Girl was molested but didn’t know why: Parents, do you still want to avoid children’s sex education?

Recently, an incident occurred in Zhuzhou, Hunan, where a girl was suspected of being molested by a kindergarten security guard. In a community in Zhuzhou, Hunan, two girls, one 9 and 5 years old, disappeared from home in the middle of the night. Their parents searched everywhere to no avail, and finally found them in the security room of the community\’s kindergarten! After some patient questioning, the 9-year-old daughter finally dared to speak out. The girl said that she was \”touched on the chest and lower body by the security guard\”, \”kissed\”, and \”if she didn\’t go, she would be beaten.\” The girl\’s parents immediately called the police. Another child molestation incident! Not long ago, a sexual assault of a girl occurred at a construction site in Hangzhou. A single father in Hangzhou, because he missed his daughter so much, took his two daughters to the construction site to spend the summer vacation with him. What the father didn\’t expect was that his longing actually harmed his child. While the father was away on business, a male coworker took the opportunity to sneak into the girl\’s room, coaxed his sister to stay in the room to watch, and then put her on the bed and assaulted her. Afterwards, the villain gave his sister 10 yuan and told her that it was a secret and she could not tell it. Why do these heinous sexual predators always target children? Because it is easy to succeed but not easy to be discovered, because some children still don’t know what happened to them from beginning to end. Why is this happening? The reason is that parents do not provide sex education to their children since childhood! If you don’t understand it at all, how can you protect yourself? How important is sex education? As a first-time mother, whenever I hold a milky-smelling baby in my hands, I always secretly swear in my heart that I must take good care of the baby and let him grow up healthy and happy. Every day, I pay special attention to all information about my child, ranging from the baby\’s future education, which school to attend, and how to teach him; to the smallest details, how much milk the baby drank today, and whether the color of his poop is abnormal. It is said that motherhood brings strength. Since having a baby, I have been even more motivated to work hard because I thought that as long as my dad and I work hard to make money, we can keep our baby healthy and happy if we have enough money. However, the recent news makes me, a mother, unable to calm down for a long time. First there were ineffective vaccines, and now there are frequent \”child sexual assaults.\” After understanding, there are four groups of numbers, which are enough to shock us. The youngest victim of domestic sexual assault was a 6-month-old girl. A survey released by UNICEF in November 2017 showed that more than 90% of child sexual abuse cases are committed by acquaintances. In 2017, 378 cases of child sexual abuse were publicly reported by the media. However, the hidden rate of child sexual abuse cases was 1:7, which means that on average, at least 7 children are sexually abused every day. In 2005, a survey by the Guangdong Provincial Center for Disease Control and Prevention showed that 2% of boys would experience sexual assault. Numbers are cold, but the reality hidden behind the numbers is terrifying. Sexual predators may be around, and children of both genders, big or small, face the threat of sexual assault. If a child does not understand correct sexual knowledge, he or she will be unable to judge whether he or she has been harmed. At the two sessions in 2018, Liu Li, a representative of the National People\’s Congress and founder of the Xiamen Lixing Charity Association, said: Regarding the issue of child sexual abuse, preventive education is better than making up for it after the fact.save. Parents\’ education of their children is very important, and we must provide sex education to our children from an early age. Parents are the best moat and the strongest wall to protect the safety of their children. Sex education is not a scourge. In our country, sex education has always been an issue that many parents find very troublesome and even consider it unmentionable. Many parents always rely on school education for their children\’s sex education. Even celebrities who are bright and avant-garde in our eyes will be like this. Actor Lu Yi puts his hope in school education for children’s sex education. Not long after Lu Yi\’s daughter was born, Lu Yi, as the \”AIDS Prevention Ambassador\”, went to university campuses to do charity activities and distribute condoms. The reporter took the opportunity to ask Lu Yi, \”Will you provide sex education to your children in the future?\” Hearing this question, Lu Yi was surprised at first, and then he responded shyly: \”It\’s too early to talk about sex education now. If that time comes, I believe the school will It will teach the children.