The most valuable lesson parents should teach their children: Be brave

Hunan Satellite TV\’s \”Where Are We Going, Dad 5\” has ended. But the parenting experience it left us is endless. The episode that impressed me the most was when the babies needed to swap dads. This is a challenge for every child. Especially Wu Zun\’s two children are more dependent on their father, so I must have thought that his siblings would not perform well. But after the show aired, people were unexpected. When the village chief Li Rui asked Neinei alone: ​​\”Do you remember the first time your father was away, did you cry? Why did you become so brave?\” Neinei thought for a while and said seriously: \”Because my father told me, you have to be brave! \”Wu Zun, who had been watching from behind the screen, heard his daughter say these words. His eyes immediately turned red, full of tears, and he choked several times. Wu Chun shed tears of joy when he saw his daughter growing up. Because you never know what will happen next. Parents can only accompany their children for a certain journey, and they have to walk the rest of their lives on their own, and they have no idea what kind of difficulties and obstacles are waiting for them on the road? You can\’t be their lifelong guardian, overcoming obstacles for them. You must know how to let go at the right time, so that they can learn to be independent and bravely face the hardships of life on their own. And the world will eventually give in to your bravery. Wu Zun, who debuted as an idol, was once brilliant. Like many other celebrities in the entertainment industry, they dare not publish their private lives, especially in terms of relationships. Wu Zun said in the book \”Wu Zun Decides to Be Brave\”: Once, I took Neinei to a restaurant for dinner. When the waiter came in to pour water, Neinei kept calling him \”Dad\”. There was no other way, so Wu Chun could only make a \”shh\” gesture with Neinei to stop his daughter from shouting. But afterwards, Wu Zun felt very sorry for his daughter and felt guilty. My daughter is not wrong, she is the one she dares not face. So, he decided to bravely disclose the fact that he was married and have children, and no longer hide it. Wu Zun used practical actions to tell his daughter that dad is brave, so you must be brave too. In order to set an example, other fathers only bring one baby to participate in the show and it is too much. But Wu Zun has a son and a daughter. He does everything himself and is willing to help other fathers. He never once complained \”I\’m tired.\” And all this was seen by this pair of sensible children. Following their father\’s example, they gradually learned to be brave, independent, and grow up in a strange environment. The stock god Buffett donated all his wealth to society, leaving only 1% for himself and his children. The wealth that parents leave to their children is more important than money, it is to cultivate their children into independent individuals who can brave the unknown world. In a reality interview show, when Jin Xing was asked by the host: \”Why are you working so hard and desperately?\” she said without hesitation: \”I must mention it before my child is 18 and really enters this world. To their mothers, they are proud. Because it would be cruel, so I am trying to do it.\” Yes, how can parents who are not brave teach brave children? In the show \”Mom is Superman 2\”, Ma Yashu is in the public eyeAfter disappearing for many years, he returned to the big screen with his two children. When you see Ma Yashu\’s home, you will be surprised. Is this a celebrity\’s home? There was no decent furniture in the house, the entire living room was empty, and there was no dining table in the kitchen. The reason is just that she is afraid that the children are too young and will be easily bumped into them, and she is afraid that they will be injured. So even if the family eats, they all sit on the floor. She was afraid that her daughter Mia would be cold, so Mia wore diapers until she entered kindergarten and could not go to the toilet by herself. Mia also acted very timid in the show. She was afraid of going to kindergarten and communicating with other children. She would always make a fuss and call her mother, and could not go to school normally. Sometimes, parents know how to let go, which is also a kind of bravery. Give children the opportunity to face life bravely. Even if you know that your beloved one who has been holding it in your mouth for fear of melting and holding it in your hand for fear of falling off will one day no longer need you, and you will feel very lost inside, you still have to learn to be brave. Taiwanese writer Long Yingtai wrote in \”Watching Off\”: \”The so-called scene between father, daughter and mother only means that your fate with him is that you will continue to watch his back fade away in this life. You stand on the path At this end of the road, watch him gradually disappear at the turning point of the path, and he silently tells you with his back: No need to chase.\” Some things can only be done by one person. Some levels can only be passed by one person. Some roads can only be walked alone. The most valuable lesson parents can teach their children is: be brave! Also in \”Where Are We Going, Dad 5\”, there is a father and son pair that are loved by the audience, Chen Xiaochun and Sweet Pepper Xiaochun, which are sweet to the heart. In the competition held by the mother group, Xiao Xiaochun is very eager to help her mother win beautiful jewelry. However, because of Chen Xiaochun\’s repeated mistakes, he ended up in last place. After several failures, Xiao Xiaochun wiped her tears and stamped her feet and said, \”Why do you always lose? Why do you always lose? I want to win.