Why do children only like to listen to me read and not read by themselves? &Why can’t my child read?

I have always wanted to write this article. The reason is that every time I talk about Edamame reading independently at the age of three or four, some mothers ask me anxiously: \”Why doesn\’t my child like to read?/Why does my child not like to read?\” Can’t read by yourself at the age of four?” This question, “Children don’t like to read,” makes Chinese mothers so anxious. It seems that the sooner children fall in love with reading, the better, so they can learn a lot of words. Therefore, once the child reads a few books and then runs to play, once the child does not like reading by himself and likes others to tell him, or once the child shows greater interest in other things and does not care about reading, the mother will Starting to feel anxious. I have thought about this question for a long time. Why do some children, no matter how hard their parents try to guide them, just don’t like to read? Later, I remembered an incident when I was a teacher in a kindergarten, and my heart became enlightened. I was finally able to give everyone who paid attention to me a responsible answer. It was an open class in a Reggio Emilia kindergarten, and I was observing as a teaching assistant. The teacher wants to teach the children the goal of \”If we want to get to a certain place, what means of transportation should we take?\” The children sat on the floor around the teacher, and the teacher wrote the children\’s answers on the whiteboard with a marker. The teacher asked the children, if we want to go to a supermarket far away, how should we go? Child A ran to the picture book shelf and took a book. He pointed to the characters in the book and said to the teacher, \”We can go by plane like little bears!\” Child B jumped up and said, \”We can ride scooters.\” Go!\” Child C said, I want to ask Teacher S, she will know how to go. Child D didn’t want to talk and felt bored listening to other children’s answers. He didn\’t want to go at all. He found the supermarket boring and preferred to listen to the teacher read stories to them. When I first listened to this class, I had no idea what it meant. In hindsight, this is why some children like reading and some don\’t. This is because children are not born with a blank slate. There are fundamental differences in the way they learn knowledge from the outside world, and this is largely innate. △ Each child is good at different areas of intelligence. Child A is a visual type and likes to absorb knowledge from reading materials. He likes to read and see words, and he will look for answers to questions in books. Child B is a kinesthetic type and can use the abilities of his limbs and trunk, which shows that he can control his body better. The child will like to touch and move, and jump up and down. C children like to learn from interpersonal interactions. She won\’t find it from books, but she will cleverly use the power of others to achieve her goal. The subconscious thinking process of this kind of child is: \”I don\’t know how XX does it, but someone knows it. I will also tell him things that others don\’t know. As soon as the two of us exchange, we will live together!\” D child\’s response to these questions Neither type, he is an auditory absorption type. Many children don\’t like to read books by themselves, but like others to read to them. (In addition, some mothers hope that their children will read on their own, not because they want their children to learn to read early, but simply because the mother is tired of reading and wants her children to be self-sufficient so that they can play other things by themselves. So, don’t you like it? When children who listen to stories begin to read on their ownWill it be late? Don\’t worry, I\’ll give you a recipe. Just follow the prescription and take the medicine. First of all, mothers don’t have to worry. The child is not lazy or doesn’t like to read, but he is used to absorbing knowledge through hearing. It doesn\’t matter, just read it to your child and keep reading. But it’s better to read to your child yourself rather than listen to a ready-made audio. Because when you read, you can consciously point to the words with your fingers (this trick is optional for children who like to read, but it is necessary for children with auditory absorption type). Children will connect the pronunciation of the words with their meanings. In this way, children with auditory learning type will be able to read and start reading independently earlier. △ For children who like listening but not reading, try reading with your children. Therefore, the reason why Maodou recognized words early is also related to the fact that he is a visual learning child. But don’t be envious too early. To give everyone a psychological balance, the traditional concept is that \”everything is inferior, only reading is good\”. In addition, the relationship between reading and exam-taking is the closest and superficial, so people treat children with visual learning type It’s just obsession. But as time goes by, the peak a child can reach in life is more related to whether he can truly develop his natural ability to learn. I heard a while ago that the basic physical fitness class taught by Maodou has reached the B round of financing, with a financing amount of nearly 100 million. The founder is an athlete who is good at learning physical movements. Why not give full play to his own strengths and reach the peak of his life? Children who only know how to read cannot achieve great achievements; early in life, reading two books and recognizing words for two years earlier than other children does not mean that they will be successful in the future. Life is about comprehensive quality. Respect children\’s innate and natural learning methods, and love children for who they are, not what we think. Let children regard reading as a daily condiment, and don\’t put too much pressure on children to read. This is the right way.