Those important moments that parents can’t miss

Yesterday, the last day before the National Day holiday, Huangzi School held an open day for parents. You can go to your child\’s class and participate in a half-day open class. Because I was worried about the work at hand, I didn\’t go, so I asked my grandma to attend. When the parents in the class group shared the videos and photos of their children, I suddenly saw Huang Zi looking towards the door with such expectant eyes, and I suddenly felt very guilty. All the children were looking at the teacher, except Huang Zi, who was looking at the door. At that time, grandma must have not arrived in the classroom and was still thinking about last night. After dinner, he took out the invitation issued by the school and handed it to me first. His eyes were filled with anticipation. He directly said, I won\’t be free tomorrow; he told his father again and said he didn\’t have time. Finally, I walked to the room to give it to grandma. At that moment, he might have felt a little disappointed in his heart, but he just couldn\’t express it. Walking in the crowded subway passage, I hesitated a lot. I asked myself several times why? Why am I absent from this important occasion for my children? In my heart, I felt that it was not important, as long as someone represented me, it would be fine. However, I did not think about it from the child\’s perspective. The other classmates were all parents, and the child would be particularly at ease and warm. You can also feel the encouragement of your parents at the scene, and you will actively perform it. You can only listen to what the teacher says about your usual performance in school, or speculate based on the child\’s answers. Why would I pass up the chance to see it directly? The main reason is that I don’t have enough awareness, and I think it’s enough to eat well and play well in kindergarten. I never thought that many habits and details were developed in these three years. Do you actively interact with teachers? What is your learning style? Do you prefer listening or observing? How is your expression ability? How about cooperating with classmates? What is the child\’s actual performance in the class? Is he confident? are you happy? What content do you like. Only parents will know when they go to their children\’s courses and truly feel it. Why do I insist on spending time with my kids every night, learning English, reading, etc., but don’t care about important school activities? Subconsciously, I still think it would be better to add the child to the school and give it to the teacher. I just need to take care of the family part, but I can\’t control the school part. So, just treat it negatively. Communication and interaction with teachers are also infrequent. On the one hand, it is due to my personality; on the other hand, it is because my concept has not changed. Only by actively interacting with the teacher, understanding the child\’s situation at school, and discussing with the teacher what the child\’s shortcomings are and what can be done better. This will help the children better. These are my inner thoughts and I share them here. We work hard and say we want to give our children the best and do whatever we want them to do. In fact, children may not want much. Many times, what parents should give most is to spend time with them and pay attention to them calmly.