\” The hot-tempered Ying Cai\’er did not get angry, but squatted down and patiently said: \” You won’t always win in life, you will win and you will lose, just be happy.” Yes, the road of life is not smooth. More often than not, there are more adversities than good times. When we suffer failure, we must not lose the courage to live, wipe away the tears from the corners of our eyes, and start all over again. American educator Barbera Ross once said: \”Parents must let their children know that it cannot be smooth sailing on the road to growth. Success is often accompanied by hardships, ups and downs and setbacks.\” According to one Domestic surveys and studies show that more than 90% of children now have varying degrees of timidity and fear. They are timid, cowardly, and timid. They dare not go out when it gets dark, dare not answer questions in class, and even dare not resist when they are bullied… Goethe once said: \”If you lose your courage, you will lose everything.\” .\” Teaching children to be brave has become a top priority in family education. So what appropriate educational methods can be used to cultivate brave children who are independent, courageous, and competitive? First, parents learning to let go is the beginning of cultivating brave seedlings. Walking on the road in the community at night, I once saw a foreign mother running and playing with her 2-year-old child. It\’s summer, and the children are wearing short-sleeved shirtsMany grandmothers and mothers nearby were talking about how dangerous it is to wear trousers. The children are still unstable and can easily be broken. Sure enough, when the child was chasing his mother, he accidentally fell down. But soon, with the encouragement of his mother: \”Come on, baby! You can!\” The child suppressed his aggrieved face, touched his injured knee, and continued to run forward happily. Sometimes, it’s not that the children are incompetent, but that parents give them too much care, preventing them from learning to be independent, stand up when they fall, and complete impossible tasks independently. For parents, learning to let go is a skill. Second, learning to say \”You are so brave!\” is more important than blaming. Children are not like adults. They are still in the growing stage and are prone to making mistakes. Sometimes they do not make sense and seem unreasonable. For example, in the third season of \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”, Dajun was very afraid of getting dirty. When all the children went to the fields to fish, he was the only one on the shore, looking like he had nothing to do. But as a father, Lin Yongjian must help his son overcome his inner fear. Whenever he had a chance, he would say to Dajun, \”Dad is proud of you!\” \”You are so brave!\” These encouraging words helped him successfully overcome his psychological barriers, and he was not afraid of getting dirty or suffering, and had the courage to participate in activities. Come. If Lin Yongjian had blindly expressed dissatisfaction and blame to his children at that time, then I am afraid that the children would be even more timid and depressed. In fact, the most important thing for children is self-confidence. So, cheer for your children boldly and believe that your children will create miracles! Third, tell your children: Experience is more important than success! Many parents will tell their children that you have to win, you have to get 100 points in the test, and you have to get first place. This will instill in children a concept: losing is not good, I don’t want to fail, I don’t want to be a loser. In the news not long ago, a 10-year-old girl felt so severely hit by a few criticisms from her teacher that she chose to end her life by jumping off a building. In fact, today\’s children have poor psychological endurance and cannot withstand hardships and setbacks because parents do not guide their children correctly. When children suffer setbacks, parents should give their children a big hug and tell them that what you have experienced is better than Success is more important. Fourth, cultivate children’s sense of responsibility and become strong and responsible people. There is a saying that children who lack a sense of responsibility must be weak. Why in \”Little Hands Holding Puppies\”, everyone likes Arale so much. Because, in the show, we saw a brave and responsible Arale. When strangers came to the house and wanted to exchange gifts for puppies, Alale cried anxiously and kept protecting the puppies: \”You can\’t take them away, they are our friends!\” This sense of responsibility is in her little heart. It burst out and infected every staff member present. Don\’t over-indulge your children, let them learn to give, learn to love, love their parents, and their pets, instead of just taking blindly, they must become responsible people. It can be seen that courage can be cultivated. Let children face life and \”give it a try\” bravely. They are much braver than we think. There is still a long way to go, and we all need to learn to be brave, because there is no such thing asSomeone can take care of you forever, you have to learn to face it and learn to let go.