\”A housewife is disgraceful.\”

After resigning, the most embarrassing moment was when people asked me what I did for a living. Of course, I couldn’t say writer. I, a dabbler like me, didn’t dare to blaspheme these two words, so I just said I was a full-time housewife. Then all the men and women, young and old, showed a little disdain. What that means is, how can someone in their twenties become a housewife when they have hands and feet? The kinder person would give my husband sincere greetings: \”My wife doesn\’t go to work, isn\’t it difficult at home?\” Of course, a woman like me who doesn\’t go to work is not qualified to spend money. After I bought some clothes on Double Eleven, the real estate aunt started to worry about my family\’s financial situation: \”How much does your husband earn in a month, and you are so good at spending it?\” She was not very polite to me, and always wanted to pull me down and teach me a lesson. Ichiban: How can you be so good at spending money if you don’t make any money? She was very polite to Lao Liang, and there was some sympathy in that politeness, because Lao Liang paid every property fee and bought all the big and small bags. She had lived here for two years and she never saw me paying. Pass money. In this way, I became the most shameful woman in the whole house, and Lao Liang became the most pitiable man in the whole house. Quite interesting. Of course I have an income, and the figure is quite considerable. Therefore, I take other people\’s disdain for me as a joke and don\’t take it seriously at all. But what about Real Housewives? I have many friends who have a say in this matter. Their experiences were similar. They had no choice but to resign because they had no one to take care of their children. At first, the family was very grateful. After all, this woman\’s sacrifice solved the family\’s urgent need. But as time went on, conflicts arose. First, when asking for money, the husband never understands how a family of three can spend so much in a month. The second is that when she suffers setbacks at work, her wife always becomes a punching bag: \”Of course you don\’t know how hard it is if you don\’t go to work.\” Your husband expects you to understand his hard work, but he doesn\’t feel much about your hard work. In his eyes, how tiring can it be to do laundry and cooking? The child is so cute, but his back aches after being coaxed? Too pretentious. There is a tick mark in his mind that clearly delineates the division of labor between inside and outside. Since you don’t have to make money, of course you have to do all the laundry, cooking, and childcare. Even if the soy sauce bottle falls in front of me, you will fly over from the sky to help me. He calculated the division of labor clearly, but he acted foolishly when calculating the rewards. Of course, all the wages belong to him. Housewives don’t get half a dime. Is it possible that they still need to get wages when they work for their own family? In this way, a woman who works year-round, under this bastard logic, becomes a free nanny, and still suffers from his cowardice, even though the money he earns back is not as much as the real nanny on the market. Society as a whole does not respect housewives. Men do it, and so do women. In many articles about women’s self-reliance, I advocate girls to work hard and make money. But I don’t know why, but there are always people who come to the absurd conclusion in the opposite direction: housewives don’t make money and deserve to be disrespected. Don’t housewives make money? Mr. Bao Shishan, a senior in the industry, has calculated an account. Assuming that a man does not have a wife, if he wants to live a life with sex, children, and hot meals, he will have to spend at least 16,600 yuan per month. If converted into three insurances and one insurance, he needs to deduct Jin\’s salary is 24,000 yuan. How many men can earn so much?money? An ordinary working-class man can live a warm and worry-free family life with a salary of several thousand yuan. How much advantage does he take over the housewife? But most people don\’t think so. Even some people who hold high the banner of feminism will despise the career of housewives. In their minds, women in the workplace are glamorous, while housewives are disgraced. Women in the workplace are a sign of progress, and women who are willing to be housewives are simply hopeless. Of course, the entry of women into the workplace is simply the greatest progress of this era, and it is also the greatest confidence for us to strive for gender equality. But I cannot agree that women\’s work in the kitchen is meaningless. I have seen many young girls look down upon the housewife profession: \”I don\’t want to be a yellow-faced woman in the kitchen.\” With all due respect, I look down on kitchen work and treat women like free nannies. There is no essential difference. Because subconsciously, you think this work has no value. The first step in our fight for women\’s rights is to recognize that the work in the kitchen is equally great and meaningful. Then encourage women to go out and develop into a larger world. What\’s even more ridiculous is that people\’s requirements for housewives are far more than just doing household chores. You should be as beautiful as a flower, and be as skinny as a snake three months after giving birth. You have to be gentle and considerate, even if the child cries like crazy, you have to hold back your temper with a smile. You\’d better be able to wear high heels to buy groceries, party with your little sisters every weekend, and push a cradle around the world. Only a housewife like that deserves respect. Sorry, you may not be alive in the world and don\’t understand the difference between a housewife in real life and a lady in TV dramas. Ladies have plenty of money and time to take care of themselves, practice yoga, learn flower arranging, and travel around the world. Their children don’t have to worry about having no one to take care of them, and their husbands don’t owe them a hot meal. But what about housewives in real life? I was so busy all day long, shopping for groceries, washing and cooking, and I had a difficult child who wet his pants just the next moment and knocked over the bowl the next second. Traveling around the world with a baby in your arms? Thank God, I\’d rather make a million. After all, I have already earned one million, but if I take my children to travel around the world, oh, no, if I go to play in the community downstairs for half an hour, I will lose half my life. Is it shameful to be a housewife? No, it is your arrogance and prejudice that is shameful. But if you ask me whether I encourage women to quit their jobs and become housewives, I will tell you that it is not a last resort and you must not take risks easily. It’s not that this job is meaningless, it’s that neither society nor the family respects housewives worthy of their sacrifices. Once you get married, you become a family. People who become a family shouldn\’t care too much. There is nothing wrong with who is in charge of the inside and who is in charge of the outside. But unfortunately, many women quit their jobs and can only become free nannies. She can\’t make any decisions, and she doesn\’t get the respect and rights that a hostess deserves. If your family extracts your labor for free, you still won’t get respect or gratitude from anyone. Then I advise you, no matter what, find a job, because your family and your man are not worth saying goodbye to the colorful world, diving into the kitchen, washing your hands and making soup. What\’s more, the kitchenWork is not just for women. Just as women have begun to make money, it is also time for men to return to their families.