A mother’s good temper is a blessing to her children

A friend is very distressed recently. Because my mother was having trouble with her husband. On one side was my mother, who said she had this temper, so what else could happen to her. On one side is the husband, who says that your mother has a great temper and is fine with you, but she cannot be so mean to the children. The palms and backs are all flesh. At that time, when they were not married, her mother would lose her temper and quarrel with her father, and she could hide at a friend\’s house for a few days. When her father informed her on the phone that the war was over, she reluctantly went home. She said that at that time, when she was watching TV and laughing, her mother would say that a girl is not reserved. As a result, she no longer dared to watch dramas with her mother. Sometimes she comes home after a tiring day. Instead of being greeted with care and greetings, she was probably greeted with yells and curses, so she could only hide in the room. She felt that she never wanted to live with her mother in this life. As a result, my mother-in-law became seriously ill after the marriage. After giving birth to a son, you still have to ask your biological mother to help. Having just given birth to a grandson, the old man\’s mood has improved for a while. But the little guy is naughty when he is two years old. As soon as she made a mistake, I heard her scolding: \”You are so disobedient. If you still cry, I will throw you out of the door and let the wolves carry you away.\” \”You still cry, you still cry, I will beat you!\” That tone of voice from across the room made people laugh. I felt flustered. On weekends, the couple takes their children to play by themselves. As a result, sometimes I didn\’t take the old man with me, and I saw her at home with a straight face. Then the rare good mood of the day came to zero again. In a family, the mother can really determine the aura of the home. In some families, the old man has a bad temper, but he has a good-tempered mother. It makes you feel comfortable instantly. If your mother is always unhappy and loses her temper at every turn. No matter how hard the old man tried to mediate, it would not have much effect. Mother is a core of family culture. Mo Yan once wrote \”Mother\”, which allows us to see the impact of a mother\’s temperament on her children. \”What I can\’t forget is that the mother with a sad face was humming a little song while working hard! At that time, in our large family with a large population, the mother was the one who worked the hardest and was the most hungry. The most serious one was also my mother. For a while, several women in the village committed suicide in succession, and I felt a huge fear inexplicably. That was the most difficult moment for our family, and I was always worried that my mother would be on the verge of death. Whenever I next When I came back from work, I would shout loudly as soon as I entered the door. Only when I heard my mother\’s answer did I feel a stone fall in my heart. One time when I came back from work, my mother didn\’t answer my call. I felt that the most terrifying thing had happened, and I couldn\’t help but feel that the most terrible thing had happened. I cried loudly. At this time, my mother came in from outside. She asked me why I was crying. I didn\’t dare to tell her my worries. My mother understood what I meant, and she said to me: My child, don\’t worry, Lord Hell. If you don\’t scream, I won\’t go! Although my mother\’s words were not high-pitched, I suddenly gained a sense of security and hope for the future. This is a solemn promise made by a mother to her worried son.\” So. , Mom’s strength and optimism are really the blessing of the family and the luck of the child. A sunny and happy mother is like a paradise to her children, where birds are singing and flowers are fragrant. A few days ago, I watched \”Poncho on the Cliff\” with my son. There was a detail in it that was very touching. Because his father, who was a captain, was going home, Sousuke\’s mother took him with him early in the morning.My son went shopping. Make dinner and look forward to a family reunion. As a result, because of work, my father could only stay on the sea in front of his home for a while. After learning the news, my mother, who was happily busy in the kitchen, exploded instantly. He collapsed on the bed and was angry. At this time, the son cautiously came to his mother\’s side. Seeing her mother\’s distress, she went over to comfort her. The son thought of Ponyo, the little mermaid who had just separated from him. Then she sadly said to her mother: \”I wonder, Ponyo, is she crying?\” After hearing what her son said, the mother\’s eyes opened, and she should have realized the impact of her emotions on her son. She jumped up, hugged her son and said, \”Ponyo must be as energetic as Risa!\” When her son saw his mother become happy, he also became happy. It\’s these little details that touch people\’s hearts. It is this mother\’s intention that the little Zongsuke is kind and warm. Because bad moods are contagious. In a family, if someone loses his temper. It\’s like dropping a stone on calm water. Sometimes it\’s thin ripples that slowly spread outward. But sometimes it can stir up stormy waves. For example, the way you look when you come home often affects the atmosphere at home. Every time my wife comes back, my son always calls mom excitedly. If she worked hard that day, or was in a bad mood, and did not give her child a smile. The little one will really lose a lot. Therefore, you must learn to manage your emotions. So one day I got angry and my tone was a little harsh. Even if the wife doesn\’t speak, the son will remind her. Dad, your bad temper affects me and makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes when being reminded by a small child, I really feel a little guilty. Children\’s hearts are actually very sensitive. Children sometimes take things to heart when parents say them inadvertently. So you will be surprised to find that what you said a year ago can one day be said by your child in the same way you did at that time. It seems that he said it himself, but only after you have said the same thing will you know that the child actually carries his own shadow. This is why we say that family of origin is important. Some very strong and painful experiences and feelings experienced in childhood often affect the person concerned many years later, and they unknowingly make major decisions that affect their life. Warm families tend to raise kind and warm children. However, families full of violence can easily cause children to lose their personality. Of course, this doesn’t mean that once you become a mother, you have to swallow everything. Learn to manage your emotions and learn to be kind to yourself. Because if you tolerate it blindly, you will suffer in your heart, which will only lead to internal injuries, or even brewing a bigger explosion. I think the thing that can make a mother tremble with anger must be someone she cares about very much but is powerless to do anything about. It\’s like on the battlefield, you are not afraid of a god-like opponent, but you are pissed off by your pig teammates. There is a saying that the husband determines the temperature of his wife. Women actually long for care, respect and sharing from their husbands. If she had something to do, someone would do the housework, and someone would coax her children, she would be extremely happy. One time my wife had something to do and went out temporarily. I happened to have a bad cold that day and originally needed her care. I felt good just after dinner and felt that the past two days had beenIt had exhausted her. I just washed the dishes and kept the kitchen clean. Then I went back to my room to type. When my wife came back, she started to exclaim after being busy for a while. Then he happily came to my room and gave me the award. The prize is a sweet kiss. Seeing that we were happy, the son on the side also looked at us with a smile. The best gift a mother can give her children is a good temper. And if a father can give his mother happiness, it is also the best gift for his children.