Strong mothers are a taboo in family education

Two days ago, my cousin came to my house and looked aggrieved when talking about her children\’s education. She complained to me that since her son entered elementary school, he has found it increasingly difficult to manage him, his grades are not satisfactory, and his homework is often not completed. She asked me: \”What is the problem? I can\’t wait to stare at him 24 hours a day. Why is this still happening?\” I said to my cousin: \”The reason is not the child, but you. You are too strong.\” At home, she is the natural \”number one\” and has the final say in everything. Her brother-in-law and nephew are simply her two subordinates. In such a family, it is very easy for children\’s education to have problems. First, it is easy to cause the absence of the father\’s role. In the education of children, the father\’s position is very important and no one can replace it. Studies have proven that children can receive more knowledge about language, daily life knowledge, object uses, general usage of toys and artistry from their mothers. The father will give his children richer and broader knowledge. On the road of children\’s growth, fathers have a special influence on what kind of outlook on life and what kind of value orientation the children establish. This is why children from single-parent families are more likely to have problems of one kind or another. The mother has the final say in everything at home, and the father has no say in educating the children. The husband is just another obedient child in the eyes of the wife. This kind of growing environment is no different from a single-parent family. Second, it is easy to cause children to have extreme personalities. Parents are their children\’s first teachers, and everything they do is actually teaching their children through words and deeds. For a boy, if he has an overly strong mother and a father with a weakened image, he will subconsciously take this for granted. When you grow up, it is easy to develop a cowardly and timid character, and it is easy to be marginalized at home like your father. I joked to my cousin that if you care about them like this every day, your son will be like your brother-in-law in the future. You are laying the foundation for your future daughter-in-law! In the same way, for girls, the mother\’s behavior will also have a subtle influence on the child, and when they grow up, they are likely to be impatient, strong and mean in everything. To be honest, my cousin\’s temper is very similar to her mother\’s. In the TV series \”Emergency Doctor\”, Jiang Xiaoqi received a mother and son. Even in the hospital, the mother kept yelling at her child and would hit her child at every turn. In the end, the boy was diagnosed with \”cat-scratch disease.\” The boy who looked timid actually abused the cat secretly outside and was scratched by the cat, which made him sick. His mother was very angry and wanted to beat the child again. Jiang Xiaoqi suggested that the mother see a psychiatrist. She said to the mother: \”Children often imitate the people closest to them. From the time I entered this clinic, have you ever said a good word? You are always there. He yelled, \”If you don\’t raise your hand, you\’ll hit me. You\’re very violent, don\’t you realize it?\” The mother said aggrievedly that as a single mother, she was careful in everything and paid attention to everything, fearing that he would be cold or overheated. Afraid that he would get sick, I took the child\’s temperature every afternoon, but the result was like this. In fact, in life, many mothers are only slightly different from the ones in TV series. They used toInterfering in everything about the child in the name of love has had a negative impact on the child\’s character without even realizing it. Everyone\’s IQ, education, ability, etc. are different, and not every family will have strong men and weak women. But in terms of educating children, I prefer to have a gentle and considerate mother and a majestic father at home. Even if you are a strong lady at work, you will only be a virtuous wife and a gentle mother when you return home. For example, Carrie Lam, the fifth Chief Executive of the Hong Kong Special Administrative Region, has two sons who graduated from Cambridge University in the UK. When talking about her children\’s education, she particularly emphasized the need to achieve family harmony, \”talk together, listen together, discuss and discuss things together\”, and communicate equally as a family. Really, a strong mother is a taboo in educating children. In family education, everyone has their own role and division of labor. No matter how talented you are, you cannot replace them all. Otherwise, it is very likely that a lot of effort will backfire.