Don’t let your child’s eating habits reveal your family tradition

Cang is practical and knows etiquette. Recently, \”A Bite of China 3\”, which is well-produced and promotes Chinese food culture, became a hit in the circle of friends as soon as it appeared. Not only are the authentic delicacies in the pictures mouth-watering, but even more rare is the craftsman’s ingenuity and meticulous dining etiquette told in the story. There is an episode about the top ten bowls of love banquets of Pingjiang people. The banquet etiquette is taught by words and deeds by neatly dressed masters, who pass it down as gifts from generation to generation. The banquet rules include the order of seats, the technique of pouring wine, the order of eating and holding chopsticks… Every step is meticulous, and the children who participated in the recording of the program are all docile, cute, polite and polite, which makes people feel warm after watching it. Everyone must have a tacit understanding of what it is like to have a dinner party with children in real life. The most frightening thing is that many people think that it is nothing and that it is normal for children to be noisy and unruly. But you must know that, as the \”Book of Rites·Xue Ji\” says: \”If a jade is not polished, it will not become a useful tool; if a person does not learn, he will not know.\” Don\’t let your child\’s eating habits reveal your family tradition. No one will tell you that it would be a disaster for your child to have a New Year dinner with naughty children without a tutor. Before the food was served, my best friend\’s 6-year-old son Chenchen was suddenly stuck by something. His little face turned blue and he was panting, scaring all the guests to death. Fortunately, a doctor friend was present to perform first aid. It turned out that while the adults were greeting each other and chatting, in order to avoid another child asking him for snacks, he stuffed all the rock candy into his mouth in one go. When the main meal started, he argued that he had to be fed by his mother before he would eat. When his favorite sweet and sour pork came, he had to turn the dish in front of him, and the other guests didn\’t even get a bite. During the chat, the uncle at the next table pointed to a plate of vegetables and asked Chenchen, \”Do you know what this is?\” He couldn\’t answer, so he asked another question and failed to answer it. As a result, Chenchen was eating and making loud noises. He couldn\’t help crying or coaxing him, which made the uncle sweat profusely and extremely embarrassing. Chenchen\’s performance at the dinner shocked everyone present! There are several other children whose performance is comparable to Chenchen’s. We can’t help but ask: What’s wrong with the children nowadays? During the dinner, the children\’s cries, shouts, and slapsticks kept ringing in our ears, making the adults very busy. A colleague joked: \”We are not allowed to set off firecrackers this year, but the children are crying instead.\” Roaring.\” The ancients said, \”If you don\’t learn etiquette, you can\’t stand up.\” Although the dining table is small, their words and deeds at this small dining table reflect their parents\’ level and educational philosophy. No one will bluntly tell you that your child is in need of tutoring, but after a dinner, some people will gradually alienate you, some will secretly complain to you, and some people will be at the same table with the boss, and the behavior of the child will affect their personal image. At a huge discount, your child\’s eating habits are gradually ruining you. Taiwanese writer Lin Qingxuan said in an article about food: \”People always choose their own preferences, which are often very close to their own personality and essence, so a person\’s personality can be seen from his food. \”And I think that not only the content of food, but also the attitude towards eating can also reveal a person\’s personality. This kind of personality is upbringing.\” A child\’s eating habits hide the happiness of a family. A child\’s bad eating habitsThere are three types: the overbearing CEO type, who will hog the dishes he likes in front of himself and not let the guests get them; the wolf-gobbling type, who doesn’t even get all the dishes, and will eat until he is full first; the emperor patrol type, who exceeds When he was 6 years old, he still had to be fed by his parents and would get angry if he disagreed with him. The Chinese nation has always been a country of etiquette. If we pay attention to food and appearance, we should pay attention to etiquette. Even celebrities who are active in the public eye pay special attention to the education of children about eating habits. In the episode of \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”, Max took a bite of steamed buns and handed it to Wu Chun, who took it and ate it without hesitation. Neinei asked her father: \”Do you like it? Why do you eat everything?\” Wu Zun patiently said to the children: \”There are still many people in the world who have nothing to eat, so we must cherish food and not waste it.\” Tianxin and her father When grandparents and grandparents were eating together, the family toasted before the meal. Although Tianxin was a child, she held the cup and clinked it with everyone respectfully. Grandma said \”Happy Holidays\” to Tianxin, and Tianxin politely responded \”Grandma, thank you for your hard work.\” While eating, my mother called, and Tianxin said very sweetly, \”Mom, you have worked hard.\” Children who can be polite and courteous when it comes to eating will bring happiness and joy to their family from the dining table. Huang Lei once posted a picture of Duoduo and his sister having dinner on Weibo. In the photo, the two daughters are in foodie mode at home over a large bowl of tomato and egg noodles. Duoduo looked down at his sister with chopsticks, as if asking her \”do you want to eat more?\” The younger sister looked at the ground in the bowl obediently and smiled sweetly. The picture was super warm and charming. Zhu Xi described in \”Children\’s Instructions\”: Before eating or drinking, you must chew it gently and swallow it slowly, and do not hear the sound of eating or drinking. Don\’t argue about the good or evil of everything you eat or drink. The ancients have already understood this philosophy: people who eat well and look good must have a high family happiness index. At the dining table, cultivating children\’s gratitude is the core part of teaching children to develop a good \”eating attitude\” education. When Qian Zhongshu taught his daughter how to eat, he mentioned a point: Eating is sometimes like getting married. Eating is no longer just a matter of filling your stomach. The dining table also has a social function, such as communicating with each other, discussing business, etc. Being courteous at the dinner table will benefit your children throughout their lives. Jay Chou, the little king, revealed why he married Kun Ling because she knows how to be grateful and has a sense of ritual. She would sit together as a family to pray before eating, thanking her for the hard-earned food, and thanking her for the love that keeps her family company forever. The strong family atmosphere deeply infected him. Diplomats throughout the ages have paid attention to eating etiquette. As the saying goes, \”Eating looks can make a country prosper.