Entering school a year later may be the \”best gift\” for your children, especially boys.

School is about to start. Many mothers left messages asking if their children can go to kindergarten? Do we need to find a way for our children to enter primary school early? Of course, some parents will say, \”The state stipulates that you must be 6 years old or older to attend primary school. So there is no problem of early enrollment.\” However, many parents start calculating the time for their children to enter school before they are born. There is a data showing that more mothers have caesarean section in maternity hospitals at the end of August, because according to the regulations of the Ministry of Education, children must be 6 years old before they can go to elementary school. If caesarean section is performed a few days earlier, the child can go to school a year earlier. So we chat in normal times, if any child was born before September. People will say, \”It\’s great that I can go to elementary school earlier.\” It\’s like I\’ve found a treasure. And those born after September! Parents will say, \”There is no way, our family can only wait for one year.\” It seems that their children are lagging behind as soon as they are born. Xiao Xiaoyu is born in December, so he should be 6 and a half years old before he can enter first grade. Thinking about it, he must have been a little man by then. But I don’t have any regrets at all. Instead, I feel that this is God’s favor for him. In September this year, he was 5 and a half years old. I saw that he was not ready to go to elementary school, and he still yearned for his kindergarten class. But that was not the case with the son of my former colleague. Once his mother whispered that she had actually managed to ask an acquaintance to enroll her son in school, when he was just five and a half years old. I found it incomprehensible at the time, why is this happening? She said: \”If he goes to school one year earlier, he will graduate one year earlier in the future. Isn\’t it a step earlier than his peers?\” \”Besides, if his grades are not good, it doesn\’t matter if he repeats one year. There is a time advantage!\” We Chinese parents often have this kind of mentality. Everything has to be done first, just like occupying a seat. You must go first to get it. If you are late, you will lose it. Or like a 100-meter sprint race, if you react slowly when you start, you are bound to lose. But our life is not about occupying seats, because life is full of variables. Life is not a sprint, but more like a long-distance race with a long track. How useful is it to go to school a year earlier? Our society as a whole evaluates whether a child has reached school age by looking at the child\’s natural age, without considering the child\’s individual maturity. Let’s talk about kindergarten admission first, because the age of admission is generally decided by parents. Therefore, parents can decide whether it is one year earlier or one year later. When it comes to entering kindergarten, I advocate a later date. To be honest, when I went to kindergartens for research, I felt really distressed when I saw those two-year-old children in full day care classes. The young teachers also said that the children were really pitiful and they did not want to see the children separated from their parents at such a young age and in full care. And what about normal small classes? Generally, children are admitted when they are three years old, so some parents just send their children there when they reach that age, regardless of their condition. As a result, the child couldn\’t adapt at all. Frequently shitting your pants, getting sick repeatedly, being noisy and restless… If this is the case, it is better to take your child with you first and prepare for kindergarten. Wouldn\’t it be better to go later? I started school for Xiao Xiaoyu late. He didn’t enter kindergarten until he was almost five years old. When he was three or four years old. When we go out, we always meet some kind-hearted and enthusiastic unclesThe aunt greeted the little guy: \”Have you studied? Such a cute little guy\” \”No, I haven\’t read yet\” \”Ah! How old are you!\” \”I am four years old\” \”Why don\’t you go to kindergarten? Others All the kids are there!” Every time I ask about this place, I feel the atmosphere is a bit awkward. Later, I told my son, if anyone asks you, just say that you have not finished your classes at home and will go later. I didn\’t rush to send him to school mainly because of the child\’s readiness. Every child has his own timetable for growth. For example, the timing of teething, walking, and talking, these internal growth laws play a decisive role. Another thing that can affect the growth of children is the power of the family. For example, the formation of children\’s reading ability, the strength of their expression ability, the development of their character, etc. When you think about sending your child to school, remember to ask yourself, is your child ready? In any school, there are two kinds of children. A child whose parents work hard to do well will benefit from being able to express and cope with a variety of feelings. There is also a kind of child that has been neglected by parents for a long time, and they can\’t wait to send the child to the teacher for discipline. As a result, this kind of child often runs into obstacles in school and cannot integrate into the new environment. Helping children prepare for school is the best gift parents can give their children. Sometimes, there\’s no harm in letting go of the anxiety and waiting a year. There are many benefits to starting school a year later, especially for boys. Regardless of whether they enter kindergarten or transition from primary school, girls always mature faster than boys. Psychological research has found that girls develop faster than boys before the age of 16. If boys are not aware of this, especially if their parents always urge them, the result will only be that boys lose their psychological balance, and there will be conflicts between them and girls. Entering into a pointless competition. We will find that many boys are not as good as girls in language skills. Entering school early is more likely to cause them to be unable to understand the teacher\’s lectures and unable to sit still in class. Many mothers face such troubles. The child has just entered the first grade and cannot sit still in class or persist in listening for long. He is often criticized by teachers and sometimes gets into fights with classmates. Parents themselves are often called in for talks by teachers. If the child cannot keep up with the learning progress. At