In front of us, why do parents become more and more like servants?

At a class reunion, Sun Tao told the story between him and his mother, which made me sigh. After graduating from college, Sun Tao successfully entered a local public institution, married a wife and had children. These things hardly caused his parents to worry, and they were very pleased for this. Sun Tao\’s parents are both retired workers and receive a meager monthly pension. The old couple are usually reluctant to give up food and clothing, and always want to give the best to Sun Tao. Some time ago, my mother came to help take care of her children because she was too busy. Since her mother arrived, Sun Tao has obviously felt uncomfortable. She feels that she and her mother live in two completely different worlds. She can\’t stand many of her mother\’s practices, and sometimes her attitude is very bad. At first, his mother would argue with him for a few words, but then she became more and more silent. Once, because of the problem of the child\’s diaper, Sun Tao talked a lot. He thought his mother was too dirty and she was always self-righteous. When Sun Tao said that, his mother didn\’t say anything, but followed his request seriously. When sleeping, his wife said to Sun Tao: \”I feel that my mother is getting more and more exaggerated. She can\’t remember things she has said several times. I really don\’t understand what he is thinking.\” Sun Tao said, \”If I didn\’t need someone now, I would really want to Let her go home, I really don’t know why it’s like this.” The mother heard all their conversations. In the days that followed, she listened carefully to the criticisms of her son and daughter-in-law, and became more and more silent, as if she was A servant in this house. After playing her role well, the mother never made any mistakes again, but she no longer had any family ties. She and her child seemed to have become the most familiar strangers. It was not until after his death that Sun Tao suddenly realized. He said with tears: \”Later, I finally understood my mother, but she is no longer here. She felt so miserable when I treated her like that.\” As our parents get older, in our The more timid he becomes in front of him. As our parents get older, we begin to no longer care about their emotions, and they become cautious in front of us. Our parents are just too sensible. They have always spent their spare time for their children. Once they feel that their children no longer need them, they will hide and try not to burden their children. Some time ago, I watched a heartbreaking video: an old lady suffered from severe cataracts and was almost blind in both eyes. Her youngest son happened to be married not long ago. In order not to burden the child, she chose to commit suicide by throwing herself into a lake. Fortunately, she was discovered in time. Faced with everyone\’s incomprehension, the old lady cried and said, \”My son has just gotten married. He has a long road ahead. I am blind, and I don\’t want to be a burden to them.\” The old lady\’s words made everyone present burst into tears. The flow was roaring. This old lady is the epitome of our parents. They will try their best to help their children. If they finally find that they are unable to do anything, then they will never be a drag on their children. In their world, there is never oneself, only we are the most important. However, many times we don’t understand and always think that we are the backbone of the family, so we ignore their efforts, treat them badly, and feel that they have become a burden to us. This is really sad. When your once-serious dad asks you like a child in a consultative tone if you can stay with themWhen you go shopping, go out for a walk together, or visit relatives together, your relationship changes. When our mothers, who used to dislike us for being clumsy, ask us how we do things, and start asking for our views and opinions on some things at home, it proves that they are getting old. Your attitude towards your parents is particularly important in their later lives. They live like servants in front of us because they start to focus on us. Knowing that we are powerless to this family, some parents will even take the initiative to choose to go to a nursing home in order not to burden our lives, making their old age a little sad. There used to be a colleague who had a particularly bad attitude towards his parents. He could often be heard scolding his parents at their home. As long as his career is not going well, this friend will complain that his parents are incompetent and that they have not given him a good future. Whenever this happens, the parents remain silent, as if the child is right. If they had some ability, their children\’s future would definitely not be like this. They fell into deep self-blame under their son\’s scolding. How smart parents are. When they gradually realize that they can no longer protect us, they will begin to worry that we will slowly dislike them after becoming independent. There is a slight fear in my heart, fear of losing our dependence on them and turning to depend on us. Of course, all this is tentative. If you have a cold attitude towards them, then they will put away their extravagant hope of dependence and try not to disturb your life. If you need help, he will drop all his work and come to help you, even if you dislike him. If your parents become like servants in front of you, then you have to reflect on it. Your words and deeds must have deeply hurt them, and they are using their clumsiest way to adapt to this injury. Never quarrel with your parents, because the first person to give in is always your parents. As the Mai family said: \”The war between parents and children is always an unfair war, and parents are always on the passive side.\” Because they love you so much, they will never defend themselves. Sometimes, I also have a bad attitude towards my parents. I always dislike them for not being able to create the best life for me. My parents are a little hard of hearing, so I often talk to them loudly, and sometimes even complain about their shortcomings. At this time, my parents never said anything, but seriously completed what they had to do. They felt that only in this way could they help me more and contribute a little to my life. Many times we feel that our parents cannot understand us, and we may even complain that they cannot keep up with us and dislike our parents for being too old-fashioned, but we never consider their feelings. You have to know that your parents are old. Cai Chongda once wrote in \”Skin\”: Forgive me, father, ever since you got sick, I have been busy working part-time outside to make money, thinking that this can make you happy. But when I saw that the only photo I gave you turned white when you touched it, I realized that I had deprived you of the best thing I could give you. The relationship between our parents and us is gradually drifting away. If you can, please don\’t blame them and let them experience the love from you. Pay more attention to their health and let them live in front of youIt would be great to be free. To be kind to your parents is to be kind to yourself. Everyone gets old sometimes. If we pay more attention to our attitude and care about them, then they will never behave like servants in front of us.