In parent-child reading, where is the position of parents?

A few days ago, I took the time to watch a speech given by an American professor, Scott Rozelle. A project survey on rural education in China. There was a scene in it that really shocked me. When it comes to Chinese parents, especially parents in rural areas, in addition to the lives of their children, one of the biggest problems is parenting: how to raise children. If you ask our parents, do you like to play with your children? Do you like communicating with children? If you could spend money to improve your child\’s future, would you spend it? 100% yes, everyone will say, of course, of course. When we ask mothers holding babies, what level do you hope your children will learn in the future? 95% of farmers hope that their children will go to college, but in reality only 8% of rural people go to college. Parents want their babies to be well, but by junior high school, 1/3 of their children have dropped out of school. They love their children, so what’s the problem? The question is, we asked them, did you tell your baby a story yesterday? Most of the people answered no, and only 10% answered in the affirmative. We asked, did you read to your children yesterday? This proportion is only 4%. We asked mom, did you read to your child yesterday? What was their reaction? They will laugh. This kind of laughter means that you don\’t understand the question, or that you think you are joking. They should be asking in their hearts, \”Why should we read storybooks to our children? Isn\’t this a matter of school?\” Countless of our parents have an ingrained idea in their minds that their children only need to study in school. The survey result is that nearly 80% of rural families have only one children\’s book or no book. They have no books. The data in our cities will certainly be better. But how much better can it be? And what proportion does your family fall into? Where is your position in parent-child reading? Every time reading is discussed, many people get excited and think that they must read dozens of books a year and must put effort into cultivating their children into a person who loves to read. After half the meal, half of the heat disappeared, and after a day and night it was the same again. I say I want to read every day, but I have never turned a page. I always feel that reading should become a part of people’s lives, integrated into ordinary people’s homes like daily necessities. However, many people feel that the scene described is too far from reality. At least it is still the case today. Few people listen to talk about reading, but when you talk to others about how to get rich, a lot of people watch and worship. It is simply impossible for a group of people who are running for a living to pick up a book and read it, because it is difficult to calm down and have no time to think about the future. They focus more on the current situation. Not to mention other people, just take myself as an example. I originally read it every day, but sometimes when my children interfere or other things come up, I don’t have time to read. I just need to make up for it when I need to look up information, or stay up late to read a few articles under the desk lamp in the early morning, but my body doesn\’t agree, and my waist and back hurt. But after saying this, I felt like I was making excuses for myself. Because many people, as I said, don’t read because they don’t have time! In fact, aside from this excuse of \”no time\”, the real reason behind it isThe reason is that I have not formed the habit of reading. If it becomes a habit, some people will not be able to sleep without reading. It is not easy to develop a reading habit for a person who feels that reading cannot bring direct wealth or gain, and who does not like reading. We have always advocated parents\’ self-development, and parents and children will gain more from reading together. But the reality is that many parents are unable to participate. Of course, there are still excellent parents who actually practice it. At least our platform has gathered tens of thousands of such parents, mainly mothers. You are very outstanding. Even if your parents don\’t have the habit of reading, you can still do something meaningful in reading. That is to cultivate your own children well – to cultivate a child who loves to read and make him a person who loves to read. If you don’t want your children to dislike reading like you do, then you should start guiding your children when they are young. How far have you come in cultivating your children to read? Where are you? How long did you last? Playing and reading are never contradictory. A mother once said that my children only need to play and not read those books. This is a rather extreme idea. In fact, books are very good toys. Stories can provide children with nourishment for play and allow them to have more ways to play, such as their ability to imitate and their ability to diverge, which are all needed for the development of thinking. If you really spend time and effort on parent-child reading, you will gain a lot. My own reading enlightenment probably started when I was 7 years old. At that time, there were no picture books, and no one mentioned the concept of parent-child reading. It was purely out of hobby that I would search for comic books everywhere. I often have to be teased by adults, telling me that I don\’t want to read school books, but just read useless stuff. But many parents born in the 1980s started their reading enlightenment in bed with a flashlight. When chatting with