Angry! A perverted man is accused of molesting two girls in the elevator. Please let your children do this in critical moments

On March 29, an appalling, abominable and heinous \”case of molesting a girl\” occurred in Jiexiu, Shanxi Province. An adult man followed two little girls returning home from school into the elevator. After the elevator door closed, the man immediately leaned over and pervertedly alternately forcibly kissed the two girls. The whole process lasted for more than a minute, and the girl managed to escape from the elevator several times. However, they were too weak. As soon as they climbed to the elevator door, they were forcibly dragged in again. The man even picked up a girl and molested her. The two girls resisted desperately, but faced with the perverted and obscene man, they had no power to resist. Finally, the elevator finally stopped on a certain floor. Seeing someone outside, the man ran away in a hurry. The two girls were in shock, hugging each other and breaking down crying. In this suffocating minute or so, the two girls must have felt so scared, panicked, and helpless. They may know what is happening, but they may not know why the \”weird uncle\” behaves like this. There is no doubt that this minute in the elevator will become their lifelong nightmare. Children must not be left alone in public places, even places as close to home as elevators. The only good thing is that the girl\’s mother quickly noticed the incident and called the police in time. The police quickly detected the case and the man has been detained. While we praise the police for their quick response, we are also worried that the devil is all around us, but the cases that have been discovered and reported are actually just the tip of the iceberg. Under the iceberg, there are a large number of children suffering silently in the invisible darkness. In the recent \”Qi Pa Conference\”, Sun Xuemei, the initiator of \”Girls Protection\” told a true story. A father\’s daughter, 13 years old, was sexually assaulted twice. After she was sexually assaulted for the first time, her daughter called her father and asked to transfer to another school. The father angrily scolded her: \”You think it\’s so easy to transfer to another school. If you don\’t want to go to school, just come back and break corn.\” Later, she told her father again. , even doing farm work is fine, but not going to school. Only then did her father realize that she had been sexually assaulted again. The father cried bitterly at the scene and kept beating his head with his fists, feeling full of regret. He said: If I had taught my child this knowledge, and if I had understood the signal she sent when she asked me for help for the first time, at least she would not have been hurt a second time. I have reviewed more than 100 child sexual abuse cases and found that more than 80% of children have tried to send a distress signal to their parents after being sexually assaulted or molested. They will show up as: afraid to go to school, afraid to go somewhere, particularly wary of adults of the opposite sex, afraid of contact with people, often distraught, and suddenly have emotional breakdowns, full of panic… Due to the lack of awareness of sexual assault, many children After suffering misfortune, they don\’t know how to deal with it. On the one hand, they are afraid of being scolded by their parents, and on the other hand, they are afraid of being persecuted by the abuser. Little people can only hide all their sufferings in their hearts, but they give criminals opportunities again and again. What should have been a carefree childhood was instead filled with endless hurt and torture. Last year, the abandonment case of a 12-year-old left-behind girl in Yibin, Sichuan shocked the whole country. 1At the age of 2, she was still at the age where she was acting like a spoiled child in her parents\’ arms. However, when she was 12 years old, horrific tragedies such as rape, pregnancy, childbirth, and abandonment occurred. As a mother, whenever I imagine that little girl facing endless panic and helplessness by herself, I often burst into tears. Image source: \”Suyuan\” According to statistics from the \”Girls Protection\” organization: In China, in the past four years, there have been 1,401 publicly reported sexual assault cases, with more than 2,568 victims. However, what has been exposed is only the tip of the iceberg. According to data released by the Supreme People\’s Court, from 2013 to 2016, 10,782 child molestation cases were concluded in courts across the country. If converted, that is an average of more than seven cases per day. Cases of child sexual abuse are extremely hidden, and many do not reach the judicial process. Some experts estimate that for every case that surfaces, there are at least seven cases that are deeply \”buried\” behind it. Behind every cold data is the collapse of a family. Image source: NetEase News In 2015, a 6-month-old baby girl was sexually assaulted in Nanping, Fujian. That day was the day of the make-up wedding reception for the baby girl\’s parents. A distant cousin took the baby girl to the back hill to play. When he came back, the child\’s voice was hoarse from crying, the diaper she had just changed was gone, and her lower body was bleeding profusely. According to the hospital\’s diagnosis, the baby girl\’s vagina and hymen had been ruptured, and the forensic examination identified it as a level 2 injury. According to