How to get children out of mobile games

My son became a mobile phone addict. Last year was the most addictive year for my 9-year-old son to play games. When the holiday was about to come, I asked him where he was going to play. He said he didn\’t want to go anywhere and just wanted to stay at home and play games. He also told me seriously that he would never ruin his vacation with travel again. At that time, playing games became my son’s favorite thing. I no longer play with toys like cars or Transformers that I used to like. I had to fight every day after school and on weekends… I had to be pushed and coaxed to do my homework and do a little bit of housework. Only when you play games do you not need to be reminded, and you can be proactive and conscious. Sometimes after playing for an hour or two, he is still immersed in it. If we take the phone away by force, he will immediately make a fuss and shout in protest. Especially on weekends or holidays, when you have a lot of free time, you spend most of the day playing games on your phone. What should you do? Already become a mobile game fan! Moreover, my son\’s blinking is getting worse and worse. If he doesn\’t control it, his eyes will become myopic! How to help his son get rid of his addiction to mobile games has become an urgent matter. Playing mobile games is not only bad for your eyes, but being immersed in the illusory game world for a long time is also extremely detrimental to children\’s mental health and growth! I was talking to a friend about children being the mirror of their parents. She said: How many children today don’t play games? Do you and your husband also like to play with mobile phones? I reflect that my son\’s addiction to mobile games is indeed closely related to the surrounding environment. Yes, because my husband and I are also mobile phone addicts. Fathers and mothers use their mobile phones to read WeChat Moments and browse WeChat and Weibo every day, so how can they be qualified to restrain their children? \”Don\’t do to others what you don\’t want others to do to you.\” This is what we have taught our children since childhood. Don\’t impose on others what you don\’t like. On the contrary, if you like to play on your mobile phone and control WeChat, how can you blame your children for being obsessed with mobile games? Adults have become mobile phone users, claiming to be busy with their \”work and connections\”. Of course, children will also learn from you. For a while, every time after dinner, my husband, my son, and I each took a mobile phone. I play WeChat, check Moments, and sometimes chat with friends. My husband watches videos and browses various news websites. The son held his mobile phone and played this game for a while, and then played another game for a while, staring at the screen intently. Whenever I remind my son to play less games and pay attention to his eyes, he will directly retort: ​​You play and I play too. This sentence left me speechless. What qualifications do parents who cannot lead by example have to educate their children? In order to help our children get rid of their mobile phone game addiction, my husband and I forced ourselves to put down our mobile phones and pick up newspapers and books. (Besides, whether it is parents or children, playing with mobile phones for a long time can cause great harm to the eyes.) Diverting children\’s attention to effectively accompany parents and setting an example. No longer relying on mobile phones is only the first step. It is necessary to eradicate children\’s psychological addiction to mobile games. Addiction requires parents to provide more effective companionship and guide their children to do meaningful things. I once saw a story: A philosopher trained a group of disciples. When they graduated, he took the disciples to a wilderness full of weeds and asked them how to get rid of the weeds. Some said to dig with a hoe, some said to burn it with firewood, and some said to spread lime… The philosopher smiled and shook his head.Head: \”This is all about treating the symptoms but not the root cause. It takes a lot of effort, but the results are not ideal. The only way is to sow seeds and grow good crops.\” Children who are obsessed with video games mean that weeds have grown in their hearts and need to be removed. The best way to get rid of weeds is to plant crops in your heart. \”Crops\” can be travel, which can increase children\’s knowledge; it can also be hobbies: calligraphy, piano, guitar, dance… It can also be various sports: skating, swimming, football… choose what he likes according to his interests Stick to it for a long time and let your children feel fun. My child was addicted to mobile games in those days because I was busy with work and facing the computer every day, so I couldn\’t take care of him. Although I am with my child every day, it is not really effective companionship. I am busy with mine, and he plays with his. Under the same roof, yet like two completely unrelated people. My son likes to read books, especially comic books. In the past, I always used busyness as an excuse and rarely accompanied my child to buy books or read books. …I decided to make a change myself first – take time out and go to the library with my son. The child read one book after another, immersed in it, no less than playing a game. From then on, I often accompanied my son to the library, and borrowed a few books to read back every few days. It didn’t take long for “comic book addiction” to replace “game addiction”. During this period, my son also drew a few cartoons decently. Later, I participated in a small-scale art exhibition. Although I only won a small participation award, it made the child happy for several days. Seeing your work being viewed by so many children gives children a greater sense of accomplishment than any prize. Real-life achievements are gradually dispelling children\’s psychological dependence on mobile games. On weekends, I will arrange some things for him. For example, take your children to learn to cook together. He likes to eat Maoxuewang, spicy and spicy food. I will check out the required ingredients online with him first, and then make it together. My son gradually fell in love with cooking delicious food. Once, he even learned to make biscuits by following a gourmet book. On weekends, he would also invite his classmates to play at home and share the delicious food he made. …My son’s life gradually became rich and colorful. In order to avoid letting him fall into the situation of \”having nothing to do but have fun in the game\”. I also made an agreement with him: every week he can buy something he likes, including books, toys, potted plants, whatever he chooses. Slowly, the child stopped thinking about his game. Although I occasionally play for a while, I won’t be addicted to it anymore. Finally successfully got rid of my child’s “game addiction”! As long as you have more patience, more company, and more care for your child, you can help him get out of the world of mobile games.