A 13-year-old left-behind girl was raped and found out she was pregnant one day before giving birth: her father actually said she was ignorant

Last week I was shocked beyond measure by a piece of news: a 13-year-old left-behind girl was raped by her neighbor and gave birth to a baby girl. She didn’t know she was pregnant until she gave birth. One day in January 2017, Fengfeng (pseudonym), a 13-year-old girl who lives in Lanshan County, Yongzhou City, Hunan, passed by the door of her neighbor Huang Mouli\’s house and was forced into the house by 48-year-old Huang Mouli and raped. The villain immediately threatened Fengfeng: \”If you tell your family, I will kill your whole family!\” Fengfeng did not tell anyone because she was afraid. On November 4, Fengfeng had a stomachache. Accompanied by her grandmother and aunt, she went to a nearby hospital for a check-up. The doctor told her that she was pregnant and was about to give birth. The next morning, Fengfeng gave birth to a baby girl. The family then reported the crime. Fengfeng\’s parents both work outside the home and come home three or four times a year. Fengfeng is usually taken care of by her grandmother, who is in her seventies. After learning about their daughter, Fengfeng\’s parents immediately rushed back to their hometown. The scumbag Huang Mouli often works outside. He has a son and a daughter and is already a grandfather. The case is currently being heard by the public security organs. What happened to Fengfeng made my heart very heavy. Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University said: \”Only children are a \’subspecies\’ that has never appeared since the existence of human species on earth.\” He called for a change in the educational attitude towards only children. I want to say that left-behind children are also a \”subspecies\” that has never appeared in human history. I call on the whole society to care for left-behind children. But today I don’t want to discuss the education of left-behind children, nor do I want to discuss that scumbag who deserves to be cut to pieces. I was just shocked by the fact that a woman was not \”told\” she was pregnant until the day before giving birth! How incredible and terrifying this is! It’s simply the most ridiculous thing in the world! Fengfeng is not the young man in \”The Decameron\” who lives alone with his father in the mountains and loves green geese. She lives with her grandmother, she has an aunt, she goes to school, and she has teachers and classmates. She even went to spend two months of summer vacation with her parents when she was six or seven months pregnant. Surprisingly, no one noticed that she was pregnant! People said she was taller and fatter, so they couldn\’t tell. Dad said that during the two-month summer vacation, she had normal meals every day. Not long ago, she was among the top runners in physical education class. Should it be said that \”kindness limits people\’s imagination\”? I really want to ask Fengfeng’s mother: Do you know when your daughter’s menarche is? Have you taught her how to pay attention to physical hygiene and protect herself? Did you know that she didn’t get her period for two months during the summer vacation? Have you ever been concerned when you saw your daughter \”gaining weight\”? Worried? I also want to ask Grandma Fengfeng the same question and tell her: You don’t just need to cook and feed the child to you. You don’t have to understand education and won’t tutor your child’s learning, but you can’t ignore the child. To such an extent! Even if Fengfeng is tall, fat, and has a small belly, I don’t believe that there will be no clues about her pregnancy! Pregnancy takes ten long months, not just one or two days! Not a week or two! Every mother who cares about her daughter will pay special attention to when her daughter has her first period, whether she has dysmenorrhea, and whether her menstrual cycle is regular after her daughter reaches the age of twelve or thirteen. Gain weight? Will gaining weight only grow on the belly? Fengfeng’s mother, aunt, and grandma, haven’t you ever been pregnant?If mothers can pay more attention to their children during the summer vacation and take their children to the obstetrics and gynecology department of the hospital, the impact can be minimized. What makes me even more angry is Fengfeng’s father’s attitude after the incident. After he returned from his job, he did not go to see his daughter. Instead, he waited in the county for the outcome of the case from the Women\’s Federation, the police and other government departments. He said such a big thing, he didn\’t have the shame to see his daughter, and the daughter didn\’t have the shame to see him! He said: This is all because his daughter is too ignorant. \”If she were sensible, she would not make this mistake\”! The evil man lived dozens of meters away from Fengfeng\’s house, and she had to pass by his door when she came in or out. Who can tell me how Fengfeng, who was still in the first grade of junior high school at the time, could be sensible and avoid being forced into the house by evil people? How can we be sensible to avoid bad luck? Dad said she \”made this mistake.