Who is the real stumbling block on a child’s reading journey?

I know that many people have told you that reading is very important for children\’s growth. I don’t know what you think? I still remember one time when I ran into a friend I hadn’t seen for many years and heard that his daughter was almost 6 months old. I told him about children’s reading while we were chatting. As soon as he opened his mouth, he waved his hand quickly and told me: \”My daughter doesn\’t want to read any books before she is three years old. I just want her to have fun.\” Sometimes, you will find that people have different ideas, and they are really like two people. people of the world. Although they are standing in the same place, it seems like they are separated by a thick wall. For example, if you are a university teacher, you may think that he is full of knowledge. But how to tell stories to children also made him feel embarrassed. Because he taught picture books in a class-like manner, the children often skipped class without paying the bill. There is also the executive boss of the company. You tell him about picture books. There are many who don’t understand and few who understand. A friend of mine works as the vice president of strategy in a real estate company. Another top student who graduated from a key university. You could say they are social elites. One time I said to give your son a set of picture books. He quickly said no, no. I thought he was being polite and insisted on sending it. Finally, he said: \”My son can\’t draw, so he doesn\’t need your picture book.\” I explained to him that this was a book for children, a storybook with pictures. After saying this, he understood. From then on, I felt that parents’ ideas were really the biggest obstacle to children’s reading. Only if parents change first can children be exposed to this beautiful world. This world is a spiritual world and has nothing to do with your body shape, weight, blood type, or wealth. But it is closely related to your values ​​(concepts). When Zuckerberg\’s second daughter was born, he wrote a letter to the little baby very seriously, saying: \”You will be very busy when you grow up, so I hope you will spend your time tasting all the flowers now.\” Pick up every leaf you want. I hope you read your favorite Dr. Seuss books so many times that you start creating your own stories.\” This is a very sincere blessing for the child. Today, children\’s reading has become popular in developed countries. Why is our reading still struggling to be promoted? Bai Yansong once mentioned one thing: \”CCTV does a public service announcement about reading every year. It has been promoting reading in the past few years. I always wonder, have you ever seen which day is designated as \”Eating Day\” internationally? ? No. Since there is no international meal day, why should there be a reading day? For people\’s bodies and bodies, they cannot live without eating, but for our spirits, isn\’t not reading the same as not eating? Is it something we can’t survive? Why have we degenerated to the point where we need the whole society to promote “reading”? This incident just confirms a certain sadness and a certain awakening in China.” But this is our reality. What creates the reality we only have? When many people talk about the quality of their children’s education, they immediately think of whether their children’s school is the focus? Why can\’t my son go to a key elementary school? If he also goes to a key elementary school, he will definitely have the opportunity to pass the middle school exam well and then enter a prestigious university. So point the finger at the school for children\’s poor performance, and thenRefers to the social and educational system. When it comes to reading, if children don’t like reading, who’s to blame? Is it also to blame that the school teachers did not organize reading classes or buy extracurricular books for the children? Do you even blame society for not having a reading atmosphere and only entertainment comes first? Is it strange that the media reports on the separation and reunion of Xiaoxianrou every day and fails to promote the importance of reading? Do you blame yourself for being too busy at work and not having time? …are all reasons, overwhelming reasons to comfort myself. Anyway, you can’t blame me. Our children obviously have good conditions now, but why can\’t they keep up in reading? In fact, it’s not the children who can’t keep up, but the parents’ concepts. Those dusty hearts have long forgotten this matter, or have never thought of it at all. If every parent values ​​their children’s reading. The next generation will no longer rely on reading promotion to read. Rather, it becomes spontaneous and becomes a part of daily life. I spent more than 1,000 words talking about conceptual issues. I think if you can reflect on yourself and actively start taking action. Then your child is blessed. After getting rid of the biggest obstacle of concept, we will talk about the obstacles that we will encounter in actual reading. Many children do not have a suitable reading environment. This reading environment does not mean having a large bookshelf or a separate study room. It’s about whether the home smells like books and whether there is a reading atmosphere. It\’s like a family with a father who loves to drink. It must smell like alcohol. And if you have a mother who loves reading, there will definitely be a bookish scent. When I go to a friend\’s or relative\’s house, I often like to see if there are bookcases or a place for children to read. In some homes, the wine cabinet is filled with fine wines and the decoration is luxurious and grand. Unfortunately, there is no scent of books in the room. I was chatting with a dad once. \”What kind of books do children usually like to read?\” \”I don\’t know about this. The school will arrange it anyway.\” \”Where are the extracurricular books?\” \”That one can\’t be read. His grades are not good and he can\’t do school homework well. He still reads Extracurricular books!!!\” The feeling was incredible to my words. However, what a pity it is that there is no fragrance of books in a child\’s childhood. In a program of \”The Reader\”, when Dong Qing asked this question, the writer Liang Xiaosheng talked about his childhood memories. At that time, it was already very difficult to take care of the food, daily life, tuition and miscellaneous expenses for a large family with only my mother\’s small profit. He has never completed the review of a movie assigned by the school. He can write a review, but he cannot spend five cents to watch a movie for a review. With no other way of entertainment, he could only ask his brother to borrow books, and then read his junior high school textbooks. It was these books that opened up another rich world for him in the barren real life. Regarding the fact that Liang Xiaosheng likes reading, her father\’s attitude is against him and he is not allowed to read \”Xian Shu\”, while her mother\’s attitude is \”absolutely good\”. She believes that \”Xian Shu must contain nourishment for life.\” So if there was any money left over from buying coal, grain and other things, his mother would tell him to keep it for him to read at the Little Man Bookstore. Liang Xiaosheng said: \”Reading is the best family tradition, and bookshelves are the best real estate.\” Today\’s children have much better reading conditions than in the past. As long as parents are willing, let their children read every monthThe expense of three or five extracurricular books is still affordable. Spending 20 minutes a day reading a storybook to your children can still be squeezed out. Just to see if you have any ideas: provide children with such a reading environment. and take action for it. If a child has been addicted to the world of video games when he was a child, and stayed away from reading. The probability of being addicted to online games in primary school is much higher, because children have tasted the joy of electronic games too early and do not know the joy of reading. A lot of responsibility lies with the parents themselves. I really don’t want the children of mothers who play mahjong in those shabby shops on the corner of the street to listen to the sound of “bumping” every day without ever hearing a picture book story. In the only childhood, children have the right to read more extracurricular books. Parents have no right to deprive their children of reading experience in childhood because of their own ignorance. When you were a baby, you looked at your child and you were probably full of expectations. I feel that my children should study hard in the future and be better than themselves. But at some point, you find that your child is slowly falling behind. Still don’t know why? Often because of your neglect, children have begun to truly lag behind at the very beginning of their lives. In \”Dangal, Dad\”, the line that touched me the most is \”Medals don\’t grow out of the ground, you have to cultivate them carefully.\” Too many of us are eager to see the results. Therefore, some parents let their children give up studying early and go to work to earn money. Encourage yourself by saying that reading is useless, saying that there are many people who have made a fortune without reading. I can only say that you have only seen a few lucky people who got rich suddenly, but you have not seen how many books those truly wealthy people have read without telling you. Children who love reading will not grow tall and tall, but children who love reading will definitely be different: there will be light in their eyes, which is the light of wisdom and confidence. There will be many more question marks in their minds, and the world is full of fun for them. Their movements will be more calm, and their hearts will be full…and many, many years later, the books they read will give them precious gifts. The time spent reading together between parents and children has become the warmest memory in my heart.