statistics on child sexual assault cases released by the Girls Protection Fund in 2016, 69.28% were committed by acquaintances. The acquaintance status in descending order is teachers and students, other life contacts, neighbors, relatives or parents, friends, and family members. When more than 9,000 parents were surveyed on whether they would entrust their children to acquaintances of the opposite sex, almost 40% of parents chose: yes! For acquaintances, we may choose to believe it, but how do we know that one of our entrustments did not push the child into the abyss? Therefore, you must not easily let others take away your child alone, whether it is an acquaintance or a stranger. For a long time, \”sexual harassment\” and \”sexual assault\” have often been exclusive terms for women. Since cases of sexual assault of boys are rarely exposed, many parents and schools wishfully believe that sexual assault of boys is a small probability event. The mother of a boy often feels lucky: Fortunately, her baby is a boy. Surprisingly, however, boys are no less sexually abused than girls. Image source: NetEase News Weibo suddenly discovered a circle suspected of \”sexually assaulting boys\”. \”Boys around me\” have posted a large number of photos of sexually assaulting boys; famous Olympiad teacher Zhang Datong has sexually assaulted several boys for more than 20 years and no one has reported it; Guangzhou Civil Affairs Bureau Former director Li Jun was suspected of seducing several boys… A WHO report stated that the proportion of girls who were sexually assaulted was 7.5%-11.5%; and the proportion of boys who were sexually assaulted was also as high as 6.5%-9.6 %. However, due to the constraints of traditional concepts and the concealment of the injured parts of boys, \”boy sexual assault\” is even more difficult to detect. Therefore, your little boy also needs to be fully protected! Last year, the talented writer Lin Yihan committed suicide. Her life is condensed in the novel \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love Paradise\” she wrote. The heroine\’s experience of being sexually assaulted for a long time was exactly what Lin Yihanpersonal experience. There is a passage in her book: Siqi said to her mother: \”Our tutor seems to have everything except sex education.\” Her mother looked at her in surprise: \”What sex education? Sex education is for those who need sex.\” People.\” Siqi suddenly understood that in the sex education class, parents would always be absent. They were absent from class, but they thought that school hadn\’t started yet. Bound by traditional concepts, we always talk about sex, making sex education an untouchable iceberg, and causing children to miss the best time for sex education. If you think sex education is too early, bad people won’t think the child is too young. You must know that many sexual assaults are \”crimes of opportunity.\” As adults, we need to call for the improvement of legislation to severely punish sexual assaults and never tolerate them. On the other hand, children also need to be protected and educated. 1. Regardless of whether you have a girl or a boy, tell him: 1. The areas covered by shorts and vests cannot be touched by others, including the front and back, and neither the same sex nor the opposite sex can touch them. 2. Don’t believe that there are “secrets that you cannot tell your parents.” If you are hurt, you must tell your parents. 3. Keep a distance from men, whether they are peers, parents or grandparents. Try not to be alone in the same room or go out alone. 4. If something bad happens, it’s not your fault, it’s just a joke of fate. Mom and Dad have always loved you and will always love you. 2. Role-play with your children and practice self-protection. Sun Xuemei, the founder of \”Girls Protection\”, has taught everyone a good method of sex education and child protection. In the following three scenarios, mothers can practice simulations with their children at home. Scenario 1 (there are many people around and shouting can be heard) The mother imitates the bad guy and deliberately touches the child\’s private parts. Teach your children to shout loudly: I don’t know you, don’t touch me! Scenario 2 (if no one is around to help) The mother simulates the bad guy and continues to touch the child’s private parts. Teach your children to shout loudly: I am not yet 14 years old, do you want to go to jail? Scenario 3: When a child encounters a bad or strange touch, teach the child to say the following sentences: Head being touched: I don’t like you touching my head! My feet were touched: It’s fine if I accidentally touch them, but I can’t always touch my feet! The vest area was touched: What do you want, don’t touch me! The shorts area was touched: Mom said, don’t touch here. Do you want to go to jail? This method is very useful, please be sure to do simulation exercises with your children at home. Children may not be able to remember some sex education knowledge, but most of the rehearsed scenes can be firmly engraved in their hearts, allowing them to protect themselves habitually. Shakespeare once said: Hell is empty, the devils are all in the world. There are not only angels in this world, there are also many devils hiding in them, and they will extend their black hands to our children. What we can do is do our best to let more people know how to teach and protect children. Let all children live under a blue sky and have a budding childhood.