\” It is a very wrong concept to rely on school education for children\’s sex education. If parents cannot impart sex education to their children openly, how can they expect one or two basic physiological knowledge lessons from school teachers? In the Netherlands, children begin to receive sex education from the age of 5. The Dutch public health department will tailor sex education materials for children to teach them some necessary basic knowledge. For example, who are you, what is the difference between boys and girls, how to make friends, how to interact with others, etc. An official survey in the Netherlands shows that guiding children with correct sexual knowledge will not lead to sexual abuse among teenagers, but will delay the age at which they have sexual intercourse and reduce their chances of contracting infectious diseases. Sex education should not be regarded as a scourge, but as popular science knowledge that should be vigorously promoted. Sex education starts with answering the question seriously, \”Mom, where do I come from?\” I believe many parents have been asked this question by their children. In the past two days, my best friend Nana has been asked this question by her 4-year-old son Tongtong. When she heard her son curiously ask this question, Nana, who has always advocated scientific parenting, was ready to answer her son seriously. Unexpectedly, my best friend\’s cheating husband looked like he was trying to amuse his children, and he said casually: \”Of course you picked it up.\” This was such an outrageous statement that Tongtong was silent for a moment, and then suddenly burst out loud. She cried loudly and shouted: \”You are not my parents.\” Nana was so angry that she glared at her husband, hurriedly took her crying son into her arms, and while coaxing her, she pulled up her clothes, revealing The centipede scar left by the caesarean section that year. My best friend pointed to this scar and told the child that when the doctor cut open my mother\’s belly with a knife and took you out, you were my mother\’s biological child. Such an answer made Tongtong slowly calm down, and he touched his best friend\’s scar and asked her thoughtfully if it hurt. In China, \”sex\” has always been an unmentionable issue. When 99% of parents encounter this issue, they either avoid answering, \”You will know this when you grow up\”; or they coax their children, \”I picked you up from the trash can\” is not honest at all. This kind of avoidance or coaxing will only make children lose their due sense of belonging to their parents., because \”picked-up children\” always worry that they will be abandoned by their parents one day, which will cause uneasy emotions and leave a psychological shadow on the children. \”Where do I come from?\” This question is actually the first question for children\’s sexual enlightenment. Smart parents should seize this opportunity to provide sexual education and enlightenment to their children. In fact, for children, they ask this question just out of curiosity and have no embarrassing thoughts. Harvard psychologist Jerome Kagan once advised parents to be calm and calm when talking to their children, rather than worry or evasive words. He said: Children tend to get information from their parents\’ tone of voice, not the words. Parents can answer this question based on their children\’s actual age and cognitive level, or they can refer to the story \”Serena Williams Goes Forward\” to make it easier for children to understand and accept. The three-step method of sex education protection is not the crime of sex education, but sexual assault. As parents, we have the obligation and responsibility to protect our children, and we have an even greater obligation and responsibility to teach our children to protect themselves. Teach children about their sexual organs. In the eyes of children, human sexual organs are the same as human eyes and ears. Therefore, parents do not need to feel embarrassed or burdened when educating their children about sexual organs. You can buy some picture books about the human body online, mark the private parts of boys and girls, and tell the children that except for parents who can touch the marked places when they help bathe, no one can touch them unless they get permission from their parents. agree. Teach your children how to say \”no\”. If someone tries to touch your child\’s private parts and makes your child feel uncomfortable, educate your child to say \”no\” boldly. You can directly say \”please don\’t touch me.\” I once saw a very practical sentence in a speech about child sexual abuse. When someone tries to sexually assault, you can educate your children and say: \”I am still a child, do you want to go to jail?\” Educate your children, no matter what they encounter In any case, seek help from your parents. Tell your children that their parents are the people who love them the most in the world. No matter if others say, \”This is a secret and cannot be told,\” or they threaten or intimidate, \”I will be beaten if I tell them when I go home,\” etc., they must bravely explain the situation to their parents. . Life is not only about toys and lollipops, but also about abduction and sexual assault. Only by letting children understand that life has both positive and negative aspects can we keep children alert in the face of danger. As parents, we must not only protect our children, but also teach our children to protect themselves. This is the deeper love we can give our children.