alert! I can’t imagine the consequences of criticizing children at these 7 moments…

A few days ago, I saw a piece of news: a girl was criticized by her mother for trivial family matters, and she hid in the mountains and forests without saying anything. In the end, the police searched for 30 hours overnight to find the girl. Some people say: \”He ran away from home after just a few words of criticism. This child is too ignorant.\” Some people say: \”Mom must have criticized too much.\” In fact, if the child really does something wrong, there will be no criticism. Incorrect. However, criticism is not appropriate at all times. Remember not to criticize your children at these 7 times. In the morning, I was busy making breakfast in the kitchen. I heard my husband scolding my son: \”Can you be smarter? You are so lazy every morning!\” My son retorted: \”I know how to push!\” My husband raised his voice and shouted: \”Are you still reasonable?\” I quickly came out to stop my husband from continuing to lose his temper. Afterwards, my husband and I agreed not to criticize our children before eating. Medical research has proven that eating when people are depressed is not good for their health. In addition, if parents criticize their children too harshly, the children may cry sadly. If there is food in the mouth, the crying action may cause the food to be swallowed into the trachea, which can easily cause strong choking and coughing. Parents often criticize their children at the dinner table, which will make the children feel psychological pressure when they think about eating. Children who resist eating for a long time will definitely not want to get close to their parents. My best friend who doesn’t criticize the child before going to bed said that she severely criticized her son last night because he refused to go to bed no matter how hard he urged him. The child cried himself to sleep. As a result, the child woke up three times in the middle of the night crying in his sleep. My best friend said: \”I will never criticize my children before going to bed again.\” Freud pointed out that things and information that happen before going to bed are most likely to enter people\’s subconscious. Criticizing children before going to bed will easily make them depressed, especially children who have been scolded for crying. They will easily wake up after falling asleep, or continue to cry in their sleep, so the children cannot enter a deep sleep state. If parents often criticize their children before going to bed, the children will be resistant to sleep, which can easily cause sleep disorders, affect the child\’s physical development, and even cause the child to become mentally depressed. Don’t criticize your children in front of outsiders. Last year, Princess Kate’s sister got married. Prince George and Princess Charlotte were flower girls together. George was naughty and jumped to step on the bride’s wedding dress. Princess Kate did not reprimand George in public, but took George to a corner and criticized him seriously. When a child makes a mistake, parents can educate the child, but they should be careful not to criticize the child in front of outsiders. Yin Jianli said in \”A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher\”: We can criticize children, but we must choose an appropriate way to criticize, with the purpose of protecting children\’s self-esteem, building self-confidence, and cultivating their certain abilities. Parents should find a place where no one else is present, point out the child\’s mistakes and tell him what to do. The child will be more willing to accept criticism and the educational effect will be better. Don’t criticize your children when they are sick. Parents are most worried when their children are sick. A friend\’s 5-year-old son fell ill some time ago. She took care of her carefully every day, but the child not only did not appreciate it, but also made various unreasonable demands. For example, after a child wants to eat ice cream but is refused, he begins toThe child was crying, so his friend severely criticized the child. The child was crying so hard that he was out of breath and couldn\’t stop coughing. As a result, I was taken to the hospital for a checkup, and it was discovered that the bronchitis that was already on the verge of recovery turned into pneumonia. When a child is sick, he is prone to crying because he is not feeling well. Parents can hug the child, understand and comfort him, tell him the reason why his parents cannot agree to his unreasonable request, and promise to satisfy him appropriately when he is well. Remember to criticize harshly. Not to criticize the child after regretting it. Some time ago, in the variety show \”Incredible Mom\”, many people criticized He Jie for condoning Qibao\’s lies. In fact, what He Jie did was right. The program team arranged a safety test. He Jie asked Qibao not to open the door to strangers, but Qibao not only let the stranger in, but also had a pleasant conversation with the stranger. When He Jie asked Qibao, he subconsciously chose to lie because he realized that he was wrong. Later, under He Jie\’s guidance, Qibao admitted his mistake. It can be seen from Qibao\’s words and actions that he is already very ashamed of his lying behavior. If He Jie criticizes him harshly at this moment, it will make him emotionally collapse. Some people say that self-education is the most effective education, and self-reflection is the most powerful thinking. Although children are young, they also have the ability to self-reflect. When they feel ashamed and regretful, it is actually the best time for them to reflect. They will reflect on their mistakes and know that they cannot make them again. Parents should give their children more tolerance, as long as the children know they are wrong, and never criticize them harshly. This will make the children no longer feel guilty and even become more rebellious. Don\’t criticize your child when he is excited. It was Xuanxuan\’s birthday a few days ago. A friend specially held a small birthday party for him and invited more than a dozen children to eat cake together. Xuanxuan had a great time. While eating the cake, he was fooling around with his friend next to him. He accidentally wiped the cake on his face, so the two of them wiped the cake on each other. When the friend turned around to find out, there were already four or five children playing with the cake. The friend looked at Xuan Xuan\’s new clothes with spots on the cake, and pulled Xuan Xuan\’s ears and started scolding her on the spot. Xuanxuan, who had been in a state of excitement, looked at her mother in horror, unable to understand what was wrong with her. The children present were too stunned to stop playing. When a child is excited, the central nervous system of the brain is more active. Parents\’ criticism will instantly destroy the child\’s good mood and easily cause psychological harm. When a child makes a mistake in an excited state, you can gently stop his behavior first, and then explain his mistake clearly to the child after he calms down, so that the child has a buffer. Don’t criticize your child when he is sad. Two nights ago, the puppy I just brought back from my sister’s house was lost. Because her sister\’s daughter Guoguo took her downstairs, but she only focused on playing by herself. Guoguo lost her dog, felt sad and sad, and was afraid of being criticized by her mother, so she never dared to go home. As a result, Dad went downstairs to find Guoguo and asked why. Dad said: It doesn\’t matter, Dad knows you didn\’t mean it. Guoguo burst into tears. Her father led Guoguo around and around the community looking for her, and finally the puppy was found. At that moment, Guoguo was extremely happy. When a childWhen the child is sad, parents should no longer criticize the child, making it easier for the child to fall into sadness and be unable to extricate himself. Some people say that for every sad ending, there walks an originally happy child. When a child is in a sad mood, parents should empathize and accept the child\’s emotions. They should not rush to criticize the child. The most important thing is to appease the child\’s emotions. Parents\’ understanding will help their children get over their sadness more quickly. After a period of time, if they patiently analyze their mistakes with their children, it will be easier for their children to accept and correct their mistakes. Every parent loves their children, but there is a way for parents to give their children love. Smart parents know how to choose the right time to correct their children\’s mistakes.