\” What mistake was he talking about? I don\’t know where Fengfeng went wrong. Was she raped? Or gave birth to a child without knowing it? As a parent, you fail to protect your daughter\’s safety, fail to teach your child the physiological knowledge they should have, and neglect your child to such an extent that when your child faces great harm, not only do you not stay with her to comfort her, but you also blame her for bringing harm to the family. Come to shame. The person he blamed was only 13 years old! In the second grade of junior high school, another daughter was still doing her homework at the urging of her mother. She waited for her mother to wake her up every morning, occasionally skipped breakfast out of anger, and sometimes secretly did not wash her hands or brush her teeth… But what about Fengfeng? One night, he was turned into a mother! She used her hands that had not yet learned to cook to learn to hold a baby, prepare milk powder for her, and wash her diapers… How terrified Fengfeng must be! How helpless you must be! What she needs most at this time is her parents\’ comfort and protection! What makes people most concerned and worried is what Fengfeng\’s future will be. Her father said that Fengfeng had \”very high grades\” and originally thought that she would go to college… But after experiencing this incident, when asked if the child was still studying, his father\’s answer was: \”How can she have any face now?\” Go to school.\” His father said that he had not considered letting Fengfeng go to school outside, and he could not afford to raise her. Fengfeng currently lives with her mother in the county town. Her father said that she would not be allowed to go home if something like this happened. When asked \”what are the plans\”, Dad said: \”We have not thought about it\”. The future planned by her father for her is probably to work outside when the time comes. A little girl of twelve or thirteen years old, with good grades, good at sports, tall and beautiful figure, could have been admitted to college through her own efforts and changed her destiny. However, fate played a cruel joke on her. That 48-year-old beast who was already a grandfather made Fengfeng unable to return home and go to school overnight. From now on, she was destined to be criticized in her hometown, and she would not be able to hold her head high in front of her relatives and friends. Her classmates are gone, her friends are gone, and her future is gone. It will be difficult for her to get rid of this nightmare throughout her life. Nuo Xi\’s mother saw this news a few days ago, but she didn\’t say anything because she wanted to see the follow-up news. But four or five days have passed, and the information that can be found is still the same, as if people seeAfter the news, the hot spot has passed, and no one cares about it anymore. This morning, I couldn\’t help but contact the Women\’s Federation of the county where Fengfeng lives, asking about Fengfeng\’s situation and whether the baby could be adopted. Because I have several elderly and childless friends who all want to adopt a child. The staff of the Women\’s Federation told me that adoption matters are under the jurisdiction of the Civil Affairs Bureau. I contacted the local Civil Affairs Bureau, and the staff told me that Fengfeng’s case is still with the police. Regarding her child, there may be problems with adoption: the law stipulates that only the child\’s biological parents can place the child for adoption, and Fengfeng is only 13 years old and does not have full civil capacity, so she cannot place the child for adoption. The child\’s biological mother is still alive, and the child\’s grandparents have no right to decide to put the child up for adoption… What\’s more, the child does not have a birth certificate, has no household registration, and Fengfeng does not even have a marriage certificate… All in all, there are a lot of problems. The local government is currently negotiating and discussing how to deal with it more appropriately. Before I called, several people had contacted them offering to adopt. At present, everyone is waiting for the decision from above. In short, the baby will either be raised by the Fengfeng family themselves, put up for adoption and then adopted, or sent to an orphanage. Nuo Xi’s mother will continue to pay attention. But actually I am more concerned about Fengfeng\’s future. I strongly hope that she can change her place and continue to go to school. If her father is unable to support her financially, I hope that the local government can help. If the government cannot control it, I hope that a charity or individual will lend a helping hand to her. An innocent child who was unprepared for the world was walking past a cesspit, and unexpectedly he was pulled down by an animal inside. Now she was struggling desperately, raising her hands and calling for help. I hope someone with long arms and strong strength can pull her away from the cesspit, wash away the stinky excrement, and start a new life. If everyone passing by just commented a few words, turned around and walked away after seeing the excitement, she would be drowned! Finally, I want to say: Please care for left-behind children and protect your daughter!