Let your children fall in love with reading, don’t miss these three points

A few days ago, a mother whose son is in middle school left me a message and said: \”My son is addicted to online games every day. Is there any way to help him fall in love with reading?\” In fact, when many mothers of middle school children ask for help, I often feel At a loss. Because children have reached the middle school stage, many behavioral habits have been developed. Children who love reading have already read a lot of books, even more than many adults. For a child who has no reading habit, it is really difficult to get him to calm down and read a book. Just like a child\’s growth, there are critical periods. Reading also has a critical period. Before talking about the critical period, listen patiently to a story and a person’s experience. The story goes like this: Once, dozens of Nobel Prize winners were gathering together. A reporter from a Western media asked one of the Nobel Prize-winning scientists: \”Which university did you study at which university is most important to you?\” Important things?\” The scientist calmly replied: \”In kindergarten.\” \”In kindergarten?\” The reporter was obviously surprised by the scientist\’s answer, but still pretended to be calm and asked: \”What did you learn in kindergarten?\” \”You learned it. Share with friends, don’t take things that are not yours, place items neatly, apologize if you do something wrong, observe nature carefully…\” the scientist replied seriously. A Nobel Prize winner actually said that what he learned in kindergarten had the greatest impact on his life. It was simply hypocritical. Is it really a show to gain attention? The next person is even more awesome. Mo Yan is the first Chinese to win the Nobel Prize. His achievements can be recorded in history and are a miracle. I have paid attention to some of Mr. Mo Yan’s experiences, and one thing I discovered is that Mr. Mo Yan read a lot, especially when he was a child. He liked to read leisure books. Throughout his adolescence, he never stopped reading for a moment. When Mo Yan was in elementary school, he often peeked at \”idle books\”, including \”The Romance of the Gods\”, \”The Romance of the Three Kingdoms\”, \”Water Margin\”, \”The Scholars\”, \”How Steel Was Tempered\”, etc. At that time, all the books that should be readable were He showed it. Mo Yan dropped out of school in the fifth grade and began agricultural production for 10 years. During the Cultural Revolution, when he had no books to read, he read Xinhua Dictionary. Later, I read \”A Compendium of General History of China\”, and I have been carrying this set of books out of my hometown since then. Is this how things end? No, if so, he should not become a Nobel Prize winner in literature. Mo Yan joined the Chinese People\’s Liberation Army in 1976. While serving as a librarian in the army, Mo Yan read a large number of literary books and read all the more than 1,000 literary books in the library. I was dumbfounded when I saw this. This is how literary heroes are made. More than 1,000 volumes are enough for you to read for many years. You can count on your fingers. The first Nobel laureate told us: Cultivating children\’s habits as early as possible is more important than anything else. The second Nobel laureate told us: Reading habits maintained in childhood can create miracles. Only when parents have this understanding can they truly guide their children to fall in love with reading. For children to fall in love with reading, they must have parents who value reading. Because the child\’s initial world is opened up by his parents little by little. if youWhat is the most important factor in cultivating children\’s reading habits? The answer is definitely the reading atmosphere in the family and the example of parents. More than 40 years ago, American reading promoter Jim Trillis wrote a few lines of poetry on the title page of the book \”Reading aloud Handbook\”: \”You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold, but… You\’ll never be richer than me I have a mother who reads to me.\” This quote inspired a generation of Americans and inspired mothers to read bedtime stories to their children. When parents really pay attention to reading, the atmosphere at home will change. In a home, if there are no books and no people who love books, it will be difficult for the child to fall in love with reading. If you are only interested in TV series or mobile phones, if you are very impetuous and use busy as an excuse, but are unwilling to calm down and read some books seriously. Then don’t blame your children for not reading, reflect on yourself first. And if parents love reading, the family will definitely have a good reading atmosphere. This is the best way to guide children to fall in love with reading. Parents who love reading will raise different children. Because whether parents love reading or not, there is a huge gap in their own cultivation and emotional intelligence, and this gap will be reflected