Child abuse incident in parent-child kindergarten: These things are more important to children than anger

In the past two days, a piece of news about \”child abuse in Ctrip Parent-child Park\” caused an uproar on the Internet. From the video, you can see that the little girl\’s schoolbag was thrown to the ground by a woman in yellow who was suspected to be a teacher. Then the child was pushed hard by the woman in yellow, causing her head to hit the corner of the table. In another video, the child kept shaking his head and flinching, but the woman in yellow still forced the mustard in her hand into his mouth, and the child burst into tears instantly. Seeing this, like you, my lungs are about to explode. You must know that these things happened in the Rainbow Class, the youngest parent-child kindergarten. The children who were abused were all children between 18 and 24 months old. How crazy and crazy people must be to be so cruel to children! But these are not the most infuriating things. The reason why animals are animals is that they can constantly break through human boundaries: There was a 17-month-old child in the parent-child garden. The teacher fed him half a tube of mustard in half an hour and had diarrhea 6 times in an hour. The teacher Not only did they not take any rescue measures, but they pulled the child to the corner, took off his pants and left him to dry for a full 10 minutes! Some children were sprayed with disinfectant in their eyes by their teachers because they were disobedient, and even had to stop eating for lunch! Some teachers even give children sleeping pills to save trouble! Are parents spending 2,580 yuan of hard-earned money a month just to come to your place to eat mustard, get beaten, and drink sleeping pills? Not to mention that some mothers shed tears all night after knowing that their children were abused. I myself was so angry that I gritted my teeth. But is anger really useful in solving problems? Too many similar child abuse incidents have occurred over the years: In 2012, in a kindergarten in Taiyuan City, a girl was slapped more than 70 times in ten minutes by her teacher; in 2014, Xi\’an Fengyun Blue Bay Kindergarten said \”if the child is sick, he will not go to school.\” The antiviral drug \”Virus Spirit\” was secretly given to children on the grounds that \”the kindergarten will not receive fees\”; in 2013, in an illegal kindergarten in Heilongjiang, a teacher spanked a two-and-a-half-year-old child four times a day. In a video exposed by the media, A 32-month-old child was actually kicked half a meter away by his teacher;… All of this makes people feel frightened, but after the anger, most tragedies are not dealt with as expected. . This is also the purpose of writing this article today, rather than meaningless anger and powerlessness after the harm occurs. There are still many valuable things that parents need to do. 01. The early childhood education period is the most critical period for a child’s growth. Going to a good kindergarten is much more important than spending money to send your child to a bunch of training institutions in the future. There is an old saying in China – \”Three years old means you are old, seven years old means you are old.\” This is not groundless. When a person is born, he has more than 100 million brain cells, and his intelligence level is at its peak throughout his life. After that, as he grows older, his ability to understand and learn will continue to decline. Therefore, the education community generally believes that the age of 0-3 is the most important age for children to receive education in their lives. But the educational concept of most parents is often – the children are still young and don\’t understand anything, and they can be taught well when they go to school in the future. So I left my children from 0 to 3 years old to the elderly and nannies, and I left my children from 3 to 18 years old to teachers, but I still didn\’t realize what the meaning of being a parent was. There are many around meThe most common saying among many new mothers is: \”It will be easy until the child goes to kindergarten.\” Is it really easy? Many of the children involved in the child abuse case in parent-child kindergartens have been diagnosed as \”suffering from stress disorder.\” The shadow left on children in their childhood can only be alleviated but will never be eradicated. Therefore, you must choose a good preschool education institution for your child. Let him have more extensive exposure to the beauty of this world and spend his childhood more safely. 02. Placing children in kindergarten does not mean that parents do not need to do anything. Good parents should not only stand in line with teachers, but also pay more attention to their children. Too many young parents tend to neglect caring for their children after sending them to school. It is the school\’s business to educate children. It is the school\’s business if children do not study well. It is also the school\’s business if children are disobedient. As soon as a problem arises, you shirk all the responsibilities, but forget the most important point – the child is yours. No one will love your child more than you, and no one should be responsible for your child on your behalf. Why was it that so many children were abused in this parent-child abuse incident, and the children had been abused for such a long time, but the matter was not exposed by the media until now? Is it really just because the children don’t dare to say anything when they go home? In the final analysis, it is still the negligence of the parents. When it comes to educating children, never think about it once and for all. Good parents should not only provide their children with material support, but also provide them with spiritual care. Moreover, the latter is often more important. 03. Teachers who spank children may not be good teachers. When people of our generation are being educated, their parents always instill the idea that teachers spank you for your own good, so don’t always complain about things. A friend of mine was once caught by his mother wandering on the street when he was at school, and his mother beat him up on the spot. He cried and told his mother that he was not absent from class, but the teacher asked him to come out to buy a pack of cigarettes. As a result, when his mother heard this, she became even more angry. Even if she skipped class, she dared to bully the teacher into asking you to buy cigarettes. Which teacher doesn\’t want students to be well, and who would let children come out to buy cigarettes during class? So, his mother beat her even harder. In the end, he couldn\’t stand the pain anymore, so he admitted to his mother that he secretly missed class because he didn\’t want to go to school. But in fact, it was the teacher who asked him to go out to buy cigarettes that day. Like my friend\’s mother, the most common mistake parents make is to regard what the teacher does as the absolute truth but turn a deaf ear to what the child says. When we educate our children, we must teach them the correct view of right and wrong. The meaning of hitting lies in why we hit, not who hits. If someone abuses you, you must learn to resist. Your parents will always do their best to protect you. Let the child understand this so that he can consciously protect himself after being violated. 04. If you find that your child is being abused, stop the loss immediately. Don\’t be afraid of ten thousand in everything, just be afraid of the eventuality. What should parents do if they find that their child is being abused? First of all, communicate more with your children and use your body to hug your children more. A warm and loving family environment is most conducive to allowing children to regain a sense of security. Because the person a child trusts most is his or her parents, the love and warmth conveyed from you is what the child receives.The least resistant and easiest to accept after injury. Secondly, take your children to participate in more external activities, so that they can break through their inner concerns and regain their confidence in the world and the people around them during the process of contact with new things. The most important thing is to control your emotions. Children who are abused often become mentally and behaviorally abnormal. When he cries, is disobedient, or even does something to hurt you, don\’t lose patience, talk harshly or even fight. He just hasn\’t escaped from the nightmare yet. If you give up holding his hand, the child will only be trapped in it for the rest of his life. Tragedy that happens to children is the last thing we want to see, but that doesn’t mean it’s meaningless. At least it tells us that in this world, there are always scum among good people, and scum sometimes wears sheep\’s clothing. At least it tells us that when it comes to children, everything is no small matter; as parents, raising them is more important than giving birth to them. Spend more time with your children, pay more attention to the details of your children\’s behavior, and communicate more with your children. Children are the future of a family. I hope you and I can shoulder the heavy responsibility of protecting children. I hope injured children can regain their happiness as soon as possible. I hope all children in the world can grow up healthy and sunny.