many friends, everyone will mention the same feeling: Today’s children are so happy! There are so many books to read. But not many children really get good reading enlightenment. My little one started reading when he was 8 months old. At that time, the little fish could make babbling calls, so I started pointing out some objects, animals, colors, and shapes on the cards for him to recognize. He was always silly. He looked silly, but I still insisted on letting him play for a few minutes every day. Because I didn’t think about how I wanted him to behave at all, I just thought it was fun for him to think that his father was playing with him like this, so every time I would make faces and imitate animal sounds. When he was more than 1 year old, something magical happened. He could basically recognize the cards he had seen. It seemed that the fun he had played as a baby was still very effective. After a child is born, various senses develop very quickly, and this should be the effect of getting twice the result with half the effort. So many mothers ask me if they should read to their babies. I say yes, but don’t read with a purpose, just play with the child with a playful attitude. I remember Xiao Xiaoyu’s favorite picture books when he was 2 years old: \”Little Black Fish\”, \”Guess How Much I Love You\”, and \”Beast Country\”, which brought him a lot of happiness. He liked the clever look of the little black fish. He was lucky enough to escape from the big fish and discovered such a beautiful underwater world while escaping. In the end, he was able to find a way to scare the big fish away. At that time, he knew that he had to think of a solution! So until now,When I said I was in trouble, he would tell me: \”Dad, just think of a solution!\” He felt that his head was full of solutions. During this period, he often read a book repeatedly, like Little Black Fish, who read it dozens of times. I told him carefully every time, and I must not bring this emotion into it because I feel that the repetition is boring. Because children will gain something new every time, the same picture book is different in the eyes of children. Some mothers have also asked me, is it okay for children to read a book repeatedly? I don\’t think there is any problem. It is a good thing if the child can insist on repeated reading. We can tell the child, let’s add a new story today. It is also very interesting. If the child feels that he can listen to one more story, he will often agree, and this will expand the story. Another way is to read a story to your child that is similar to the story picture book he likes, and tell them together, and by drawing inferences, the child will gain more. The other thing is to dig into this repeated story. For example, what is the story behind this story? Will there be other endings to this story? Spread your child\’s thinking and try to communicate more with your child. Be a fun parent and tell fun stories. It is very important to protect children’s interest in reading. If you see your child always reading one type of book, you will be dissatisfied with him and force your child to read the books you specify. That will dampen children\’s interest in reading. When it comes to protecting your interest in reading, it’s okay to be a little confused sometimes. For example, there was a very funny thing when we were reading. When my son was reading \”Guess How Much I Love You\”, there was a page where the big rabbit stood tall and there was a dark shadow under his tail. The child said at the time We all burst out laughing at the big rabbit’s daddy. It\’s these little fun things that make reading easy and fun. There are also rebellious little ones who say they don’t want to read, so you should pay attention at this time. Because the more his parents expect of him, he will often resist your expectations and use confrontation to express himself. In this case, you have to play hard to get. To whet their appetite, especially boys, if you put books about adventures, cars, dinosaurs, etc. that interest them, they will look through them themselves. Nature dictates it. As parents of boys, we need to pay more attention to guidance. We not only need encouragement and companionship, but also need to understand their children\’s hobbies when it comes to choosing books. Choose books that boys find exciting. If it is a big boy, then work on science fiction, mystery, and adventure novels. Completing some high-quality extracurricular books can change a child. For example, books such as \”Gulliver\’s Travels\” and \”Harry Potter\” series are also suitable for boys to read, and these novels adapted into movies can tell children that after reading the novels, they can go watch the movie together. Then the child\’s interest will be stronger and the harvest will be greater. Of course, the world of extracurricular books is huge, so you need to check them carefully. Because some messy books on the market have also flowed into schools, such as some romance novels and campus novels, which are very popular and almost overflowing, affecting children\’s normal studies. At this time, parents need to provide positive guidance. After children develop an interest in reading, parents may wish to add some experienceGive children classic books and enrich them in categories. Whether a child loves reading or not depends mainly on the parents\’ views. Do you pay attention to reading and give good guidance to your children? Is it giving children the best reading nutrition? When one day, someone asks you \”Have you ever read to your children?\” I hope your answer is yes.