\” Every move of a diplomat represents the image of a country. The way a diplomat eats is the face of a country. Premier Zhou\’s guard chief Yang Dezhong is tall and impressive. Because he is the captain of the guard, he has to stand there and watch everyone take their seats before he sits down. After Premier Zhou entered the restaurant, he often sat in a random seat. No one else was willing to sit in the seat where the Prime Minister should sit, so in the end only that seat was left for Yang Dezhong. Because of this situationWhen he was in Ghana, the local service staff took it for granted that he must be the prime minister. Every time the food is served to him, I am very attentive to him. It wasn\’t until the end of the visit when Premier Zhou shook hands with all the service personnel one by one to express his gratitude that those people suddenly understood. They all said in unison, ‘China’s Prime Minister is really good. \’\” Teaching by words and deeds is the best way to educate. Premier Zhou taught the children to respect everyone in every detail during meals. This kind of love will be passed on to the children and will continue. A few days ago, I went to visit an old man. His descendants are all excellent, and he told me that the dining table is the best place to cultivate children\’s gratitude. In the school cafeteria, I often see students spilling the entire bowl of white rice on the floor, throwing it away, and not cherishing it. So I would secretly sit on the dining table of these students, eat and chat with them, and quietly clean up the dishes after eating without wasting a drop of food. The students would be embarrassed to throw it away when they saw me doing this. Gratitude is the origin of all morality. Children who are always grateful will be content with what they have and cherish the hard-earned life today. Every small action during the meal reflects everyone\’s upbringing. Everyone\’s \”Eating appearance\” is not a private matter. In social situations, eating with friends, \”eating appearance\” has become a social etiquette. Civilized \”eating appearance\” should be cultivated from an early age, and parents and elders themselves should first set an example for their children. Teach children to eat well , is the highest form of family tradition. We must know that family is the basic cell of society and the first school in life, so we should go home more often to eat. No matter how much the times change, no matter how much the pattern of life changes, we must pay attention to the family. Construction, focusing on family, tutoring, and family tradition. Zeng Guofan taught his brothers, nephews, and nephews a lesson by writing family letters, leaving the Zeng family tradition. Therefore, Zeng descendants emerged in large numbers. Fan Zhongyan wrote \”Yi Zhuang Rules\” and established it as the \”Basic Law\” of the family , so the Fan family has been prosperous for 800 years. During family dinners, developing a good family tradition of eating will help individuals achieve social success. If you want your children to have a good \”eating appearance\”, you can start from the following points Let’s start with: 1. Appropriate “laziness” to enhance the child’s independence. From the age of 4, the child should be supported to participate in housework activities and do things within his ability. For example, get up in the morning and fold the quilt, sweep the floor, wipe the table, take out the garbage, and take care of the child. Go to the vegetable market, choose and buy vegetables, calculate prices, etc. If guests come to the house for dinner, let the children place the tableware and do some preparations for entertaining the guests. 2. Tailor-made rules for children. For children, They can accept simple and unified rules. As long as parents insist on asking their children in a stable and emotionally stable manner, take 10 minutes a day to review the implementation with their children, praise good behavior, and provide suggestions for improvement on shortcomings, the children will gradually \” \”Act according to the rules\”. The book \”Game Power\” recommends that all parents tell their children the truth they want to tell them in a language that their children can understand. Games are \”language\” that children can understand. Take your children to play scenes Role-playing games can easily help children establish a sense of rules. 3. Stimulate children’s desire to explore. Every child is growing upYou don’t need a supervisor, but a guide, supporter and companion. If parents can \”question\” and \”be patient\”, their children will gradually develop the ability to acquire knowledge from everything, and their children\’s knowledge will naturally be broader, and they will not become a dull person who \”doesn\’t know everything\” Cute baby. Bill Gates is lucky. His mother allowed him, who was only 3 years old, to stay by her side when she was talking to others about the history and museums of Seattle. Can he understand? Not necessarily, but it shows that the mother never misses any opportunity to stimulate her child\’s interest. At home, Gates could flip through his parents\’ collection of books at will. At the age of 7, he could read the \”World Book Encyclopedia\”; his parents encouraged him to join the Boy Scouts, where he learned how to get along with other children. At the age of 15, he You can write complex programs. Gates\’ success is inseparable from his parents\’ good parenting. 4. Cultivate children\’s sense of sharing. Lu Xun said, \”Children\’s behavior is due to nature and changes due to the environment, so Kong Rong will let pears.\” For example, at home, children can be encouraged to share fruits and pastries with every member of the family. And express gratitude to the child and let her feel the joy after sharing. In addition to sharing food and toys, it can also help children expand to sharing emotions. For example, parents take time to share what they see and hear with their children every day, and guide their children to share their experiences. Food is a comprehensive reflection of a child\’s upbringing. Pay attention to training in daily life, and he will definitely become the family\’s business card at the dinner table. The way a child eats hides the future of the family and is the highest level of family tradition.