9-year-old girl wears heavy makeup: Be wary of children addicted to live video broadcasts

In the past few days, Ms. Huang from Wuhan was shocked by her daughter. One day she came home from get off work early and found her 9-year-old daughter winking at her mobile phone and squirming around. She asked carefully and found out that her daughter was imitating a video. The daughter was wearing thick lipstick, holding up her orchid fingers, and followed the old male voice on the phone, making gestures like raising a glass to drink or making delicate salutes from time to time. Ms. Huang was shocked when she saw her daughter like this. My daughter is only nine years old. Although she usually loves beauty, she is not so exaggerated. That childish little face, paired with the twitching movements, looked so uncoordinated. Ms. Huang took her daughter\’s mobile phone and discovered that her daughter had posted dozens of videos in different styles. Some were even recorded in pajamas. The last few videos have become more and more image-conscious and began to wear heavy makeup. Coincidentally, Ms. Liu from Wuchang also discovered that her 10-year-old daughter became obsessed with online chatting through short videos on a certain platform and has joined more than 30 WeChat groups and QQ advertising groups. These groups come in all shapes and sizes, including red envelope groups, part-time job groups, typing groups, singing groups, etc. Many of the people in them are about the same age as my daughter. Ms. Liu looked through the chat records and found that some groups required payment of group fees when joining, and red envelopes were given out according to the rules after joining the group. Some task groups have to pay a deposit before completing the task. Fortunately, my daughter didn’t have that much change in her WeChat account, so she was forced to give up. In anger, Ms. Liu deleted all her daughter’s WeChat groups, but not long after, those groups came back. With the emergence of various video software, more and more children are becoming obsessed with these videos of just a few seconds. Like a man possessed, they hold their phones and refuse to put them down every day. All kinds of people in the video have become the targets of their imitation. But children around 10 years old are when their values ​​begin to form. If he is exposed to more of the bad side of the world at the beginning of his life, then his future journey may be more difficult. The Curiosity Research Institute once conducted a survey titled \”What do you think is the most confusing drug in the new era?\” It received a total of 10,383 responses from readers. The top three were: mobile phones, WiFi and Taobao. The answer is predictable. Even adults find it difficult to refuse these, let alone immature children. I once asked a child why he likes watching this kind of video so much? He said, because it\’s fun, otherwise \”it would be boring.\” Yes, it\’s fun, but just in this fun feeling, the good times slip away, and the human spirit is slowly corroded. A netizen on Zhihu said that his father used to be diligent and caring for his family, but after becoming obsessed with short videos on a certain platform, he seemed to be a different person. He was still playing at three in the morning, and his temper became increasingly irritable. The relationship between husband and wife is getting worse and worse, and netizens are worried that their father will become more and more poisoned. Brain scientists believe that human nerves have a very important mechanism, which is \”habituation.\” When there are more and more of the same stimuli, the nerves will no longer respond accordingly. This kind of habituation will make children accustomed to violence, horror, pornography and other scenes, and they will not be surprised. What\’s even more terrifying is the misleading and harm to children\’s outlook on life. When giving birth to a child out of wedlock becomes an honor, falling in love and getting pregnant early becomes a fashion, showing off your wealthVideos with no bottom line, such as pornography, abuse, etc. are flooding the eyes of children. How to ensure the future of children? So as parents, do we know what our children are playing with every day? Today\’s teenagers stay up late in their rooms using mobile phones and computers, and their parents have no idea, said sleep disorders expert Miritz Piretz. Today\’s children have entered the age of thumbs. It is neither realistic nor impossible to keep children away from electronic products completely. As parents, what we need to do is to pay more attention to our children, guide them appropriately, and make their spiritual life rich and colorful. Create an exclusive \”honey time\”. Children like these short videos because they can not only follow others, but also be followed. Most of the children who are addicted to the virtual world are because they receive too little attention in the real world. Psychologist Li Xue said that true companionship is physical and mental presence. If you really don’t have a lot of time to spend with your children, then a ten-minute conversation every day is also a good choice. Almost every night before going to bed, my son chats with me. He named this chat \”honey time\” between the two of us. We talked about history and geography, about the universe and the world, and about life and three views. Those principles that cannot be forcefully instilled were easily passed into my son\’s heart. Moreover, I also found that children\’s inner thoughts are far more powerful than adults imagine. It needs to be exciting. Now, he has countless questions to ask every day. Occasionally, he becomes so angry that he bursts into tears when he doesn\’t want to chat with him. When a child does not want to get close to us, as a parent, we must first reflect on whether we have never been close to the child. It should be noted that chatting should not be too deliberate and do not try to correct the child. Even if the child\’s dream is to become an Internet celebrity, there is nothing wrong with it. What parents need to do is to use positive figures in the field to guide him and tell him that the realization of any dream requires persistent efforts and persistence, as well as the accumulation of knowledge. Develop the right hobbies A few days ago, the most powerful flying flower in history made the talented girl He Liran famous. In the variety show \”Little Chinese Scholars\”, she \”flies out\” 127 lines of poetry from her mouth in 5 minutes against a hundred people, which is amazing. What impressed me the most was her state, smiling brightly and not nervous at all. As soon as the show came out, the little girl immediately gained countless fans. While other people\’s children were playing games on their mobile phones, this girl with single eyelids and small eyes was wandering in a sea of ​​books and couldn\’t extricate herself. She said that she particularly likes reading, especially historical books. She has read \”If This Is the History of the Song Dynasty\” six times. The books she has read are piled up in every corner of the house. Her class teacher said that she has also read all the books in the school library. Good interests and hobbies meet the spiritual needs of children. When a person can see better things, he will not be addicted to vulgar things. Self-discipline will benefit children for life. M. Scott Pike said in \”The Road Less Traveled\” that self-discipline is the main tool to solve life\’s problems and the most important way to eliminate the pain in life. Psychologists call a child\’s 3-6 years old the \”moist cement period\”, which means85% of a child’s personality, habits and lifestyle are formed during this period. At this time, the most important way for children to form a behavior is to imitate. Therefore, what kind of person parents want their children to become, they themselves must first become that person. Self-disciplined parents are the best role models for their children. My friend\’s daughter Mengmeng is just 8 years old and is already very good at managing herself. Throughout the summer vacation, Mengmeng\’s plans were very orderly, unlike other children who spent the whole day playing with their mobile phones. Every morning when Mengmeng gets up, she has to write down the tasks to be completed that day in her planner. Every time she completes a task, she puts a check mark behind the task. After all the tasks are completed, she can freely spend the rest of her time to watch cartoons. You can also play with your phone for a while. The friend does not need to worry because she believes that the child knows what is going on. Because she herself is a self-disciplined person, she works out, reads, and writes every day, and her life is extremely fulfilling. When her children see that their mother has their own plans every day, they gradually learn to do it. Taiwanese educator Hong Lan said that the best way to correct a behavior is to replace the original bad behavior with an acceptable behavior. Changing a behavior is ten times harder than establishing it, but it’s never too late to make amends. As parents, we have an unshirkable responsibility for the future of our children. We cannot change the general environment. What we can do is to enrich our children\’s hearts so that they can walk further and enjoy more beautiful scenery. Some people say that how you live your day is how you live your life. Dear child, I hope that no matter your day or your whole life, you will not be limited to a small mobile phone, but will climb high and look far into the distance, wandering in the infinite and vast world.