in the education of the next generation. Parents\’ way of thinking and cultivation unconsciously affect and even determine their children. Persisting in parent-child reading can also bring many additional benefits to parents. For example, it stimulates parents\’ learning ability, because their children will ask you why? Sometimes when I encounter professional problems with my son, I really need to look up a lot of information. Accumulated over the years, you can maintain this learning ability. And during the reading process, you can also discover the beauty of many picture books from a child\’s perspective. Feel the beauty of life and gain various interesting or philosophical gains. To make your child fall in love with reading, you must have a bookshelf and books that belong to your child. There are thousands of families, and every family is different. And it can be divided into two categories, one is families with books, and the other is families without books. Children\’s teaching materials cannot be counted, but story telling sessions, close friends, newspapers, etc. can be counted. But even so, many homes still don\’t have a book or a newspaper. No matter how wealthy such a family is, the children\’s spiritual world will still tend to be poor. Their childhood will be tarnished. I still remember that when we were young, people in the village were not rich. But there is a family that has a lot of books hidden away, so we little bookworms often go to their house to borrow books. Later, several of their children were admitted to college in the 1990s. With such a family tradition, it is difficult for children not to be outstanding. So I often tell some friends that we must prepare a special reading corner for our children. Even if you are temporarily living in a rented house. We should also organize a place like this, just like respecting a shrine. Be sure to pay attention to the layout of this reading corner. Then let the children read to their heart\’s content during childhood, the most suitable time for reading. Books suitable for children should be placed as close as possible to children, so that children can read them at any time. Because many things, after missing them, can only leave regrets. One regret I have now is that I did not read the complete works of Jin Yong properly back then, and only read part of them. A sudden thought occurred some time agoAfter reading \”Xia Ke Xing\”, the story is very exciting, but I can\’t read it like I read Jin Yong when I was a teenager. Children\’s literature writer Graham Greene said: \”Perhaps only the books we read in childhood will have a profound impact on life. … When we were children, all books were \’prophetic books\’, telling us about the future. Just as a fortune-teller sees a long journey in playing cards or death through water, these books influence the future.” Indeed, what we encounter, see, and hear in childhood is imprinted on our In my heart, I will remember it for a lifetime. And if you miss your childhood, you really miss it, and you will never get it back in a lifetime. It may even become a lifelong regret for a person. Therefore, I encourage my son to read the books he likes without being too scrupulous. Enjoy your best reading time. To make your children fall in love with reading, you must arrange a fixed reading time every day. This fixed time does not mean it must be at noon or at night. Instead, read 15-30 minutes a day. Trillis said, \”Reading aloud for 15 minutes a day is the secret of American education.\” In fact, these 15 minutes seem very short and insignificant. But after you really persevere, what you get is far from the number of 15 minutes. It is a reading habit, a pursuit and desire for knowledge. When children have this kind of enthusiasm, learning will become a conscious behavior. When all children have this kind of enthusiasm, how far will the entire country progress! Of course, for children, sometimes parent-child reading time is not just for reading. But enjoy the feeling of being accompanied by your parents. Because in parent-child reading, parents must devote themselves wholeheartedly to reading, put down their work, and put down their mobile phones. Of course kids love moments like this. While reading, you can hold your children gently and look into their eyes. When reading, don\’t follow your own ideas, but see the children\’s emotions and storyline. And instead of preaching, discuss it with your children or imagine a new ending to the story together. Children can be encouraged to retell familiar stories so that they can gain a sense of accomplishment from reading and build self-confidence. We often talk about spending quality time with our children. I think there is no higher quality companionship than parent-child reading. This requires parents to invest time and energy. Also invest in emotion and love. But you can\’t give up easily just because your child doesn\’t cooperate or you are impatient. That would be a pity. Let’s work together on your parent-child reading journey!