Behind every harmonious family there is a smart husband

If a man wants to always fill the 421 family with a harmonious and happy atmosphere, he needs to have a smart mind and the ability to change at any time. This sounds a bit incredible! In fact, it is really not difficult to do this as long as you pay more attention to your life. Scene 1: My daughter has a fever again. After Xiaolu and her husband hurriedly grabbed a few bites of food after work, their child\’s grandmother kicked them out of the house and told them to take their precious granddaughter to the children\’s hospital. In fact, the little guy just had a cold and his body temperature was less than 38°C. The result was indeed as expected by Xiaolu: she was prescribed some cold medicine and went home to continue observation. When the doctor saw the child wearing three layers of clothes, he specifically told the young couple: \”In the future, the child will wear less clothes. The more he wears, the more likely he will get sick!\” On the way back, Xiaolu and her husband complained. : \”My mother always puts so many clothes on her children, how can they not get sick all the time?!\” \”I said we should take some medicine at home and keep an eye on things, but she insisted on sending us to the hospital. Even minor illnesses have to be toiled to make serious ones!\” \”Also, , I told her to take her children to outdoor activities to build up their resistance, but she didn’t want to go out when there was a Category 3 wind!” Xiaolu became more and more angry as she talked, and was about to have a big quarrel with her mother when she got home. When we parked the car, my husband, who had been silent all this time, spoke up: \”I think it\’s not easy for mom to help us take care of our children. If we help you, if you still have this attitude, I won\’t help you! You see, ever since mom helped us take care of Jiaojiao, I can\’t even watch the TV series, how hard it is.\” A few words were like cool spring water, calming the anger in Xiaolu\’s heart. When she got home, Xiaolu quickly gave her mother, who had been waiting for her granddaughter to come home and refused to sleep, a big hug. Transformation One: Tranquilizers In fact, there are many similar scenes in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: the mother-in-law angrily complains to her son, and the wife complains irritably to her husband. Women are more likely to be emotionally agitated, so they are more likely to have conflicts. If the man \”turns\” into a sedative at this time, so that the angry party can calm down and think about the problem from another angle, even if the other party is angry, he will be \”a slap in the face\” and a fight will be eliminated invisible. Although this kind of \”calmness\” often depends on the man\’s mentality and perspective of looking at things, \”clear bystander\” is also a great advantage. The husband must be good at using this advantage to successfully \”transform\”. Scene 2 Xiao Fei just gave birth to a lovely little girl. My mother-in-law came from her hometown in the countryside. Although she served her daughter-in-law attentively, she still felt very unhappy. One weekend night, my mother-in-law was washing clothes in the kitchen while talking to her son: \”You are an only child, and your father has always wanted a grandson. But she gave birth to a girl. Anyway, you are both only children, and you must provide for him in the future.\” Let\’s have another grandson!\” \”If you buy so many toys for your children now, you will spend money blindly! Tell her, save more money, and I have to leave it to my grandson.\” The son smiled after listening to his mother Nagging her, she pushed her into the bedroom: \”You should go to bed quickly. Xiaofei\’s parents are coming tomorrow, and she asked me to take this opportunity to take you out to buy some beautiful clothes and go to the park! She also said that these days I\’ve exhausted you, but my heart aches. If there\’s another one, it won\’t exhaust you?!\” Although my mother-in-law was doubtful, she felt very sad.Comfortable. Back in her bedroom, Xiaofei looked at her husband warily: \”Did your mother say bad things about me? Humph, I knew she thought I gave birth to a girl! You know in rural areas that sons are preferred over daughters!\” The husband looked at his daughter while She replied nonchalantly: \”Yes, she said it. She said it was fortunate that you gave birth to a girl. She will look like you in the future, fair and delicate, and worry-free. She also said that it is very hard for women to give birth to children, and I have to do everything. I\’ll give you some mercy and don\’t make you angry.\” Although Xiao Fei was doubtful, she was very moved. The next day, Xiaofei and her mother-in-law were very intimate. Over time, the relationship between the two people became better and better. Her mother-in-law never mentioned having a grandson again, and Xiao Fei also felt that her mother-in-law, who came from the countryside, was honest and capable and worthy of respect. Transformation 2: Insulator Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lived in different environments before they met, with different living habits, values, etc. It is normal for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have various differences. But they will vent their dissatisfaction and resentment towards each other on the man who plays the dual roles of son and husband. As the saying goes: \”Conceal what you can do, and pass on what you can\’t do.\” Therefore, men who become \”insulators\” in this situation are extremely smart. Not only can he cleverly conceal the two women\’s dissatisfaction with each other, but he can also please each other on behalf of the two women, allowing them to increase their mutual goodwill and promote harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Sometimes men feel that conveying the opinions of both parties will prompt the two women to change some habits that the other party is dissatisfied with or to accept the other party\’s ideas. But he may not realize how his mother would feel if she heard her daughter-in-law\’s dissatisfaction with her from his mouth, and her daughter-in-law heard her mother-in-law\’s criticism from her husband. Then he has really changed from a plywood that can \”insulate\” to a plywood that can only absorb wind. Scene 3: Her mother-in-law celebrates her birthday in the evening, and Xiaohui plans to buy a gift for her mother-in-law. Unexpectedly, when the young couple arrived at the mall, Xiao Huiguang tried on the clothes she wanted to buy and picked out toys for the baby. Finally, before leaving, her husband decided to buy a green floral silk scarf to give to her mother-in-law. At the birthday party, my mother-in-law was very happy to see this birthday gift. The husband quickly said: \”Last time you occasionally mentioned that you wanted to buy a green silk scarf to match your black coat, Xiaohui has been thinking about it. I finally carefully selected this one for you just now, and I was worried that you would not be satisfied with it on the way. . I said don’t worry, it’s just what you want, and mom will definitely like it.” After hearing this, the relatives and friends present all praised my mother-in-law for being lucky to have such a filial daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law, who has a delicate personality, has always been dissatisfied with her carefree daughter-in-law, but after this birthday party, she often praised her daughter-in-law to others for her roughness and finesse. In fact, this incident also made Xiaohui feel guilty for a long time. Since then, she has been much more attentive to her mother-in-law. She often buys back fruits, snacks or other things that her mother-in-law likes to eat, so receiving her mother-in-law\’s praise is not completely unearned. Lu\”. Transformation Three: After the magnifying glass calms down the anger and insulates the mutual complaints, there are still many opportunities. Men can act as \”magnifying glasses\” to let the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law see each other\’s care and consideration, and magnify these infinitely. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have not lived together before, so it is difficult for them to understand each other. The husband should be the bridge and help them.Understand each other, become familiar with each other, and increase each other\’s goodwill. After all, he is the person who knows his mother and wife best and can make things happen. For example, if you buy something that your mother likes to eat, you say that your wife bought it specially for you; you tell your mother what dish you want to eat for dinner, but it is actually what your mother likes to eat, and then you tell your wife that your mother cooked it specially for you… In this case , even if both parties don\’t think or do this, they won\’t expose it, and they will pay attention to each other\’s preferences, and they will really care about each other in the future. By then, it is impossible to have a bad relationship. You will encounter various scenarios in life, but as long as you are a smart man, you can also transform into various roles such as lubricant, negotiator, language master, etc. Soldiers will stop you, and water will cover you. If you love this home, you will definitely be able to think of various ways to maintain its harmony and stability.