the beginning, there will be psychological pressure and resistance to going to school. He even ended up avoiding his teacher and skipping classes. This is a vicious cycle. Once a child feels that he is not as good as other classmates at first, he will find it difficult to make a difference in his studies. Children may always feel inferior to others, and this feeling of inferiority will affect the child throughout his life. Our focus should not be the age at which children enter school, nor the choice of school. It’s about what kind of love and family education we give our children at the age of 0-6. When my son was 3 years old, my family urged me to send him to kindergarten. At that time, I just planned to take care of the children by myself. After taking care of him myself, I discovered that his emotional expression and sense of rules were basically nonexistent. My self-care ability is also average, and I will only become a small burden to the teacher in school. I decided to send him to school later and prepare the child at home. Only when parents have enough company with their children can they capture their children\’s little thoughts. It can also grasp children\’s psychological development and emotional changes. childWhen is the best time for a child to enroll? Of course, when the children and parents are ready. Before sending your children to school, please make these preparations: Awaken your children\’s pursuit of excellence, cultivate their interest in learning, and develop their learning abilities. We will find that under any circumstances, we have a strong urge to express ourselves, and children and It\’s the same for adults. As children grow up, they are always looking for their own strengths and gaining recognition from their parents and people around them. For example, a child learns to whistle, or builds a super awesome building block house, or thinks of a good story. Every normal child will strive to gain recognition and pursue excellence. Parents must find ways to awaken and maintain this mentality in their children. If you know your child well enough, you will definitely be able to spot the shining points in him. Then parents can make full use of this shining point to help their children gain confidence and maintain interest. For example, Xiao Xiaoyu especially likes reading. Then I have been finding him various books that he likes since he was very young. Then stick to parent-child reading. As soon as he saw a book, as long as there were pictures, he would pick it up and read it. And I can share the knowledge I have gained with you. You can feel the confidence and generosity in it. That\’s great. When playing outside, or encounter a heavy rain. I would ask him how he felt and then let him read it out. For example, he wrote a song called \”Spring Green\”, which says: \”The grass is very green. Spring has come and the grass has grown up, but it is bare in winter.\” In the form of poetry, just a few sentences are enough. ! Finally, I will record it for him and tell his mother. We affirmed his work and gave him the confidence to create. And I will guide him to learn English and mathematics. The general method is also the same. Parents should actively give recognition and cultivate their children\’s strong interest in learning. And help him develop his own interests and gain a good learning experience. Then develop this behavior into a habit. In this way, children will have a positive and confident attitude towards learning, and will also accumulate enough knowledge. Easily cope with the learning tasks after admission. Exercise your child\’s self-care ability and let him learn to be independent. When children enter a new environment, they have to do many things by themselves. Whenever you need help with anything, you have to ask your parents or teachers for help. He will become timid. Especially when you go to school, a teacher has to manage so many students and will definitely not be able to respond in time. He will wonder if he is terrible, does the teacher not like me? Seeing that his peers can do well but he cannot do well, he will feel inferior. Or become irritable, lose control of their emotions, and make noise with their peers. When you are at home, you must let your children do what they can do. Never substitute everything. Let your child enjoy everything ready-made, it will only harm him. Many children develop self-awareness early on, such as when they are two or three years old. They will ask themselves to do some things, such as putting on their own shoes and eating by themselves. Of course they will make things worse, but after all their egos have already sprouted. But the parents didn\’t realize it. They only saw the damaged side, the \”incompetent\” side of their children. So I chose to do it myself and kept doing it. worst parentsIt is endless, until the child reaches adulthood, and it is still done for the child. The last step is to cultivate children’s ability to resist frustration. Especially children who have only one child at home and are usually doted on by their elders must be prepared for this. Because in school, teachers do not surround children like elders. Schools cannot ensure that these children are pampered as they are at home. The psychological gap among children is huge. At the same time, if you find that your child is too competitive, you should also carefully help your child adjust his expectations. Because excessive ambition can also destroy children\’s confidence. Enrollment is the most direct and rigorous test for children and families. When a child enters school, it means being in a completely new environment. If the child is sufficiently prepared to cope with this new environment. Only then did he have the confidence to deal with the problems he encountered. Only then can he truly fall in love with this new environment and the new people and things he encounters. Enroll one year later, or in no rush to enroll early. There will be enough time to prepare, which can be said to be the \”best gift\” to the child. Sometimes, a year means a year of aging for us. But for children, height, mental development, and learning ability are worlds apart. Life is so long, why be too anxious? Written at the back: I have always wanted to share this topic with you again. Because many mothers enter school a year later because of this sentence, they will make completely different decisions. It will definitely have an impact on the child\’s entire life. So when talking about this topic, you must be calm and objective. Fish dad still wants to remind you that you must make a judgment based on the actual situation of your child. This article is for reference only, thank you.