. Her mother visited her several times and helped her pick her up and drop her off. The eldest goes to school. After confinement, her father-in-law fell ill due to lack of care. Her mother-in-law was so anxious that her mouth blistered, so she bought a ticket and sent her mother-in-law back to her hometown. In the past few months, she was on maternity leave, raising her second child by herself, while her parents helped her with the eldest child. She said she didn\’t really understand her mother until she was alone with her children. When the eldest son was born, her mother had not yet reached retirement age. Her mother-in-law was thousands of miles away and her living habits were very different from hers. Her mother felt sorry for her, so she took an internal retirement to help her take care of the children. This area is surrounded by eight Year. In the past eight years, as the weather came and went, spring, summer, autumn and winter, her mother did not let the two of them delay work for the sake of their children, but she herself became much older. Once, her mother talked about how her former colleagues traveled all over the country after they retired, and her eyes were filled with envy. If she wasn\’t helping me take care of my children, she would be like everyone else, going to places she hadn\’t visited when she was young. She could paint the paintings she liked to paint again, and her body would be stronger than it is now. So it’s completely understandable that she doesn’t want to help me with my dick. She added: \”I wonder how many of us will be willing to help take care of our children when we get old?\” After listening to her words, I thought about my future life, and it was scary to think about it. We are now in our thirties, and our second baby is waiting to be fed. Eighteen years later, the second child went to college, feeling like he had finally gotten over it. But one day, the boss came back and said, Mom, I’m getting married. It\’s good to get married, it solves one of my parents\’ worries. But after a year of marriage, a child was born. The couple had to work, so they had no choice but to ask their parents for help. You think you should help them. When the eldest child went to school, the second child came back and said, \”Mom, I\’m getting married.\” Then take the second child. Not long after, the boss said, Mom, I’m going to give birth to a second child. As a result, the old couple had no choice but to separate and take one person into the family. After finally getting over it, the second child said, Mom, my wife is going to have a second child. When I got over it, my eyes were dazzled, my back was hunched, and I couldn\’t go anywhere. This is not bad, but he may die before he gets over it. My whole life ends with giving birth to babies, raising babies, and helping to raise babies. But we are so notBe willing to admit that there are still so many places I have not been to in my life, so many things I want to do that I have not done, and so many wishes that have not been realized. Therefore, I think that when I get old, I will not be willing to help take care of my children. Even if I help, it is not what I happily begged to do. We will probably no longer be like some parents today who do everything possible to force their children to have children, and promise that you only have to give birth to them, and you don’t have to worry about anything else. If you don\’t give birth, it\’s treacherous and unfilial. When I was traveling with my children last year, there was an elderly couple in the group. Their eyes were full of envy and resentment when they heard that the father was taking the eldest child on a trip while the mother was taking care of the second child at home. During the chat, I learned that their daughter-in-law was three months pregnant with her second child and decided to abort it. Even though they promised to help her with the baby, they still didn\’t keep the child. \”We prepared everything for them, and we also helped them take care of the children, but they just wouldn\’t give birth. In anger, we, the old couple, came out to relax.\” When we get older, the children will have children if they want to, and if they don\’t want to, they won\’t. , I can have as many children as I want, as long as we don’t need to help take care of the children. It is their freedom to have children or not, and it is our freedom to have children or not. We probably won\’t be like some parents today who are afraid that if we don\’t take care of our children, they won\’t support us in old age. In the eyes of many people in the past, especially the eyes of daughters-in-law, if you help me take care of the children, I will take care of you until you grow old. If you don\’t take care of the children for me, you will die alone. \”Raising children to prevent old age\” is a deep-rooted concept among many people, but now, we understand that raising children does not necessarily prevent old age, and not raising children does not necessarily mean that one\’s later life will be miserable. More and more young people have this concept: Our parents have fulfilled their responsibility in raising us, and it is our responsibility to raise our own children. There is no reason for us to deprive our parents of happiness in the rest of their lives. In this case, when we grow old, we naturally don’t want our children to deprive us of our happiness in the rest of our lives. We will work hard to earn enough for our own pension and will not leave our destiny in the hands of our children in our later years. We probably won\’t be like some parents today who regard their children as everything to them. Even if they are wronged, we still have to live with our children and take care of their lives. I saw a report a while ago that some parents were depressed and even suffered from depression because they had to help take care of their children for a long time. Today\’s children are no longer like they used to live with each other, and their parents live in their own homes and take care of their children. Nowadays, children are scattered all over the world, even abroad. If you want to help take care of your children, you have to leave the place where you have lived for half your life and adapt to everything all over again. Even for various reasons, you have to be separated from your husband or wife. Coupled with the difference in concepts from the children, there are many contradictions. The great responsibility of raising children and the various pressures make many parents overwhelmed, and more and more parents are unwilling to help their children. More and more children do not want to live with the elderly. When these children grow old, they will naturally not want to live with their children. We ourselves are not willing to have more children, so how can we be willing to suffer a few more times. Our children were raised by our parents, and many people find it unbearable to have a second child. When these people get old, theyAre we willing to suffer? Since we are not willing to help our children take care of them, what about their children? We envision that at that time, various child care institutions will gradually improve, the retirement age will be extended, and more and more people will become grandparents before they retire, and there will always be someone to look after the children. If the child is unwilling to be placed in a child care institution, the child\’s parents may have conditions. One of the parents can work full-time for three years and take care of the child wholeheartedly. If the elderly on both sides have the conditions, we can support them financially in the past three years. After all, children raised by their parents have the fewest problems. If we really can\’t avoid it, we may be asked to help take care of the children, but this is a last resort, and we still wrong ourselves. So, thinking of this, we should try to be more tolerant and tolerant towards the elderly people who help us take care of our children. We should not take it for granted and be dissatisfied with it. After all, it is a great thing for them to give up their old life to help us take care of our children. sacrifice. Now, thinking about the possibility of having to take care of a child many years later, it makes me feel bad.